The woman's a *****. Plain and simple.
... And she's made it obvious that she can't stand me.
Here's the dilema. I can't quit. I'm pregnant, and cannot leave because of the insurance issues, at least, not until the baby's born.
Sometimes, though, I seriously wonder how great I would feel at the end of the day if I throttled the sh!t out of her for some of her condescencing comments, ignoring my questions, or acting like I'm an inconvenience.
She's made my job such a catch-22. I get in trouble for most of my judgment calls, but when I ask her for advice (to avoid an asschewing), I never get a response, and then get my asss chewed again when I haven't gotten something resolved in time.
... I feel like I'm in HELL.
2006-12-18 08:15:44 · 17 answers · asked by <3 The Pest <3 6 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Hmm tough call!!
My first thought is why doesn't she like you? is she jealous of you perhaps?
My advice, which you probably won't like, is to arrange to have a meeting with her and confront her about her attitude. Explain that you enjoy your job but she is making you feel uncomfortable to the point that you are making mistakes.
She sounds a bit like a bully, and with all bullies, they react the way they do because it makes them feel better. Sometimes it takes courage from someone else to put them in their place and confront them.
If you really don't think you can do this then my other advice would just be to hold your temper and try to keep out of her way until you leave to have your child.
You can always go down the harassment line but you would need to have evidence and witnesses, unfortunately people don't want to get involved in these types of situations though for fear of losing their own jobs.
Try not to strangle her though........... shooting is quicker lol!!
I wish you luck with your dilema and your new baby
2006-12-18 08:28:49 · answer #1 · answered by Gillipoos 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a time out when she is getting on your nerves. Even if it's just you sitting at your desk taking a few breaths. I don't really think that this is the best position for you to be in since you're expecting, but you can probably deal with it until the baby comes. I would start looking for another job.Congratulations. Hope you have a happy, healthy baby!
2006-12-18 16:23:31 · answer #2 · answered by Cori 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do when dealing with a supervisor like her is to sweet talk her to death. Give her no reason at all to not appreciate what you do. I mean go overboard, girl! Tell her you like her hairstyle, her outfit, her shoes. Tell her you think she made a great decision (even if she stole yours). Offer to help her. Bring her a cup of coffee. Tell her you hope you can be like her someday because you can see how intelligent she is. This so works... and it's so fun. The most important thing to remember is that you are having a baby!! How lucky you are!! That's what's important... not an idiot boss. Bring her some flowers tomorrow and sweetly tell her "happy holidays"... :-)
2006-12-18 16:26:58 · answer #3 · answered by mJc 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some people are simply not ready (or even able) to manage others. However, you need to show that you went out of your way to make things work.
I would start by keeping a record of your communications, so you can prove a pattern of inconsistent expectations in case she decides that she's tired of waiting for you to quit.
Another tactic would be to go to her and say "It seems we don't have a productive working relationship, what can I do to improve this". Yes, all the problems might be her fault, but there's few managers who wouldn't go out of their way for an employee that cares.
If any of this is going beyond "my boss sucks" and is jeopardizing your health (mental health), talk to HR immediately. Get everything in writing from them.
2006-12-18 16:36:12 · answer #4 · answered by msmith7811 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Some beach somewhere is the song that explains it best, sometimes you just gotta go somewhere else in your head for a quick break. Otherwise ignore her with her stuff except work related. and when they are chewing you out say well I asked (your boss) if I should do this or that. She didn't give me an answer so I went with this....
2006-12-18 17:15:36 · answer #5 · answered by Grev 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, sweet heart no matter where you go, what you do, or what kind of job you are applying for there will be ASSHOLES all around.Don't quit your job until you have another one lined up!and Try not to get all worked up cos of your conditions of being pregnant for you and the baby's safety.
2006-12-18 16:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by Tami 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you are finish with work, when you have free time, just read the bible. That's what keeps me happy. Another thing you can do is to think about bigger, more important issues that's happening in your life, are in the world, right now.
2006-12-18 16:30:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just remember, preganacy goes by fast and once it is over you can ditch the job. Just make sure you have all your medical bills covered before you do.
In the meantime, ignore her and smile at her every chance you get.
2006-12-18 16:19:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her supervisor and her supervisor's supervisor and claim that she is trying to get you fired because you're pregnant.
Or ask for a transfer. Start keeping a journal of all the crap she pulls, when, where, how, quotes, dates, witnesses, etc. Then take her down. Then quit. Sweet justice.
2006-12-18 16:28:06 · answer #9 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Stick it out. I found the best way to let out my aggression on my stupid B*tch co-worker is to hum at work (Just to annoy her). Congrats on the baby and good luck!
2006-12-18 16:27:00 · answer #10 · answered by Pirate Hooker 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋