2006-12-18 07:38:27 · 28 answers · asked by Emily M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is my brother (also 20) high school friend. I'm 24. My parents divored early this year. It's unbearable to go home to the house I grew up in and see this kid w/ my Mom.
2006-12-18 07:45:51 · update #1
My mother has never been a great mom. I've picked her up from drunken nights, mailed her money when she's out, washed her clothes and answered the phone when she taken too many pain pills. She has cheated on my Dad (both of them).
My grandparents provided the roof over my head. She has never had the "taste" for working 8-5. I put myself through college. I paid for my own wedding. I have the debt to prove it.
I want to love her and forgive her but the offenses run to deep. I know many of you think she's having fun. Well she's been having "fun" all over her life. Should she grow up?
Think about your own mothers. Think about your family situation.
She says she's going to marry him. She says she's in love.
She's an idiot!
2006-12-18 08:21:11 · update #2
Your mother is 42. What business is it of yours?
2006-12-18 07:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by This is lame 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
My boyfriend step mom is doing pretty much the same. She is in her 50's and dating a guy who was in high school with my boyfriend: he is 31. They've been together for 7 years, and he is now like a father figure for the youngest ones who never really knew their father.
In his case, it took some time for my boyfriend to accept the situation, but then he realize they were really in love. B (his mom's boyfriend) has a good situation, he is mature, not a gold digger, and they are both in love. B is aware that because of the age difference things wouldn't be the same than if he was dating someone his age like having kids for example. Just so you know that it might seem insane, but it can also work.
The difference in your situation is that your mom's boyfriend probably doesn't have a job or anything yet, he is much younger and I don't know about his maturity.
You have several possibilities as on what you can do:
you can ignore it and hope that it's just a temporary thing.
you can take it seriously and see what your mom feels about it (even if it seems you already know) and have a talk with her boyfriend. Ask him what he gets in there, if he is really in love, and what he imagines his life to be with your mom. This might give you clues on the seriousness of their relationship.
Good luck and live your life.
2006-12-18 18:30:53 · answer #2 · answered by Pyrene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about how many times your mother flipped out about whatever you might have done some where in your life. Is it a good situation?? Probably not. Is it your business?? Probably not. Is she happy?? That is the only question that is of importance. Let her be happy. It may not work out as a forever, but for the here and now it is what she wants.
2006-12-18 15:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl stop being a baby and let your mother have some fun. Your mom needs some release let her have it. They are just having fun, it's not like they getting married. Remember age is nothing but a number.
2006-12-18 16:01:38 · answer #4 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but this guy is of age. If he and your mom are having fun, leave them alone. Younger men are an untapped market for women. For some reason, it's okay for an older man to date a younger female, but not okay for an older woman.
There's no reason for you to stop talking to your mother. You may not approve of her relationship, but that's your problem. She's still your mom. Be happy for her, if just for a while.
2006-12-18 16:07:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom has been with the same old guy for years. What she wants is a young guy to make her feel good because her last old man was being a slouch in bed and she hasn't felt good in a while. It also boosts her self esteem to be with a younger guy. it makes her feel hot. When i was 19 and 20 I used to share the love with some older ladies to make them feel like they still had it. Its nothing. let your mom feel good about herself.
2006-12-18 16:06:58 · answer #6 · answered by SuperSoldierGIJOE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And how exactly is this your business? How old are you? Has she already raised you? Did she give life to you? Did she feed you and protect you? Tell her that you were wrong and that you love more than you love your own foolish feelings. This will probably be a failed relationship for her and she will end up getting hurt but you should be there for her when it falls apart.
2006-12-18 15:48:45 · answer #7 · answered by Bruce C 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are so that makes the answer a little tougher. Why did you flip out?? As long as the young man treats mom well and she is happy what is the problem??????
2006-12-18 15:42:05 · answer #8 · answered by SHERRI 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chill out. 42's are young still at this age of time. If the younger fellow treats her with all respect, and she's happy, would you rather have that than falling for someone older and a jerk?
2006-12-18 15:58:39 · answer #9 · answered by tagara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm, I've seen this before she is feeling old, mid life crises but shes not 50. Guy when they have this happen try to get a young chick or buy a sports car. Don't worry, the young person will get sick of her sooner or later
2006-12-18 15:45:15 · answer #10 · answered by Monet 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As long as Mom isn't cheating on Dad, chill out. I'm sure she knows the relationship isn't going anywhere, let her have her fun. I know it must be awkard, but put yourself in her shoes. Wouldn't you want a young lover.
2006-12-18 15:42:37 · answer #11 · answered by Floss 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋