I dont think of myself as the jealous type,my husband has a female friend of a few years before we met but usual we'll bump into her when we g out that type of thing,but this evening grabs the keys and out of the blue tells me he's going to visit her at her at her house,never asked if I wanted to come along.Even though I dont like going out late,he said thats why he didint invite me,he should have at least invited me?Im not being suspicious or anything.Or should I be?
2006-12-18 07:48:56 · 20 answers · asked by First L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Call me old fashioned,but if a husband drops everything late in the evening to go visit a female friend,um...I'd be a bit suspicious/concerned/whatever word you'd like to use.
2006-12-18 07:52:36 · answer #1 · answered by MaryBeth 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds as though your husband is being not only inconsiderate of your feelings but blatantly unfeeling toward you. He seems more interested in this other person than you. There may be something going on between your husband and this other person. Also he is flaunting her in your face it seems. If I were you I would sk him why he is acting this way and why he is so concerned with this other woman. You are entitled to an explanation and the worst thing you can do is to allow this to continue without challenging him on it. You don't have to be belligerent with him when you ask him but at least be determined to get a reasonable and true answer.
2006-12-18 07:54:58 · answer #2 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he should have invited you to go with him regardless of the situation. I personally wouldn't like the idea of my husband running out especially late at night to anyone house without me even if it was a close friend. If it wasn't a life or death situation then it could have waited until a decent time of day. I think that it is fine for him to have female friends to talk to but i think that he should be a little more considerate of your feelings. You should sit him down and tell him how you feel.
2006-12-18 08:01:05 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance has a friend from before we met (over 6 years ago) he sees her sometimes for dinner(at restaurants) and talks to her online. He always asks ifhe can go out, even though he knows I will never say no. He has also told me their whole history (about dating her friend, etc) and the fact that he is not interested in her romantically. I find it a bit rude that he didn't at least tell you in advance, not all guys will ask permission, but hey, maybe he thought you would say no or didn't want you to know until the last minute. Tell him how you feel about it and see what he says.
2006-12-18 07:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by Dick Tater 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well - given the time of year, any chance that it is some conspiracy to get you a christmas present?
My (now) wife freaked out when I ran out of the house one night and picked up a friend of hers to go out shopping. I had to lie to her about where I was going and with who.
BUT I went to go pick up her engagment ring.....I was being a good boy.
I think it's worth finding out what's going on here, but try to be fair, especially if he is not a person who's given you reason to be suspicious.
2006-12-18 07:58:24 · answer #5 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he was being inconsiderate. I understand what you are saying but don't worry. I'm that type of girl who has a billion guy friends who have girlfriends and it upsets me when they get upset that I hang out with their boyfriends. I don't think that just because he is married he should not have female friends, that's silly. But I would be concerned if he "out of the blue" up and left without telling you why he was going over.
2006-12-18 07:52:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the friendship he had with her was just friends, never anything intimate, you probably do not have anything to worry about.
Otherwise, it could be a problem.
There are lots of people who have these type of friendships and it is honestly just a friendship.
If you have had a trusting relationship and have some doubts, you need to talk about it.
2006-12-18 08:01:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another instance of a woman being MUCH more understanding than I would be. Why was he running off to her house at night? I see no reason for him to do that at all and if she desperately needed some help he should have dragged you along or at least fully explained why he was going & invited you.
2006-12-18 07:53:24 · answer #8 · answered by Candy C 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is it possible to have ovulation on day 21 of a 28 day cycle?
2016-10-08 03:08:14 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be suspicious. You're entitled to a full explanation. Then check it out.
2006-12-18 07:54:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋