This guy thinks he is something and he can really get me angry sometimes with how self righteous he is, he is an extremely selfish and mean type of person and only ever out for his own benefit how can I put him in his place successfully?
2006-12-18 07:31:25 · 17 answers · asked by . 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My ex is like that and the best way that I learned to deal with him is to not care and to show him that life goes on for me though he is no longer part of it. His seeing that someone isn't even really interested in him (and also that I might be happy with someone else) definitely got under his skin and although it is somewhat satisfying to see, even if it hadn't I just don't care that much. He's arrogant and thinks way too highly of himself when in reality he is a douche so why waste anymore time then necessary on someone like that? Like I said the biggest blow to someone like that is to not deal with them at all. Good luck and i hope that everything works out for you:)
2006-12-18 07:38:15 · answer #1 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mums partner is like this,
If he does let you get a word in edgeways, spout out freud at him- about female worries- I read something in the "introducing..." books which gives a good insite into why men feel the need to be ego freaks, its about feeling inadequate and jelosey from there mothers and fathers, cant remeber exactly what it said but I'm sure google would know.
If he doesnt shut up, say something mede up and outof order to him, wait for him to argue back really get him worked up- if possible get your friends into it aswell- something like them putting a tax on people who work in ...job or have... as a name. Then when he is in way over his head, all burst out laughing, tell him it was a laugh at his expense and how the hell did he manage to take that seriously.
Then bring it up at every point possible, infront of girlfriends/boyfriends would be a good one.
mean, but it works!
The sad fact of the matter is though, acting like your ego is SO BIG is usually done to make the person feel they are adequate- eg "I lack so much else in my life, if I dont appear to know it all people will see how incompetent/how much of a nonperson I am and I will be lost/forgotten about/laughed at/told I am stupid"
If you are unable to get satisfaction from this, try talking to hiom and telling hime how you feel and that you would rather not be around him if he is going to carry on acting like a p### head. You cant change other people, you can only change what you do about them.
2006-12-18 07:46:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
By giving such a person like this attention is enhancing his behavior, which is the reason he is doing it in the first place. Ignoring someone is the worst thing you can do to someone. I mean total silence! The sooner he realizes the world does not revolve around him, the sooner the behavior will stop.
2006-12-18 07:42:19 · answer #3 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out what makes him feel insecure secretly and keep bringing up the subject in front of him and watch him squirm., this could be part of his body he does not like to a topic he hates talking about. if that don't work create a problem for him that he will struggle to get out of. for example pick holes in his work, break his computer by dropping it, tell lies about him, spread rumours about him chatting people up, he smells or has bad breath. send a card to his house saying how much you Love him for his partner to open i could go on and on use your loaf. 'good luck'
2006-12-18 07:40:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get another ego maniac to talk him down, that will shut him up
2006-12-18 07:34:35 · answer #5 · answered by curious cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cut person out of your life, it may not change how they act but it will greatly reduce the stress levels you have. I f you cannot avoid this person ignore them they will eventually get put out enough to either ask you what the problem is or just stay out of your way
2006-12-18 07:36:06 · answer #6 · answered by tarnak70 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
just don't show him that he makes you angry.. when you quit giving a ego tripped guy attention, thats when they do actually get a bit worse, just to see how far they can get away with it, but you still need to hold true, and he'll come around and be nice guy, or he'll leave you alone...
2006-12-18 07:37:10 · answer #7 · answered by lily 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
everytime you see him. laugh. then when he asks what your laughing at reply, o nothing, it will drive him crazy. or if you wanted you could say i'm laughing cos of summat someone told me about you. but you was sworn to secrecy and cant say. make him paranoid! you'll enjoy it.
2006-12-18 07:39:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put on every question of his - "I see you have set aside this special time to humiliate yourself''
Good luck xx
2006-12-18 07:35:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
annoy them sooooooo much act like them and thhen saythats what it feels like when your around
2006-12-18 07:36:49 · answer #10 · answered by sarah k 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋