this is my female family member...i wanna kick her new husbands azz...what do i do??? what do i say??? i am kinda lost??
2006-12-18 06:36:33 · 27 answers · asked by the one 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Alrighty ! First this isn't your job to beat him up unless he put his hands on her. Then I say go for it but that's just me! She is going to have to make the decision on whether or not she wants to keep him. What you can do is sit her down and have her write the pros and cons with being with this guy. Don't say anything negative or positive then If she stays with him there won't be any drama. When she is tired of the nonsense she won't feel guilty and cut you as friend later. Just my opinion though.
Good Luck !
2006-12-18 07:13:06 · answer #1 · answered by Mz Jones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her the minimum advice possible, do not say anything to her husband. If she stays with him that will only put a strain between you and her. She will have to make the decision that is right for her, even though you might not agree with her. The only thing I would say to her is that no one will think less of her or be disappointed in her no matter what her choice his, and let her know you will have her back.
2006-12-18 14:39:43 · answer #2 · answered by dlgrl=me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At this moment in time there isn't anything you can do but be a freind. Just talk to her and listen to what she has to say. If she wants to leave her husband because he cheated on her that decesion should come from her. Think about how she is going to feel if she left because u told her to and later regreted the decesion. Good Luck
2006-12-18 14:41:14 · answer #3 · answered by MIA 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
okay sweetie,
First off let her know that she did nothing wrong to be cheated on, And that time will heal her wounds. But first she may not want to talk about it she just may need sometime. But when she is ready to tak just better to listen and give the best advise that you can give to her. You are a true friend, And I am sorry that she has to go through this. I pray for her and wish her all the best.
2006-12-18 14:43:10 · answer #4 · answered by Callie B. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Best possible thing you can do for HER is to let her know you're there for her if she needs a shoulder to cry on or someone to talk to. The problem is, you can't "fix" this for her. Only she can find a workable solution for her situation, and it will help her to know she has a god support system.
Resist the temptation to confront her husband; it probably won't help anything, and beating on him will only get you in trouble and make her situation worse as well.
2006-12-18 14:43:40 · answer #5 · answered by shirasaya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she talks to you about it... then listen. Find out what she wants to do, and support her in any decision she makes... Beating up the new husband won't solve any problems... though it might feel good for a moment... it won't help her or him in the long run... you'll give her a reason to resent you, and you'll give him a reason to resent her... Just be a quiet supporter... it works wonders.
2006-12-18 14:44:06 · answer #6 · answered by just nate 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well stay out of it unless she wants you to give him a beat down. Be careful, some women, and I'm saying this unfortunately, will still stay w/ the man. And if this may be the case, you don't want to wind up sitting your behind in jail while she's out cuddled up w/ the cheater.
2006-12-18 15:01:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be there for her. that's about all you can do. don't start off by bad-mouthing the two-timing loser... i'd keep that to a minimum and only if she does it. like if she's calling him a no-good mf crack-baby, just agree with her but don't come up with your own explitives even if he deserves it. the reason for this is even if he is a low-life scumbag, there's a chance that she might forgive him and if you've already told her how you've always hated him because he looked like a loser, she's going to know that now and will never forget it.
2006-12-18 14:42:43 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that there is anything you can say that will make her feel better. Just be there for her so she has someone to console her and listen to her. she probably should leave him. if hes cheating already, chances are hes cheated before and will continue to cheat.
2006-12-18 14:40:09 · answer #9 · answered by ravinskye 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There isn't much you can do. Just be there to support her if she stays or leaves. You can tell her your opinions, but keep it civil, she and the loser may get back together and you can't un-say things. She will be in a lot of pain, so just be her shoulder to cry on.
2006-12-18 14:42:00 · answer #10 · answered by Bev 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋