How can I deal with depression?

Question

Please give me all ways I could stop this problem (disease)

I have separated from my wife since january 2006, its almost one year, I want to know ways to deal with myself and everything else

Answer 1

Time usually heals all wounds, especially a broken heart. You should always remind yourself how lucky you are to have your family & friends be there for you. It's the holidays now, so definetely spend more time with family & friends. You should keep yourself very busy by going out, maybe going back to school, spending some time with family, even after the holidays. Find a hobby that will keep you occupied or you can work more if you want, anything that will keep you from being depressed. Surround yourself with alot of people who care about you. It's been almost a year, so maybe you should start dating someone new? it doesn't sound like a bad idea. Keep your head up & always think positive, look ahead at the future & things will get better soon. MERRY CHRISTMAS & HAPPY NEW YEAR.

Answer 2

You have to get professional help. There are some great medications out there. It also helps to talk to someone. Make sure you see a qualified psychatrist. Also, most insurances cover this. Have you thought about dating? It might help. I suffer from depression. The only thing is that no specific event triggered it. I've had it since I was 7 and am now 33 and have been depressed the entire time. It sounds like you just got depressed after separating. In that case, counseling may be all you need and just some more time! Although, a year is a long time to still be depressed. Your best bet, see a professional. It's worth a shot, right?

Answer 3

Pick yourself up and dust yourself off. It's bad, it sucks, you were done wrong, your down..............I know. I have been there, and it's hard. Real hard. But you will get through this. Get rid of all the mementos from her. You have her memory, you don't need things around your house to bring you down. Get new stuff. Then take a good look at yourself and udpdate your looks. Wear your mustache different if you have one. If not, grow one. Get your hair styled different. Buy yourself some new clothes. New shoes or boots make you feel better. Now, go do something you haven't done in a while like go to the movies alone or get a buddy, newphew, neice, brother or sister. (or your father or mother) The key is, FIND YOURSELF AGAIN. Sepearation and/or Divorce is bad; and it can take you down really low, but life is not over, it's just at a stand still. You are emotionally drained and hurt. You will survive. Get on with your life and be happy. You will find out that everyone wants to be around happy people. Be one of those people.
You will be fine, just do it! and when she comes running back; go the other way. Good Luck.

Answer 4

You need to stay focused on yourself and your loved ones around you. Try and use all the negative issues and situations in your life that you need to deal with and turn it around into positives and ask yourself what has this taught me? Learn from them no mater what the situating or issues are. This will help you grow stronger and more wiser as a person. If you are so deeply down you should maybe consider seeing your Doctor. He/She will be able to direct you further with maybe a temporary crutch with anti depressants to help with a slight chemical imbalance that may be contributing to your depression or in helping you find a good psychologist to talk to for a while to help you find and sort of a few things and stir you in the right direction and help you handle and deal with your emotions. I know this is easier said than done but you have to start somewhere and you have to start NOW right this second. Trust me I know because I have been so low that I sat on a pity pot for way too long before I realized I needed and wanted to be happy and healthy again. I wasted too much of my precious time dwelling on the stuff that I couldn't change and do any thing about and needed to put behind me for good. It takes time to grieve and get past the hurt but you can do it if you start right NOW!!!!!

Answer 5

Clinical Depression is a serious problem. Most people cant handle this alone. Some people live with this for many years not knowing they are depressed. Others think that they can just stop being depressed by doing something fun. But to the truly depressed...nothing is fun anymore. Some people think that occasionally feeling down is depression...thats not what you are talking about is it? See a doctor or a therapist...both is better. Get nonaddictive meds that will help you cope. Talk to someone who can help you work this out...Just remeber that is doesnt rain everyday!

Answer 6

Go out more. Do things you enjoy. Don't dwell on ur situation, which you'll most likely do, anyways.
make new friends, go out and buy new clothes, go to places different from where you and your ex ever went, pick up a dancing class or even volunteer work. you'll take the focus off yourself when you see others in worse conditions.
and see a shrink, but try not to medicate too much, cause it'll pass once you get occupied.
bless you!

Answer 7

Like I do get over it..fix yourself up and hit the nightlife theres plenty of fish in the sea..and u will find someone ur wife will get jealous either come running back or u will be happy with the person u found..and realize u don't need her..

Answer 8

Meds are one answer. Moving on with your life is another. Not necessarily finding someone else to marry but going out with friends, joining a support group. You don't mention having kids but having to deal with their daily lives got me through two rough patches.

Answer 9

This is a question that really needs professional answers, dear. Don't ask us random people out here what a health professional should tell you; this is your life we're talking about. Go and get yourself some assistance and maybe some mild medication to help you cope with this sadness....you're worth it.

Answer 10

I know it's hard but think positive and know that something good is going to come along. Sometimes when things look like every thing is going to collapse it'll actually turn around and lift you up, also have courage and bravery.