hi, i got married when i was 14 and i cheated on my husband 2 times before i was 15 and i recently told him 2 years ago and he does well for a while then he gets upset and we split but this time we haven't talked any. i talked to his mother still but not him. what can i do to get him to forgive me it was a stupid mistake that i regret and i love him with all my heart how can i get him to come back to me and how do i know if he even loves me any more.
2006-12-18 07:13:18 · 11 answers · asked by lonely wife 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im 21 now and hes 34, i didn't know for sure that i wanted to be married but i did realize later on and it eat me alive to keep it from him and i come clean now ive lost him.
2006-12-18 07:25:57 · update #1
Wow! there isn't a whole lot to go on here. But this is the problem with marrying too young - you really aren't sure what you want at age 14. Your actions say as much. Maybe he realized that it was too young of an age to marry...I don't know, you really didn't offer a whole lot.
How old is he/you? How old was he when you married? How long have yout been married? Are there other factors within the relationship that should be considered?
etc, etc...
2006-12-18 07:17:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you get married at 14 ? Now I can truly tell you that at 14, you don't know what true Love is and I am not being a (B) but I should know I got married at 14 and had a child at 15 and I know I did not know what Love was. Why did you cheat on him? and How old is he? You are not at a place in your life where you can understand how much it means to someone to be true and faithful in a relationship because of your age. I went from playing with dolls to taking care of a real baby, and believe me it took me a long time to grow up. I was married to a man who was so mean he beat me up everyday and I weighed about 90 pounds and I never smiled and I had another child at 18 and I was no happier. I finally got out at 21 and still suffered for years at his hands and threats, so if he is a good person you need to search your heart and find the words but words won't bring him back actions will , show him the mature person you can be and let the new character show him not just words. But you have to mean it. Good Luck.
2006-12-18 15:26:29 · answer #2 · answered by klyn426 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, he's going to have to forgive you. If he don't then you're pretty much out of luck. You can't make someone forgive you. So try your best to have a heart to heart talk with him. If he won't take you back, then move on. You are young, you made some mistakes, no big deal...you've learned from your mistakes. He may also be using this as a reason to be single again....if he didn't like the married life. If there is no getting back with him, then find someone else who will love you. You have the rest of your life for this. Don't get depressed.....you only live once. Best of luck to you..........
2006-12-18 15:19:06 · answer #3 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How were you able to get married at 14? Sounds like this situation has allot of dysfunction going on. It also sounds like you need time to grow up and date instead of having a family to take care of. Maybe you should try being alone and being a young adult first before you go looking up your husband. You may end up doing it again if you don't have you stuff together. Work on yourself 1st then call him once you know who you are. And this is a tip..... I am 35 and I'm not sure at times.
2006-12-18 15:38:28 · answer #4 · answered by denavirgo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you now? You sound very young so there for you yet lack the experience and don't know that sometimes you have to keep certain things to yourself or things can get out of hand~Good Luck~ And remember I'm against lie's but sometimes the Truth can really hurt someone.Think before you act on next time...
2006-12-18 15:19:25 · answer #5 · answered by YO~NO~FUI E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sooooooo. He was 27 and married a 14 year old? He sort of deserves this, hon. He should have known better than to mess with such a young girl. You need to live a little. Enjoy your life. You only get one turn. Make it count.
2006-12-18 16:30:25 · answer #6 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that age difference now isnt to bad, but disgusting back when you first got married. He is a sicko. I have a 14 yr old daughter and would cut any mans thing off that age or any age at that matter if he got close to my daughter that age. You are still young, to many problems to start. Make a fresh new start.
2006-12-18 15:29:45 · answer #7 · answered by crazzzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you and he now? Why did you decide to get married so young? What happened in your marriage that caused you to cheat? These are all important questions that are going to make or break the answers....
2006-12-18 15:15:49 · answer #8 · answered by VolleyVixen75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, of course you cheated...you were just a baby!!! TELL Him that it was a mistake from when you were much younger...depending on how old you are now, he should be able to get past it or either he's just looking for an excuse to leave anyway
2006-12-18 15:19:45 · answer #9 · answered by huneygrl1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You got married when you were 14? Shop him to the police for child abuse, that'll get him back. -and not in the literal term.
2006-12-18 15:15:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋