I want my significant other to think im still pretty. Im currently almost 8 months pregnant i dont feel very pretty. The other day we got in a tiny arguement and his main point "You dont dress up for me anymore" That was his main problem with his ex. I dont want our relationship to go down that road. What can i do to explain to him that i dont feel pretty? What can i do to make myself pretty for him?
2006-12-18 08:19:46 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He sounds like a real winner. If his hang ups are that you don't dress up, go spend about a grand of HIS money on a new outfit that you wont be able to wear again unless you are pregnant. See how pretty he thinks you are then!
2006-12-18 08:22:49 · answer #1 · answered by lee911 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, it's kind of hard to feel "pretty" if you're carrying a whole another human being inside you. However, pregnancy doesn't last forever, and if appearance is THIS important to him, you will have to make an extra effort to get back into shape once you have a baby. Eating sensibly and exercising goes a long ways. If it's important to him that you "dress up" - then do so. Dress nicely when you two go out, or for a "romantic evening" at home. Yes, it gets more difficult to expand time and effort on such things as you get busy with the kids.... But it's just one fo these things that you have to put on the top of your list if you know it's important for him.
My husband kinda doesn't even notice if I "dress up" or not; I like it this way, cuz I'm a very causal dresser. I don't have to do anything specific for him to think I'm "pretty", I get the feeling he appreciates me for who I am.
2006-12-18 08:52:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could be more busy....try to make him ponder or miss you....For example: pick up a hobby, go to the mall, spend time with friends, have a Make-over, Haircut, SPA or maybe doing something for the baby ( baby class, Knitting & Craft classes etc etc..)
While u r busy, try not to pick up or talk to your husband too much...maybe once or twice the most in a day....
When you come home he will realise that he miss you and he was going crazy!...and "you" have to be very calm..just say sorry, maybe come up with a reason like: i left the phone inside the car or home...or maybe lost your phone, but finally found it....etc etc...
Personally in my opinion, you shouldn't tell him that u feel the same way as what he had said to you (you are looking sloppy bla bla bla)
You should be confident, believe in yourself and take good care of the baby...if you dont feel like wearing skimpy skirts, that's OK too!
I just want you to prioritise yourself, if you do that...that means the baby is happy and you probably will have easier delivery.
I believe pregnancy is not always about looking pretty, what to wear or what color of lipstick should i put on ....you are carrying a baby for GOD SAKE!
You know it's hard being pregnant...so your husband should stop "bringing you down"
I hope that helps
2006-12-18 08:43:26 · answer #3 · answered by deliah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Dear, do you not know that when a woman is with child, that is beautiful. She must not let her self go and forget that while she may feel to big or not pretty is because that wonderful little life has to have some space too, it takes it. Be happy, dress up in your expecting Mom clothes, if you use to wear make up, put some on. Fix the hair. Remember pretty is as pretty does. He must have thought you were pretty before or he would not insist on seeing that pretty girl taking care of self again. It is very easy, just do it, you will see a difference yourself.
2006-12-18 09:51:37 · answer #4 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good lord, if my man told me that when i was big pregnant, i would have punched him in the face. you have much more important things to worry about right now than looking pretty for him, and he's just going to have to accept that. what he should be focusing on is the fact that you're about to bring a baby into the world, not how much you "dress up" for him. if his biggest problem is that he feels his woman doesn't meet his expectations, then he's a shallow loser who's in desperate need of a wake up call. becomming a mother is the most beautiful thing a woman can ever do, don't let that asshole bring you down.
2006-12-18 08:30:35 · answer #5 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was pregnant... I made sure I made myself look pretty everyday, cause I was pregnant....and big lol. but my husband always though i was beautiful... no matter what I looked/ look like. You just need to talk with him about it. And tell him straight out. Communication is so important in a relationship.
P.S- In my opinion, dressing up or not shouldn't have an effect on the relationship :-) Cheer up!
2006-12-18 08:45:08 · answer #6 · answered by It's a secret... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing, right now he sounds shallow to me, but i don't know everything. I guess you can try dressing up for him anyway, and even though you don't feel pretty, I'm sure you still are. pregnancy doesn't make people ugly, and anyone who says differently to you doesn't understand. There are always the little facts that people who are pregnant tend to get fuller, lustrous hair and clearer and practically glowing skin. But even without that, you're probably beautiful no matter what, and i' sure your husband should think so. Yes, talk to him about how you feel, but don't ever let yourself be pulled down.
2006-12-18 08:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by Konami 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How you feel about yourself can greatly change the way you appear toward others. You could dress up like you're going ballroom dancing, but if you feel you are ugly or gross, others may see the same. It's kind of the same when someone looks great but their personality stinks. They then appear unattractive.
You need to change the way you view yourself, and that's tough. Faking it can help. It's hard to smile and not start to feel happy.
Does your "significant other" compliment you? If not, you need to explain to him the important part that he needs to play. The more he compliments you, the more attractive you will feel, and the prettier you will look.
People often describe women as "glowing". I guarantee it's not because the woman is beautiful. It's because of the way she feels.
2006-12-18 08:29:07 · answer #8 · answered by furiousfoe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should point out that while you're carrying yours and his child you may point out that "yes, your body has changed but it's not a permanent change". While I was pregnant and gave birth to mine and mine hubbie's daughter I gained about 60 lbs...I went as high as 200 lbs. I felt horrible esp once when I saw him staring at other women. I then decided "hey, I'm gonna get myself back where I was once, you know "the way I looked when he fell for me". And after a year and alot of sacrifices and thanks to weight watchers, lol...i did it. I lost about 70 lbs......and let me tell you the best feeling in the world is when other men look at you in front of your man. He'll appreciate it and the attention you receive will drive him crazy.....and to me that was his punishment for the way he made me feel back when I was vulnerable. But you have to set your mind to getting to that point or you wont be successful....most importantly do it for yourself not for him. There are plenty of where he came from......you just need to have that confidence. Good luck and don't let anyone belittle you or make you feel ugly. There's nothing more beautiful than a pregnant woman's glow......sad that he can't see it. And don't stress over it....it's not healthy for you and especially for your unborn baby. Your children should always come first ahead of any selfish man. GOOD LUCK and you ARE beautiful.
2006-12-18 08:38:33 · answer #9 · answered by Mellie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well just explanie to him that at this time u currtly have a human being living inside of u and its kinda hard to wear anything besides sweatpants but if u want u could always go somewear like khols and see if they have maternity clothes and by maybe a nice dress or something just so he can't say your not dressing up for him and if u mean like lingera i don't think they make that for weamon who are 8 mths preg.
2006-12-18 08:25:58 · answer #10 · answered by CarolCupcakkee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing more unattractive then a pregant woman that let's herself go and dresses like a slob...pregnancy is a wonderful and beautiful thing...the two of you have made a life and you will soon be bringing a child into this world....it is a miraculous event....so, stop focusing on all the stuff about it you don't like and think about the end result....fix your hair, don't forget your lipstick...go out and buy some new clothes and take care with your appearance...if you do that, you will feel better about yourself...good luck
2006-12-18 08:24:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋