ing with my ex boyfriend, Is this OK?
2006-12-18 08:09:02 · 40 answers · asked by Helene H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey, go for it! why walk into a marriage without a filthy secret? that would be sooooo boring!
2006-12-18 08:11:49 · answer #1 · answered by niko 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. It's not OK.
These are my reasons:
1. Being intimate with someone other than the person you're about to bind your life to will not just "go away" when you stand at the alter. You'll carry that intimacy into your marriage. A wedding is a celebration of vows. These vows are promises that you will act upon for the rest of your life. It doesn't erase everything that happens before the "marriage" and it isn't some magical rite that changes your status to a blushing, virginal bride. If you come to the alter with deceit, you will bring it right into your marriage.
2. If you feel bound, trapped or unsure of your decision for marriage, giving in to carnal appetites to sway your ambiguity will not make the situation any better. It won't "satisfy" your need to break out of your relationship and taste a bit of freedom, as I am assuming you desire. Instead, it will open a gigantic can of worms that, in the very least, will overwhelm you with guilt, and shame. In the worst, it can have dire consequences that will undoubtably put you and your fiance in serious heartache, and pain.
My advice? Don't get married yet. Talk to your fiance and tell him that you need a minute to figure out your head. Tell him you love him enough to tell him you need space, and that you would never enter into a marriage with him before making sure you were in the right place, emotionally, mentally and spiritually, to do so.
It might be painful, and self-sacrificing, but you'll avoid a lifetime of regret if you go this route. Good luck.
2006-12-18 08:58:30 · answer #2 · answered by bitterlee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you really serious? Why is it that you feel you have to "be really naughty" before you wed? What I would say is that if you really feel that way, you probably aren't really ready for this commitment. I mean you no disrespect, but marriage is for people who know for certain that to be with any other is unthinkable---you only have eyes for the one you love. I can't imagine being intimate with anyone other than my Sweetheart...and it doesn't mean I'm dead or blind, just that I want the true intimacy that love brings and nothing else will do. Think carefullly about what you will carry into that wedding day if you've deliberately cheated on the man who has pledged himself to you.
2006-12-18 08:13:45 · answer #3 · answered by hot_italian_empress 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your soon to be husband is OK with it then go for it. Maybe you two will have a open relationship where you can sleep with whoever you want to at any time. As long as it is only for sex and means nothing more why not do it? Maybe he can a new girl over every weekend and the three of you can play. Sometimes you bring your ex over and just nasty f*uck him in the living room while you husband watches football.
Or you could just not get married, since you don't love your soon to be husband anyways, and just call him for a booty call when you are horny.
2006-12-18 08:15:33 · answer #4 · answered by Mike E 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seriously, sleeping with your ex before or after you get married is the same thing all around. It's called CHEATING. It's not naughty in that cute look "I'm getting away with something" it's downright wrong. There must be something wrong with your relationship or with you. You should reconsider getting married b/c it sounds to me like you are not ready or you don't love your soon to be husband enough to make him your husband.
2006-12-18 08:20:16 · answer #5 · answered by benjiandremy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to sleep with your ex boyfriend? You was suppose to let him go when you found this man. How would you feel if he decides to sleep with his ex on more time before you got married? You can be naughty with him when you are married. I wouldn't do it if i was you. Love means more to me than just one night of passion that don't mean anything to me. What does love mean to you?
2006-12-18 08:25:07 · answer #6 · answered by sadtiger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No thats not ok...because what happens if you get attacted to your Ex and old feelings from the past start coming back; this can only create bigger problems in your future marrige !...No one can tell you what to do, people can only give you the best advice possible, because regardless of what anyone says, at the end of the day your going to do what YOU want...but if you do decide to do it; just be careful (remember your playing with fire & you might get burned)
2006-12-18 08:17:26 · answer #7 · answered by dpalmer10584 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you thinking about doing that remember the bigger or the biggest KARMA gonna get back to you. The reason why is that because of he might find out. and what if you have the best husband in the world and really happy and for 10 years and suddenly your husband wnat divorce you and you shocked and asked him why ??? Your husband will say, I just found out that you had slept with someone before we got married. I don't slept with someone before we got married. what is up with that???
Are you willing to do that?? risk of that marriage for stimple thing to screw your ex boyfriend whoa, that not being naughty that being screw to your husband for that????
That really Cheap shot what you doing to your husband. Thanks god you not my wife or what ever you are.
2006-12-18 08:32:52 · answer #8 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So I assume you'll be ok with your fiance having his last fling ? By nature men are nasty along with naughty so you might as well since I'm sure he will be doing the same.
2006-12-18 08:14:41 · answer #9 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you already know the answer to this one. No, it's not ok. Don't do something stupid like that, it would hurt your soon to be husband A LOT!! Show some respect... oh wait, never mind, someone who would actually consider that has no respect for herself or anyone else... What was I thinking? I truly feel sorry for your fiance.
2006-12-18 08:12:55 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aboslutely not. I wish we could alert your future husband to know that you are a whore. You have some issues and shot not be getting married in the first place. Let me guess you are under 25 years old. I am guessing 22.
2006-12-18 08:42:28 · answer #11 · answered by cdmwva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋