i need serious advise only please.?

Question

im unhappy and will be seprating from my husband over my daughters summer break from school. we wont be fighting over anything. how much will the divorce cost? and he has been the father figure to my daughter for the past 3 yrs, would i have to allow visitations to him if he never adopted her?

this is my first marriage and i was happy at first. i wasnt asking to be put down i asked two questions and didnt want to put my personal life out there, just answer the ?'s asked, thank you.

Answer 1

Well uncontested divorces can be in expensive....but their is a child involved so it may be alittle more out of pocket.....oh wait this isn't his child? Then it should be cheep if you both are in agreement.

As far as visitation...this i believe would be up to what the two of you want. If you want and he wants the visitation the judge will not go against the best intest when it comes to a farther figure. If you don't want him to have visitation...he may be able to have hus say in court but seeing as though their has been no adoption, their isn't much he can do in my experience. Good luck to you all....Jenn

Answer 2

No you don't have to let him see your girl ever. But it's nice if he has been her father figure not to just quit. Leave it up to her and him how much they see each other. No sense upsetting them anymore than they already will be. Keep life simple and stable as possible. Cost depends on state where you live. Sometimes as high as 700 dollars, but you could get him to split the cost if you ask your attorney. This sounds like your second marriage. I hope someday you will be happy with a husband. Its a proven fact that once divorced you just go out and try find someone else to marry. Rather a vicious circle don't you think. A person just keeps trading on set of faults in a man for another set of faults in another man. Find one you think you can live with and make it work. For the child and for you. If you keep leaving you will end up alone and your child will never stay married because the example you set she sees. When you get older it is harder to find a good man . You loose your looks and sex appeal. Sure when your young anything is possible, and no man who ever he is will be perfect or give you what you want. That's life. Did your husband cause your unhappyness ? Cause if your not happy it could be something else not just your marriage. I have been married 4 times. I lived to regret getting the very first divorce. Now I'm a widow, and life is lonely. Good luck...

Answer 3

I would like to say no but I think it also depends on what state you lI've in each state laws are different but how it looks you shouldn't have to ive him visitation because he never adopted her and he is not her biological father. as far as how much it's going to cost for the divorce that really depends on the state you live in. And something else if he was a good father to her why not let him stay in her life it's not her that has the problems it's you and your ex.

Answer 4

Thats great if your going to be split if that saves the fighting!!
as far as cost??? well that kinda up to him, you, and lawyers.
just keep in mind the more you all settle on the less work the lawyers and courts have to do....I would set up a game plan on WANTS... HAVE TO HAVE's ect. no on the child part if he is not blood. than there is not much he can do. with the exception of in some states if you were a nonworking MOM than you might be intitled to some $ but not sure how that effects the child if not his.
now on the other hand if you both want him to be apart of the childs life then that is something that you'll have to work out.
GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 5

First, my divorce was uncontested for incompatibility. We settled everything between us and used one attorney. The whole divorce cost $800, including the cost for an emergency divorce which made it final the very next day. You may not have to allow visitation of the daughter, but if he has been a good father figure to her and they wants to be able to visit each other you shouldn't deny them that privilege. The only reason you shouldn't would be if he has been abusive to her, or you fear he will try to kidnap her. If she cares about him and wants to see him, and he is not a danger to her, it would be selfish of you to dent her that.

Answer 6

I would allow him visitation if the child wants him in her life you breaking up with him should not destroy the relationship between the two of them. Alot of times you may check with your local law offices or city hall and complete divorce papers yourself then get someone to notorize them this is easy if there is nothing to
fight over in the marriage. If both parties agree to the paper work then it goes in front of a judge and is termed the marriage is terminated. I hope you find the happiness you are seeking god bless and good luck.

Answer 7

There are some states where a stepparent has the right to petition for visitation, even if they never legally adopted the child. Rather or not he would get it depends on many factors. If he has a good relationship with the child, why not let it continue?

Answer 8

Its good that there is no fighting. Why wouldnt you want to still see your daughter if he has been a father figure for the last 3 years, but no I dont think he has any legal rights.

Answer 9

You should probably be more concerned with the cost of counseling rather than the cost of your divorce and the amount of child support that you will be getting. This will do grave damage to your child and you should prepare for that. I am not saying to stay with him especially if he is abusive but hat you should make every decision with your eyes wide open.

Answer 10

i have heard anywhere from $100-1500 uncontested.

you do not have to allow visitation, but if you and your daughter are ok with it and he wants it, i would say go ahead and work out an agreement on your own...as you said he has been the father figure for her lately.