2006-12-18 08:05:36 · 15 answers · asked by College Kid 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
GO OUT (and try to have fun)!!! That's the most important step into beating being lonely. Go out anywhere, walk around the block, go to the mall or movie, swimming or rollerblading, go to a bar or a gym.
Being around other people is key. Don't aim on making friends immediately. Just be comfortable being out and about. A smile for a stranger can make anyone feel good about themselves and spark up conversation.
In case you've neglected friendships, phone people, send them a handwritten card or letter or a simple email to say hi. Make an effort to have people around you who care about you.
Spend time with relatives if possible, visit that elderly neighbor and try to help out. Invite your neighbour over for a drink.
At first it might seem scary but remember life is too short to hide inside. Show your wonderfull self to the world and smile. Even if you don't feel like smiling, fake it at first and once that smile affects others you'll notice it's not hard to share it with the world! Happy people attract other people! Good luck....
2006-12-18 08:21:00 · answer #1 · answered by Tantalizing Dutch Delilah 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Loneliness is but the fear of life. You must let yourself know that you're self-sufficient. This is hard for most people, so therefore, if you can't tell yourself that you are able to live alone, then find a hobby to pass your time and ease your mind. Get into a club, or get a small pet. Loneliness, for me, was normally sparked by being idle for way too long. Also regret, caused me to dwell in loneliness and remorse. Not having someone to tell me that it's going to be OK.
Luckily enough for me, at the worst of times, I fell in love. From experience, all I can say, is have hopes. Something will come your way. I personally believe in Karma. Your loneliness will pass, and you will be paid back in full for the times you've ever felt lonely.
2006-12-18 08:11:23 · answer #2 · answered by immafirinmahlazer 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dan Russell, a professor of human development and family studies, has found no direct correlation between the number of relationships a person has and his or her level of loneliness.
"Loneliness is different than being alone," said Russell. "In general, people who are lonely have fewer close friends, but this isn't always the case. Lonely people can have many close friends, whereas people who aren't lonely may not know anyone."
Loneliness is not affected by the quantity of relationships, but rather the expectation an individual has for those relationships, Russell said. For that reason, recalling fond memories of friends and relatives in holidays past can cause some people to feel lonelier during this time of year than they do most of the time.
Russell recommends that people approach the holidays as an opportunity to build relationships, rather than to assess or dwell on a lack of close ties to others. 'Tis the season to reconnect with both relatives and friends, or possibly make new friends, he said.
2006-12-18 08:29:02 · answer #3 · answered by mago6988 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have too much time on your hands. This is a good thing. Give some of that time to those who need time. Call your local hospital and find out how you can volunteer to spread cheer for the patients during the holidays. You're not really lonely until you are a 6 year-old stuck in a hospital on Christmas.
2006-12-18 09:28:14 · answer #4 · answered by blazenphoenix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to put yourself in environments in which you are interacting with other people (not on the computer). This can include:
1. Community clubs/organizations
2. Volunteer work
3. Jobs
4. School
Also, exercise regularly, and spend as much time outdoors as you can. This will help improve your mood so you feel better about yourself. You will attract more friends if you are truly happy than if you feel lonely.
You might also try the online dating sites. There are some serious people on those sites mixed with the BS.
2006-12-18 08:12:41 · answer #5 · answered by jordannadunn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a hobby, join a club, start attending church, become active in a group.
In short, the best way to make new friends is to generally get involved in something where you are likely meet some new people with similar interests.
2006-12-18 08:10:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Develop multiple personalities
2006-12-18 08:41:25 · answer #7 · answered by wordskillreality 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you might want to do is find a friend that is more outgoing than you are and hang out with them. You might meet new people.
2006-12-18 08:14:03 · answer #8 · answered by unalloyedcube 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shyness can hold you back in more than just relationships. Here is the best way to cure yourself of shyness.... Ready.......here it goes......listen carefully... JUST STOP BEING SHY, KNOCK IT OFF...Practice practice practice
2006-12-18 09:18:34 · answer #9 · answered by Dhaircutta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step away from the computer and join the real world.
2006-12-18 08:09:03 · answer #10 · answered by Mimi 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋