you know when you find that person who shows you what its like to love?...well i found him i know im young but i really did think he was the "one" we were going on strong for a year he always told me how he wanted to be with me forever and then one day he told me he didnt love me anymore that he wanted to be "free", "its not you its me" etc i begged him not to leave me told him we could work it out but no..i mean i know he cares he cried the whole time..said what a horrable person he was..i dont if he was lrying or not.
its been 4 months now and im still not over him..i just cant no matter what i do..i tried to hate him but that didnt work...everyday he is all thats in my head i cant even concentrate on school work..
im even losing friends over this..because i "cant get over him" and its bugging them.
and now he is with one of my best friends and seeing them together kills me..i really need to forget him..PLEASE help me please =[
2006-12-18 07:49:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know how u feel! I was best friends with a guy when I was 15, when we were 16 we got "together" as a couple, he kissed me one night and it sent shocks through my whole entire body, he told me he loved me a month or so later, that was like OMG, the greatest thing that I had ever heard in my life up until then, when we were 17, we finally "consumated" our relationship, and the same thing, like the strongest love and lust and desire feelings I had ever felt! We were together another year, everything was good, then he decided he was too immature to move on in our relationship and I wanted more commitment, so we broke up with me begging and pleadinga nd crying and groveling, telling him i didnt need the commitment, I just needed him, but to no avail, we were over.
2006-12-18 08:00:20 · answer #1 · answered by XXXDirtyDirtyGirlXXX 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how old you are...but I take it you're under 18. First of all, I know it seems like it's the end of the world for you. Like nothing makes sense without him and you will never be the same. Truth is...life goes on. And yes, you will never be the same, but it isn't bad...one day you will see that it only made you a stronger person. Sometimes certain people are just not meant to be and you have to deal with that...I know it hurts like crap and it's a living nightmare. I remember when I went through that in my "teenage" years and everyone told me "it's okay you will meet many more guys" and to you that's no comfort whatsoever...because all you want is HIM to comfort you. The best thing I can suggest to you is to analyze yourself. You have sooo much to live...it's going to take a good while to get over this guy but I promise you YOUR LIFE IS NOT OVER. You really will meet other guys and you really will be okay. It's just part of life to go through heartache. It sucks that your "bestfriend" is with him...if you ask me that's not really being a friend. I would suggest getting that friend out of the picture and just tell yourself to go on. What really helped me through those times was GOD...I promise if you ask him to help you he WILL. Good luck.
2006-12-18 07:57:21 · answer #2 · answered by laurel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys you'll never get over. He was your first love and chances are that you will never get 100% over him. However, you need to realize that is over. Clearly he has moved on. If there was still a chance for you two he wouldn't be dating your friend (who, by the way, is CLEARLY not someone you should be friends with! A real friend would not be with a guy who broke your heart). Whenever I'm having trouble getting over a guy I pretend I'm over him. I know that sounds weird, but if you go through the motions of being over it will get easier. You shouldn't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you. Soon enough you'll find a new guy that loves you and treats in the manner in which you deserve. Good luck! I know it's hard, but you can get through it.
2006-12-18 08:02:32 · answer #3 · answered by Eve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a grand thing... but if you become too emotionally attached to someone you 'think' you're in love with.... then someone is eventually going to get hurt.
The best way to forget about anyone from my experiences... is to get busy. Find a hobby. Work. Exercise. Read. Do something to occupy the mind. FLIRT with other guys you find hot or cute. (I do it with the girls though) Take risks... and eventually you'll be
forgetting him in no time.
Have you ever asked yourself that you are dependent on someone for emotional attachment? Well, have you ever wanted to try new things out of your curiosity? Dating new guys? or whatever?
if so then do that. forget him. It's as simple as 1...2....3.
have fun... live young... and enjoy it.
2006-12-18 07:54:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seem desperate. you seem like this is the only guy on this planet... well with all do respect you are wrong, you need to move on with your life, if not you will destroy yourself and that's not good. Try to stay away from your friend and your ex because if he loved you then he would not leave you and be with your bestfriends so you have to leave them alone and go out meet other people. The only way you will forget about him is to meet someone else and go out. Also you can seek counseling. you have to build your confident up and be a strong person for yourself, believe me there are plenty of Men out there for you just go out and have fun, forget about him...
2006-12-18 07:59:55 · answer #5 · answered by supersteveee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-30 14:53:51 · answer #6 · answered by mandeville 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off... STOP BEING FRIENDS WITH THE GIRL WHO IS DATING HIM NOW! She is NOT a friend if she is dating the guy who broke your heart! HE PLAYED YOU... HE BROKE YOUR HEART.... The only thing that heals your first broken heart is to go out and keep your time occupied. Do things with your REAL friends, and move one with your life.
2006-12-18 07:52:56 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he loves you he will come back. try to focus on something else, try dating to get your mind off him. if he doesnt come back he isnt worth it. you will get over him at some point. If your young and he is to then there is no need to be tied down. you have your life for that, just have fun, when your older you wont have that option anymore.
2006-12-18 07:53:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go have some girlfriends over and have yourself a good cry !
2006-12-18 07:51:42 · answer #9 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start dating someone else. He will get your mind off this guy!
2006-12-18 07:52:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋