why do parents do this?its so annoying..!!?

Question

my mom is really protective and im 15 and she wont let me have a b/f!what do u think??

Answer 1

i know how u feel..... i have the same problem, and i know u feel like u have no freedom and u compare urself 2 ur friends and feel.... well different..... usually moms r like this because they're scared or sad 2 lose their "baby" or are just really attached 2 u and don't want 2 c u growing up and they want 2 keep u little forever..... just talk 2 ur mom at set some new boundries since u r getting older

Answer 2

I feel that I am protective of my 14 year old. She does have, what she calls a "boyfriend" however, she does not go out "on dates". He is allowed to come to our house and have dinner. He comes over and watches movies at our house, and she rides with his family to church, but she does not go to his house. At my house, I know how much supervision there is. I personally don't have a problem with her having a boy friend. However, she won't be allowed to go on a "date", alone with a guy, until she is 16... Regardless!! She knows my rules, and so does her "boyfriend". Parents need to allow some freedom. Teens need to be able to prove that they are responsible enough to be trusted. If teens aren't allowed their own space, and some degree of "privacy", they tend to go "buck wild" once they are given a little freedom. That can lead to tons of other issues. I really don't have an answer for you, dear, all I can give you is insight, and wish you the best of luck! Every parent is different, maybe you should try to sit down and talk with your mother and let her know how you feel maybe you can come to some sort of half way point, to where she is happy and you are as well. Good luck!

Answer 3

LET YOU?.?Your mom doesn't go to school with you what she don't know won't hurt her or hurt you whatever way you want to put it.But I have one and my mom don't know a thang in the world about him.All you have to do yourself is set some guidelines or limits or rules (whatever you may call them) for yourself. Here goes mine 1. no getting prengant 2.Keep grades up 3.Make sure in every way possible mom doesn't find out.I'm not pregnant and i'm an honor roll student, and mom still don't know, you just have to stick to the rules that's all.Those are mine, but you can set rules of your own.But remember even though you set the rules for yourself try to stick to them and not change them under any circumstances.Yeah i know it's risky but I did it for love.And nobody on here can say that it's not real love we've been together now for 3 years 2 months 1 week and 3 days.That's longer than my parents stayed together before my daddy walked out.Never felt this way before in my life about some-one.Anyways if you think you and this special someone have a shot take into your own hands.just take responsability by setting your rules and following them.

Answer 4

I think its up to your mom on how she chooses to raise you. Every parent is different. My daughter is 9 and has a "boyfriend" of course he is only 9 too and by "Boyfriend" I mean they hang out at lunch and recess and talk on the phone. Ill be taking them to the movies over Christmas break. Im one of the parents who wont be telling my daughter at 15 she cant have a boyfriend because U dont want her sneaking around my back or once I tell her she can have one - going buck wild :) I know this sounds so cliche but once your a parent (which hopefully isnt for many years) you'll understand.

Answer 5

My mom had that same rule and I thought it was totally fair plus I think that when your 15 and younger you should be focasing on your school work and just being a kid wait till your 16 and if your mom still wont let you have one talk to and ask her why she wont let you have one

Answer 6

its not annoyind, kudos to your mom.
in my family, we got to date until we got out of high school. why? all my friends, around your age, either got sex craved or pregnant. my mother, the same as yours probably, does not want you to get pregnant or seen as a whore and not have the chance to get into college and do something in your life. you dont see it now, but high school relationships at times dont work. just wait til you get older when you find a guy who loves you and you'll be ready then for anything that is thrown at you.
just know that other children have it worse than you and you are lucky that your mom is very caring for your well being

Answer 7

u know what i think, if you are responsible enough to have a b/f and deal w/ the consequences of have a b/f then she should let you have one. but the only catch is you have to be very responsible, there is some dangerous people out there and maybe shes just making sure that you dont end up with the wrong guy

Answer 8

I think your Mom is smart. I didn't allow my girls to go out on a GROUP date until they were 16. Now I did allow boy friends to visit the house when we were there and their parents approved but beyond that nada. My girls did not go out one on one until they were 18. Wait. . . your time is coming and soon. Enjoy your friends until then. Dating and having a b/f are often more trouble than its worth. . . read the posts here and find out.

Answer 9

I think that as long as you live, eat and sleep under the roof of your parents you need to respect the rules they give you, You will have plenty of time for relationships after your 18, ( the rest of your life in fact )

respect your parents, They only want whats best for you.

yes I am a dad, and I have 4 kids.

Answer 10

She's actually helping you out. Whether you realize it or not. I am 20, and I am married. Not to any of the boys I dated at 15. Usually, guys at that age, are assholes. Pardon my language. Trust me, you'll realize it when you're a little older that it's better off that way :-)