2006-12-18 07:51:51 · 21 answers · asked by reardonliberty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can go see a sex therapist/psychologist. Basically what they do is they speak with you and your husband about the poroblem and then they usually give you specific ideas or techniques you and your hsband can try to rekindle that sexual fire. Of course, for your husband to agree to this you;re going to have to tell him about your problem if he doesn't already know.
2006-12-18 07:57:27 · answer #1 · answered by Being Myself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are sexually attracted to some one else? Do you have children? Sometimes these two things could cause a loss of interest. Something about child birth that knocks a woman libido in the dirt. Could the long stressful hours taking care of the household. Does your husband help with the work around the house? Does he do dishes and laundry. You might need a break, a day off. Try an afternoon at a spa, or something along those lines. Ask him to clean the house and care for the kids. Have him cook you dinner. You relax and recoup. Think about what used to attract you to him. Maybe his body is not what it used to be, and you two need should talk about workout together.
Now if you still have strong sexual desires but just not towards him, then he has a problem that needs to be addressed. Suggest couple counseling to him. How willing is he to work this out? Have you communicated these feeling with him?
2006-12-18 16:02:47 · answer #2 · answered by Mike E 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is more to this than you may realize. Work and all the other stress in life can take it out of us. I think you should do alot of talking and playing with each other. The talking can clear your mind of things that may be bothering you and the playing can lead to other pleasant things. One last suggestion.. write down everything that has happened in your marriage that you may have a hint of resentment in your heart for. When you are finished burn the paper and let it all go. Make a fresh start. Think back... there was a time when you was attracted to him.
2006-12-18 16:09:38 · answer #3 · answered by Bruce C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to find out why your no longer attracted. Has he gained to much weight? Is he out of shape? Bald? Poor Hygiene? Is it the way he treats you? Do you have to initiate sex?
Does he satisfy you in bed or leave you sexually frustrated? What caused you to fall in love with him? Try to answer the questions fairly and be prepared to discuss them with him. I know thats a lot of questions but you need to know the answers first before you can go forward and begin working on them.
Your doctor (choose the one you prefer) can help by offering you a topical RX that when applied topically to your genitilia will help bring back the desire & sensations.
Good Luck. (the worst hting you can do is have an affair or a 1 nite stand)
2006-12-18 16:06:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try setting up a romantic weekend away for just the two of you. Maybe after all this time, you've forgotten how it was when u were dating. Try to bring it back, by planning a date night or something along those lines, and i'm sure ur desire will come back, your probably just bored is all.
2006-12-18 20:03:39 · answer #5 · answered by firstlove021 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Rear, Did you love your husband when you marry him?? Has he done anything to change your love towards him?? Why i ask, is i too went threw this,plus abuse (both) Don't get me wrong,i really love him when we got marry. But everything he has done to me, killed all feeling i had towards him. I had enought one day,and file for a divorce. A person can only take soooo much, before the damn breaks. So sweetie, if you lost your sexually desire for him, you will not get it back. Been there and done that. A Friend.
Clowmy
2006-12-18 16:05:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to him. Go to counseling. Odds are, he's tired of you too and just stays together because he thinks it's the right thing to do. I was no longer sexually attracted to my ex-wife after our first child, but I stuck around for another several years.
A divorce may be a good thing for the both of you.
2006-12-18 16:01:28 · answer #7 · answered by RightLeft 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What changed this? You need to look back at all the things you guys have done before and figure out what made you physically attracted to him in the first place. Maybe spice things up in your relationship. Do things that you've always wanted to do but never did.
2006-12-18 16:07:54 · answer #8 · answered by DawnC36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get it back especially since obviously there was something there before. You just have to discover what it was that attracted you to him in the first place and try that. You probably need to spend some time together. Try a second honeymoon.
2006-12-18 15:56:34 · answer #9 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you've been married for a while... things go downhill from there. I suggest you try understanding why you have those feelings. Is your husband particularly UNATTRACTIVE to look at? what turns you off about him?
But again what turns you on?
So think about your wants and needs.
2006-12-18 15:57:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋