Not that I'm a fan of cleaning or anything but there is a large amount of clutter in our apt. that needs to be removed asap. I've been asking about this for a year january 1st will be the year mark. Yesterday when I asked him to help clean he made me so frustrated by wining and complaining that I cut the experience short. Plus, he doesn't know how to put things where they belong and how to close drawers so that nothing is sticking out them shut.
2006-12-18 07:38:03 · 8 answers · asked by Benny 3 in Home & Garden ➔ Cleaning & Laundry
I know him, in fact I live with him. But there are so many worse things he could be doing that I overlook it. He cooks, he does laundry, folds it - but leaves it on the couch. Never puts anything in the garbage either.
Just grab a 30 gallon trash bag and start tossing. Keep doing it, if you think it is junk, toss it, he probably won't miss it. Eventually he'll get the idea, but if he doesn't, just don't let it get behind.
And remember, he is not cheating on you, out drinking or abusing you. And if that is his only fault, he is a great guy.
2006-12-18 07:46:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well being a bit of a sloppy person myself, maybe I can offer some sound advice.
I like a lot of men just don't see a mess the way most woman do so it has to be pointed out to us before we can see it!!!
I suggest that you get 3 or 4 large boxes and mark them with large letters HIS HERS OURS TRASH, THEN JUST GO THROUGH THE HOUSE AND FILL ALL THE BOXES, ANYTHING OF HIS THAT YOU THINK IS JUNK PUT IN THE TRASH BOX or you could add a give away box if needed, then give him a few days to go through his stuff. When the days are up call for a pic up and put the other box(trash) out for collection.
this should give him a wake up call that you will not live in a pig pen any longer!!!
Ask for help with the dishes etc. if he doesn't help after a few tries, tell him that you are going to hire a cleaning person to come in once a week to help you and that he should find a way to pay for it. If he can't afford it tell him that there are always openings at McDonald"s for part time work.
2006-12-18 08:34:15 · answer #2 · answered by geotom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It only helps to show how to clean and do it if you are up for it, if he does not want to clean you are to show the utensils and produce, and avoid telling or compelling, it is very frustrating to enhance compeling where a person lives, it will only enfuriate him and make him willing to leave and upset.
Talk to him and leave the decision to him, after all you are not his mother and are not exactly having a choice about it. Control and follow up will leave you frustrated and concerned about your mistakes and personality flaws, if any.
Clean up you own messes and have your room out of his reach, he will surely not mess your room unless he steals or lends without telling. Cut the crap but be friendly, it never fails. Being a lazy boy is a proper choice with hard workers and some workaholics, specially those who like the brew.
He will know what to do, swaying yourself to the issue at hand delivers none to your peace of mind, you should know that already. Promising him money and some attention surely will launch your needs into perspective.
2006-12-18 07:52:13 · answer #3 · answered by Manny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry sweetie, guys can be real jerk sometimes just because they dont realize how important it is to a woman to hae a clean house. It took me five years with my husband and now he does a really good job helping me out. I had tried everything, but getting angry just made him worse so I gave him a beer, had him sit and let him enjoy where he can see me and I cleaned that house to imaclulence, when he saw it awe he was so happy and proud of me, that he wanted to help keep it that way from then on, sometime you have to do all the hard work just so you can remind him of the results..Good Luck!
2006-12-18 08:05:04 · answer #4 · answered by Paola 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop cleaning up after him. If he wants clean clothes, then he will have to wash them. If he wants to eat on a clean plate, the he will have to wash them. If he won't do it, then move out and keep a clean house for yourself. Obviously he's not ready to be in a responsible relationship since he still thinks he's living at home with mommy.
2006-12-18 07:49:39 · answer #5 · answered by spikeyblonde_22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask for help, Simply walk into the room where he's sitting and announce that you're going to clean out the clutter and you won't be held responsible for anything of his that "accidentally" gets thrown out. Tell him he's welcome to help if he wants some control over the situation, then start filling your trash bags.
2006-12-21 11:42:53 · answer #6 · answered by annie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of the problem may be you telling him he doesn't do it right. He may be thinking I will just let her do it so I don't have top hear how I don't clean up right.
2006-12-18 08:12:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u should dump him with the rubbish
2006-12-18 07:41:01 · answer #8 · answered by tinkerbell 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋