I posted a ? before but after much of my mate painting me as a villain I want to be objective so I'm taking a poll.
Would you date a 33 year old guy who
1)smokes pot every day
2) has been declined jobs because he can't pass the test
3) will be left by his wife because of that habit along with other issues
4) only wants to have sex with you--will never marry again and doesn't want kids (too much work)
5) favorite tv shows are Futurama, Simpson, and MythBusters
6) Addicted to XXX movies (what is up with that? Do men do that cuz they're not attracted to their women?)
I'm at the end of my rope. I work 40 hours a week and come home and the dishes are dirty, house a mess, and he asks me what's for dinner. I'm tired! Tired is an understatement. I thought my weight was an issue so everyday after work, cooking dinner and cleaning up, I work out for an hour. I don't want to make him feel worse since he's down and out over not working but I can't take it!
2006-12-18 08:31:23 · 37 answers · asked by javagirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no I wouldn't be with a man like that, and I would suggest that you leave him as well! You deserve so much better than that! Tell him to get lost and move on to bigger and better! good luck!
2006-12-18 08:36:40 · answer #1 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being wayyyyyyyy too nice sweet heart. You need to get mad at the fact he is a looser and waisting your time, and then you need to send him packing. Life is way to short for all that mess you described. I'm 30 have a carrier (not just a job), I don't smoke pot, have never been left by a woman do to issues, wont just use a woman for what I want and not take care of her needs and wants as well, don't watch a lot of TV and have no addiction to XXX. Oh I cook and clean also.....so stop thinking their are no other choices out there for you and get rid of him. He doesn't need your help, he needs a good kick in the *** to get him moving in life. I think you will be a lot happier with out him. Good Luck!
2006-12-18 08:47:55 · answer #2 · answered by SOLO KING 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let's put it this way.........
You have a guy that is a pot head.
Because he is a pot head no one will hire him so unlikely he will have a job any time soon. But why should he....he has you.
He is married to a woman who has had all she can take of him.
He not only will not help around the house he wonders why you haven't got dinner on the table 10 min. after your home.
He states clearly that you are for sex only.
Oh yea how can you resist? What a guy huh?
Bet the girls are flocking to him right?
Your poll is for women but I just have to ask. What are you thinking. If I were him even I would tell you to get out now.
2006-12-18 08:56:51 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If i were you, i would leave him. He's on drugs! no wonder he can't find a job & help you around the house. A man on drugs can't think straight. If i were you, i'd rather be alone & lonely than be stressed out the way you are. You seem to be a strong woman who has put up with his BS, but don't you think you've put up with it too long? girl, enough is enough.
If you really, really love him & don't want to leave him, than give him an ultimatum & suggest he go to rehab to quit with the drugs. Tell him that he if he really loves you the way you love him, then he will do whatever it takes to change & make things better. Otherwise, he's got to go. No and's or but's anymore, tell him no more excuses! if you keep forgiving him, nothing will change between the 2 of you, expect for things to get worse since your already fed up right? Remember that a man can't do these bad things to you unless you let him. Time to step up to your level.
2006-12-18 08:43:23 · answer #4 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG what a loser!!! do you have such a low self esteem that your settling with him???? dont you love urself enough to say "i do desire the best and i do deserve to treated like queen" dump him..what do u see in him..and dont say "he's a good guy" BS that not an answer...look from my own experience dump him . hes doesnt have any goals in life and especially at the age of 33 comon...im 32 married for 10 yrs. my man is a great dad and loving husband that takes care of me....WE have future goals ..we ahve met some so far but want more for our kids..we have our own 4 bdrm home on a1/2 acre..we have 1 suv and 1 truck and 1 harley...goals goals goals...and when were done with both of our educations having both of us with bachlor degrees we'll be well off and comfortable.....dont you want better...YES i think you do...there is aman out there waiting to treat you the way you should be treated....and hey kids are not to much work thet are a blessing.....good luck and God bless your life and future decisions
2006-12-18 08:44:06 · answer #5 · answered by truthgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remove this leech off your body now!! He is sucking you dry for all you have. Don't feel sorry for him. he created his own problems before he even met you and it's his fault for not fixing or changing anything to make his life better. He is not going to change. he didn't do it for his wife, for himself and certainly not for you. You are being an enabler right now. You are allowing him to continue to be this way for putting with it. There are plenty more men in the sea that you can pick from no matter of weight, looks, whatever. Plenty of good guys who can maintain a job, want kids, don't do drugs, and are willing to get married. Please do yourself a favor and give yourself the best Christmas gift and get rid of him now. Start the new year fresh. I wish you luck!!
2006-12-18 08:46:41 · answer #6 · answered by benjiandremy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're the one married to him. Read this back to yourself and you will answer your own question.
You must have low self-esteem to stick to a guy like this for this long. Clearly his interests lie in having fun, not being a family man. Run before you waste more of your life.
It seems that your fear is that he'll find someone else. Maybe someone better that you think he'll change for?? Highly unlikely.
I can't speak for anyone else but I sure wouldn't pick someone that's in their 30's and still acting this immature, no matter how attractive or fun they seem.
2006-12-18 08:46:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) No.
2) No.
3) No.
4) No.
5) Yes.
6) No.
Sounds like you deserve better. Why should he bother growing up when he's got you around to play mommy for him?
Boot him out and find someone who's actually mature enough to be a partner in an adult relationship.
2006-12-18 09:03:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no future with a guy like that. Cut ties now and move on. He will never be more than what he is. He has told you he doesn't want to marry you. Why are you wasting your time? There are alot of good guys out there. So, I would most definitely not date a man like that.
2006-12-18 08:38:40 · answer #9 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any self respecting women would not date a guy who has so little self respect or so little respect for her. Also, tell him to get his big boy underwear on and make his own dinner. This does not sound like a productive relationship with a man who truly cares for you. I think you should get out of it now.
2006-12-18 08:57:54 · answer #10 · answered by mommyof2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋