My Furture Inlaws have all means made my life and the life of my family a nightmare. They come to visit once every 3-4 months and stay for an hour at most. I am not really sure of the reason for this since they only live 30 minutes away and are by NO WAY unable to come visit. They have caused tons of problems regarding my Fiance's exwife and their two daughters. They have even thrown past girlfriends in our face. They Lie and talk bad abou the absent parents to the children and just LOVE to play games and start trouble. THis past weekend they INSISTED we attend the "family Christmas" knowing my fiance's ex wife and their girls would be there. This would have been a disaster if we attended due to a court order stating that at the moment my fiance is to have no contact with his exwife and his daughters. I am finished playing their games. My Fiance says that it isnt right to keep our son away from his parents. I dont understand this because they are not in our sons life BY CHOICE.
2006-12-18 08:18:18 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My Fiance thinks that they will take us to court and get visitation......How is this possible when they obviously dont want a relationship with my son.
2006-12-18 08:19:25 · update #1
We are in NY
2006-12-18 08:23:43 · update #2
NO IT IS NOT A RESTRAINING ORDER...... He stopped visitation for some reasons that were in the best intrest of his children....key word HE STOPPED.
2006-12-18 08:44:03 · update #3
Don't worry they won't take you to court because of what they are doing, you can use it against them in court. JUst document everything and anything bad they do to you'll and visiting them is your choice not theirs. SO don't fret enjoy your life without them if that's how want it.
2006-12-18 08:28:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what state you live in. If you are truely concerned that they might try to go for court ordered visitation I would check with your local court to see if this is even possible.
On the other hand, if their actions are what you say they are I find it hard to imagine any judge allotting them rights. You never know what judge you will get though. At the same time getting court ordered visitation is just as, if not more, expensive than getting parental visitation. If these people are not taking the time to visit the children on a regular basis I hardly find it reasonable that they would take the time to go through the lengthy process of getting a court order.
Family conflict is rediculous and typically founded in irrational thoughts. Take the lead in this situation and offer to attend counceling with them. Let them know where you stand on their actions. If you take a proactive stance you will, at the very least, be C-ingYA if they actually did try to take this to court.
ALSO- I remember hearing somewhere that grandparent rights are only something that can be ordered if you and the father of your child were estranged. For instance, if you and your fiance broke up and his parents wanted to see the child. Otherwise, I believe these rights are not applicable.
2006-12-18 08:27:24 · answer #2 · answered by CriticalThinkX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are they "entitled"? Well, by their past behaviour, certainly not. But I have a feeling that a court would give them visitation should they seek it. Courts don't want a laundry list of "he said/she said" type stuff. All they want to know is: Will the child be in any danger while visiting the grandparents? Will visiting the grandparents cause emotional harm to the child? If the answer is no, they would probably get visitation. Try your best not to let it go to the courts though. It will just escalate the situation, which would be bad for the kids for sure.
2006-12-18 11:26:42 · answer #3 · answered by MelB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i do believe that they can try to take you to court for visitation and they might even get a court date set but that doesn't mean that a judge is going to grant them visitation. just keep a written record of everything that has made you believe that they can or will be a bad influence on your son. i do know that in some states grandparents do have as much a right as parents do. you can always check out the local laws. good luck to you.
2006-12-18 08:24:21 · answer #4 · answered by maggie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So....your husband has a restraining order against him (in regards to his ex and his other children)???
They may have a right to go to court to see their grandson but the court will decide which will be the healthiest contact for the child.
2006-12-18 08:40:33 · answer #5 · answered by City 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Every state is different. In my state grandparents don't have any rights. You need to seek out information from your state and see if they do.
2006-12-18 08:32:46 · answer #6 · answered by autumn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't mention what state you lived in. I am in GA and they got rid of Grandparent Rights many years ago. It varies according the state.
2006-12-18 08:22:42 · answer #7 · answered by LYNN W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they have never truly been involved in your sons life, then they have no rights. Any judge will deny their claim.
2006-12-18 08:20:54 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yOU NEED TO BE THE BETTER PERSON . YOUR SON SHOULD BE ENVOLVED IN THEIR LIVES. tHEY CAN TAKE YOU TO COURT IF THEY WANTED OO. bUT YOU BEING THE PARENT SHOULD SET AN EXMPLE AND LET THE GRANDPARENTS IN YOU R SONS LIFE.
2006-12-18 08:22:19 · answer #9 · answered by tata_maw 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
they should see your son once in a while they dont have to see him that often
2006-12-18 08:35:02 · answer #10 · answered by godschild 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋