What do you think?

Question

I have been paying my gf's bills now for 3 months while out of work. I have my son for the holidays this week and I had to work saturday night on overtime. My mother was in the hospital for nothing major but I had noone to watch my son while I worked. I asked my gf and she told me she had other plans. I am pissed at my gf right now because I am working overtime everymonth to pay her rent,phone, power food etc... But she couldnt help me when I had nowhere else to turn. She thinks I am wrong since she already had plans made. What do you think?

Answer 1

I think she is ****** up, especially since you have been paying
all her bills. She could of canceled her plans and moved them to some other date. I think you seriously need to have a talk and lay
it out on the table and tell her if she can't take the time to help you
when you need the help, then why should you bend over backwards for her. Tell her you have a son to think about and you
have to think about him first and she knew about him before she
came into the relationship. One night that is all you were asking
out of her time and every night out of your night she expects of
your night that is not fair. If my Sons girl friend was like her then
I would say lose the *****, there is no future in the relationship,
both of you would help each other out. And besides it sounds
funny how she has time to make plans, but she can't make plans
to get a JOB. It's been three whole months she could of found something by now, she is taking advantage of you, or haven't
you knowtest? You have all rights to be pissed off at her and she so Stupid to say you are so wrong what can of **** is that? Dude
Talk to her and make her pay her own bills, tell her to get her ***
off the couch and start looking for a job cause you can't pay for
her bills any more and that you have to think about your son and
find a sitter to pay them when he needs one. If her *** really loves you then she will understand, but if she is using you, then
she'll find a way to get rid of you, sorry to say. But that is okay
because you can find someone better. You don't need someone
whom is not going to be there for both you and your son. Good
Luck!! Your Kids Always Come First In A Relationship No Matter
What Situation.

Answer 2

Oh my!

I'm a single mom without family. I have supported myself since age 16 with no one to help me. Now, I'm College educated, own a house, have excellent credit, and a professional fulltime job.

You are not helping her by paying her bills. You are just enabling her to keep being dependent on others and you're not allowing her to have to struggle a bit to get ahead herself. I know you must love her, but you are also a father. Isn't your money better spent on your own son?

As far as her not watching your son, well, unless she had to go to participate in a funeral, was having surgery, flying out of the country, or donating a kidney, I really don't understand why she couldn't help you a little bit? Yah, maybe it wasn't her ideal plan, but I'm sure it also isn't your ideal plan to support her?

Do yourself a favor, STOP paying her bills. You may also want to find another girlfriend and someone more "kid friendly".

Good luck!

Answer 3

Obviously, she's living the life and expects you to save her *** at every point. I think you should have a talk with her, express how you feel what she does. The bill paying could be enough for chlid support. But if you already pay for it and buy whatever your son wants. Take her court with all the receipts and tell the judge that you want your gf to help take take of your guys' son and that she has to pay bills also. You also have a life, not just the woman!

I hope my advice works.

Answer 4

I THINK THAT YOUR GIRLFRIEND WAS REALLY WRONG FOR NOT WATCHING YOUR SON FOR YOU WHILE YOU WERE OUT WORKING TO PAY YOUR OWN BILLS AND HER BILLS AS WELL. YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE HAD TO ASK HER TO WATCH HIM SHE SHOULD HAVE OFFERED, YOU BETTER BE CAREFUL WITH THIS GIRL SHE MAY NOT MEAN YOU ANY GOOD. SOME PEOPLE JUST DON'T REALIZE WHAT THEY HAVE UNTIL IT'S GONE. AND YOU MAY HAVE TO PROVE THAT TO HER YOU DON'T HAVE TO BRAKE UP WITH HER BUT, I'LL STOP PAYING HER BILLS FOR THE NEXT MONTH AND LET SOMETHING GET TURNED OFF ON HER, THEN WAIT UNTIL SHE COMES AND ASK YOU IF YOU PAID THAT BILL AND YOU TELL HER NOW YOU HAD NO ONE TO WATCH YOUR SON SO YOU DIDN'T WORK OVERTIME AND SHE HOW SHE LIKES THAT.

GOOD LUCK

Answer 5

I think your gf needs a slap in the face. (obviously not literally for all you flamers) Next time a bill comes due, tell her you already had "plans" for the money YOU made while working overtime so won't be able to help her out with her bill.

Answer 6

Unless her plans were to be donating a kidney or performing brain surgery or giving a sell-out concert show or something like that, she has NO excuse for not stepping up and helping you out since you are paying her bills and she's out of work. I would be furious. You have every right.

Answer 7

Why are you paying your gf bills? Do you love her that much depite how she is treating you? Do you think you are obligated somehow to pay her bills just because she is out of work? What if you were out of work? Would she pay your bills for 3 months like you have paid hers? From what you say I doubt it. Think about it. Is she worth doing all this for? Why not let her fend for herself? After all your first and foremost obligation is to your child.

Answer 8

well you both need to make sacrifices for each other an dmeet in the middle. what was the nature of her commitment? if whomever she was meeting/whatever she was doing could wait or be rescheduled easily, then she should have done that for you. but if she absolutely couldn't change plans, then you cannot blame her. Although, she should be going out of her way to help you. not because you pay her bills, but because you love eachother and you'd do it for her!

Answer 9

what a beeyotch! dump her ***. she couldn't put you and your kid before her plans. she doesn't love you she's using you to get her bills paid....i say screw her let her find someone else to pay her bills....the nerve of that woman! inconsiderate,selfish,and rude....what a #*@^*#! why are you still together,that was a sign to kick her to the curb cuz she's no good and she doesn't care about your kid....please don't make her your sons stepmother,
she'll be horrible for him.....what if you leave them alone on a day she wanted to go out but couldn't cuz she feels you had to bring your son for her to watch...God forbids,what if she's angry and hurts your son...you'll never know...my best bet would be to dump her...wow! that got me mad....don't you dare pay her bills this month,tell her you already had plans for the money you made this month,and get even.......screw her she's not worth it..wether or not she's hot or not,she already proved you and your son aren't that important to her...

Answer 10

I really don't know whose right or wrong on this but the descent thing to do is sometimes you need to think of somebody else first and if you can be there for them when their in need. If your situation isn't life or death then you should be there to help those who have been there for you. Don't be pissed at her talk to her and tell her that sometimes she needs to think about other people first and not always herself that's selfish.