Hello all! So i would like everyones answers on what really ANNOYS you or drove you nuts during or after your had your baby?? Im on my first and so far i get really bothered by the In-laws being so "in my face" or telling me they are staying with me after i have the baby (which is my moms job) Or them telling me i wont ever make it with out an epidural....
What are some of yours and how did you deal with them?
2006-12-18 08:33:33 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
you know, when and if i get pregnant, i ain't telling anyone lol. my family is very "if you don't do it my way then your WRONG' .. kinda. and my bf's well i dont know but i could see his mom trying to tell me how to do everything. i dont want to hear no crap you know so i wouldn't say much till it was close, and maybe limit your time with them.. i don't know what to to if they are determined to come over and stay but, maybe move to a smaller house lol. i bet after a month or so, they might back off. good luck to you
2006-12-18 08:37:12 · answer #1 · answered by smokingstonersweetheart 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People are relentless and irritating. When I was pregnant, I used to hate random people coming up and putting their hands on my belly. As if its acceptable to touch me, a complete stranger, because I appear to be pregnant. Then there was the whole thing of family. Everyone has an opinion. Everyone has different limits. I am sure you have an opinion of what you want, need, and expect after the birth of your child. Trust me, if you think you can handle child birth without an epidural, you can! I personally, knew I couldn't and chose to have one so I could smile like all was wonderful in the world. But I'm a wuss, and I knew my limits and what I wanted/didn't want to put up with. If you don't want your in-laws coming in and taking over, and you want to spend those first few precious days with your child taking it as it comes...I'd tell them to let you call them when and if you need them. Be mean. You can always blame your hormones.
2006-12-18 16:38:51 · answer #2 · answered by Destiny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel ya! The same kind of things happened when I had my baby (4 months ago). I think that since her daughter had babies first, she felt like she needed to be just involved in this one. I had to remind her that she is NOT the Mama sometimes. She still calls my daughter, who I SPENT 20 HOURS OF LABOR...HERS!!! I have learned to tune it out because I wouldn't want my child to suffer over the differences between her grandmother and me. I do have to remind her that she is not raising the child, I am and I will do as I see fit. Sometimes it is a hard conversation, but you will probably eventually have to go there. Once you have that little baby in your arms you will feel perfectly right in telling her to go fly a kite....BTW...I had the epidural.
2006-12-18 16:40:14 · answer #3 · answered by klm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the epidural, choice of name, wha to do and not to do...uhm.... you name it... ,my favorite saying was "did i ask you? then dont tell me" as for the inlaws...tell them that you already have someone staying wiht you but if thy would like to drop in a week or so afer you ahve the baby and come home after the hosptial that would be fine. Also make the fther take part in making them leave you alone. hell ahve to be polite and firm. beleive me, there are going to be hurt feelings, but whe you have just had a baby, you dont want peope around annoying you becaus youre going ot hurt their feellings if you get more that enough of them. i did it. i stopped caring about what everyone else wanted and thought i should do., This is YOUR LIFe...not thiers.
2006-12-18 16:40:00 · answer #4 · answered by psychoticangel_kitty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what drove me nuts was just the anticipation of the baby coming. i was nervous, but excited and scared all at once. i loved the feeling of being pregnant. and i was excited to have it. but i was scared of the complications that could arise, and nervous and scared of the birth too. but i agree it drives me crazy when people were in my face about those kinds of things too
2006-12-18 16:36:38 · answer #5 · answered by myluvis4mac 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi. I am on my 3rd pregnancy and some of the comment that have upseted me are:
my mother in law when she found out we were pg again said o good maybe you can give it to your sister in law so she can have a baby.
my sister in law said to me are you going to dress better this time around and not like a slob in sweats and leggings
a lady i really didn't know commented on me have you eaten to many hamburgers and fries.
2006-12-18 16:38:34 · answer #6 · answered by shorty23_94536 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my god, i thought it was only me. My mother in law cant wait for us to have our baby, due next year. I am sure she will be there EVERY step of the way telling me whats best for the baby.
I am with you on the one, not fun at all!!!!
2006-12-18 16:36:50 · answer #7 · answered by bored4bored 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my boss seems to really get on my nerves lately, and its nothing new he just peeves me ALOT!
also I hate when people stare at my belly- im not showing yet and this woman today had like a 20 second stare!@
im only at 19 weeks, !
2006-12-18 16:39:54 · answer #8 · answered by crystald 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know what u mean there...i would of died without my epidural...it was great!!
2006-12-18 16:52:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋