Can anyone help me out on this one?

Question

After my husband died I found out I was pregnant. I had my little boy Michael and when he was five months old I started dating Brad. Two years later Brad and I had a little girl named Diane. After three years of Brad sitting on his butt watching tv and snackingall day long and not paying attention to either kid he and I broke up and I started dating a female. Both the kids love Wendy and even call her mom. Wendy and I do stuff with the kids every day. Wendy and I moved outta the same state as Brad for about eight months with Brads permision to leave state with Diane. The hole time we were outta state Brad called maybe eight times when we agreed he would call every other day to every three days. He complained he couldn't call cause he didn't have any minutes on his phone so I got him a phone on my plan so he could talk to the kids for free anytime. He then quit calling all together and let his girlfriend use the phone. He had Diane and Michael the other day and I found out that he

sits the kids in front of the tv the hole time he has them. And when I went to pick up the kids his girlfriend started calling me a Bit** with the kids right there. I have never bad mouthed Brad or his girlfriend and now there doing it to Wendy and I with the kids right in front of them. On top of it all they tried to keep Diane till I called the cops. What in the would should I do? Is there any laws in Florida about same sex relationships and child custody? Can I keep Diane from going with her dad if his girlfriend is there (since she wants to talk bad about me)? We were not married and his name is on the birth certificate. Oh and now he says he wants full custody of her. Would a judge give it to him even though he's always working and never paid attention to her anyways? Please help!!

I also wanted to add that I don't work because I home school Diane. Since the preschool's in our area are full. Wendy does work and is able to support all of us with no problem.

While Brad and I were together I worked and supported him and he was I guess like the house wife that did nothing. While we were together I would work then come home and take care of the kids and the house while Brad sat there and did nothing. Now I'm not working because I am home schooling Diane.

Answer 1

This is a tough one but atleast you have found happiness. I'm surprised you found it in a women though have you always had lesbian feelings anyways thats another topic. I do believe you should file for full cusatody of Diane it is apparent that the father does not care for her or your son like you and Wendy do. I would claim that he is a bad father and doesn't even bother to stay in contact with them via phone he is a lazy a ss and should not be given the right o be in her life if all he does is mistreat them and would rather spend time with his new girlfriend you have a good case many same sex couples have raised very healthy and smart children and it seems all this guy does is throw them both in front of a TV rather then spending the quality time he needs to do when a child is young. This is no father this is a jerk that gave his sperm that is all get full custody and tell the guy to go get snipped because he is not father material and should not have anymore babies until he grows up. God Bless and Good Luck
although the whole god thing does not apply to you because well you are commiting one of the biggest sins in the bible but I'm not one to judge that will be done when the time comes.

Answer 2

I seriously doubt that he could get custody of your daughter. You need to contact an attorney as soon as possible. Start proceedings before he can. I think the courts are figuring out that same sex couples often make wonderful parents. I don't know what your rights are as far as keeping your girl away from her dad, but I would look into it. Are there any gay and lesbian groups in your area that might help you in your custody fight? Check into it. This is going to sound a little bit smart assed, but email Rosie O'Donnell at The View or see if she has her own website. I find her a little obnoxious, but she does worlds of good on this subject. Good luck, and God Bless.

Answer 3

You can not stop a father from seeing their child. However if you are concerned you can go in front of a judge and ask for supervised visits. I would also ask for full custody of your daughter and a set schedule for visitation. That way he can only take his daughter on his scheduled time and not any other (unless you agree to it). As far as the mean girlfriend I am not sure there is a whole lot you can do about her unless she is abusive to the children. You could try to get a restraining order and list the children as well and then she would not be able to go near them when they are at your ex's.

Answer 4

Set up a court date with Brad. I would have to say that brad can't have Michael because you didn't had him with Brad, but I'm not sure about Diane. (P.S. When you're with the judge, you shouldn't say that Brad sat on his butt watching T.V. all day because you just said that you don't work and he did work to support you and the kids.)

Answer 5

You know something funny? You asked a similar question a few days ago, and when i mentioned about you having children with people you weren't married to you sent me an email stating that you were married to the second guy and that jerks like me are why you are a lesbian. Now you say you weren't and he wasn't on the birth certificate.
You can't stop a father from seeing his child, and you cannot make him responsible for another child that isn't legally his.
I think you allow your children to refer to your partners as Mom and Dad way too soon.

By the way giving it a thumbs down doesn't change the truth.

And dropping unfriendly messages on questions of mine isn't necessary, either.

Answer 6

He would never get full custody. You may have to share custody with him still but they can't take your children away. As long as you are providing for them and taking care of them no one will tell you you can't have custody. I don't think florida has any rule about same sex relationships, i don't think that would factor into it. I am sry you have to deal with all that! You sound like a good mother.

Answer 7

You need a lawyer and your kids can actually talk with a judge about what happens when they are with him

Answer 8

You most likely need to contact an attorney in your state.