the story is simple... i fell in love with my really good friend....we have been friends for like 5 years..... but when i finally told him, he said he i was just a friend nothing more...and he cud never see me as anything else...
well that broke my heart and i was depressed cuz i had fallen hard for him...but after sometime i kinda saw things in focus again...and continued with my studies... hey the guy was honest with me...
but then he called me with his gf problems as usual and it hurts, still damn hurts...
so i told him i wud be unavailable for some time... i needed some time to myself....
he just texted me right now... he needs me....(or is using me?) it will be again some gf probs...
should i reply?
2006-12-18 07:09:13 · 12 answers · asked by L W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just tell him that he needs to be sensitive to your feelings and to leave you alone for a while so you can sort out your thoughts.
Tell him that you have a lot of thinking to do and that you will contact him when you are ready to resume the friendship. If he really is a good friend, he will understand and wait for you.
Good luck
2006-12-18 07:13:07 · answer #1 · answered by amarilysusa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you want to remain friends with him then you should reply. If he needs you right now and you ignore him he'll remember that in the future. If it does hurt too much for you too talk to him, then keep it simple. Don't get into any conversations.Sooner or later, though, he'll notice you ignoring him or being distant and he may ask you about it. So just be prepared to tell him how you feel.
2006-12-18 15:17:43 · answer #2 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of his ultimate value in your life . . . would you rather have this person long term or chance termination over selfishness? It's OK to be selfish and want all facets of a relationship to be what you want them to be. But inherent in a relationship is reciprocity. If he's important enough to you (in any role) to maintain the relationship, be what he's asking you to be. All things evolve and maybe the next step will be the one you really want. By then, YOU might have reassigned HIM to friend only.
2006-12-18 15:21:53 · answer #3 · answered by answersforkate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to figure out how to separate the 2. Are you able to separate the feelings that you have for him and be a true friend? If so the you should help him.
2006-12-18 15:21:05 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you guys got 5 years of friendship built up and now you just wanna say hey leave me alone until you decide to be with me? He sees exactly what he saw 5 years ago a friend. He feels like you can talk him out of his problems like you been probally doing but It seems like you rather him be miserable like you.
2006-12-18 15:14:22 · answer #5 · answered by passion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you would be unavailable, so I wouldn't. You need some time to separate yourself from him to decide whether you want to remain friends with him or dissolve your friendship because you feel more for him than he does for you. You really need time to think it over.
2006-12-18 15:18:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn’t. That’s just my opinion. I think if he knows how you feel about him and still ask you for gf advice, that that’s alittle disrespectful. Yes its good that he was honest with you but out of respect for your feelings as HIS FRIEND, he shouldn’t talk about her often with you let alone ask for YOUR advice. Matter fact next time he does that, give him bad advice, lol
2006-12-18 15:15:06 · answer #7 · answered by Fearfully & wonderfully made 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him too write to Dear Deirdre in the sun news paper in E England she is a good agony aunt.Why should you be bothered with his troubles,tell him where to go.Get on with your own life
2006-12-18 15:20:12 · answer #8 · answered by Nookie bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO - don't put yourself through unnecessary pain. He obviously doesn't truly respect you or your feelings. He sounds like a very selfish person!
2006-12-18 15:13:53 · answer #9 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only save your heart from getting hurt.
2006-12-18 15:12:19 · answer #10 · answered by Jayne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋