My ex broke up with me after 7 years together, when i was going through a hard time, possible redundancy at work and my nan had just had a stroke.He told me that he didn't love me and that he wanted to stay friends, then he started to blame me for the break up, that i didn't do enough for him and that he didn't want this anymore (all said nastily), and even though he was still attracted to me he saw me like a sister. Yet we are due to go on holiday abroad with my family and he still wanted to go!. I can't stay friends, as it hurts. Am i right in telling him not to come on holiday, even though he will lose money??
2006-12-18 06:22:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Of course you are right!
Why should anyone go on holiday with someone who has said that kind of thing to them. If he insists on going, pay him off or stay at home yourself - at least you'll get a holiday away from his pathetic whinging! By the way, "I'm still attracted to you but I see you as a sister" is weak-loser-man speak for "I want to keep you available in case nobody else will have sex with me, but I'll never really commit to you."
This man sounds incapable of being your friend. There are good, honest men out there, don't waste any more time or tears on this one.
2006-12-18 06:39:21 · answer #1 · answered by bernieszu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right and i agree with not staying friends with exes especially if they're the ones ending the relationship (with poor excuses). He broke up with you whilst you were going through a really hard time in your life, no friend would do that Say goodbye and don't feel sorry for him.
2006-12-18 06:37:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let him go as it seems he only wanted the cake to himself and treated you really badly. Go on holiday and have a great time, forget his whinging and who knows you might get a far better person in the end. Good luck.
2006-12-18 06:32:58 · answer #3 · answered by paul M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, absolutely. You don`t have to consider HIS feelings, HIS holiday arrangements or HIS financial situation any more. Why should you spoil YOUR holiday by having him tag along. Tell him TOUGH. The same situation happened to my son this year. He was supposed to go to America with his girlfriend but they split up, and he lost the money he had paid. It`s just one of those things.
2006-12-18 07:08:55 · answer #4 · answered by The BudMiester 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you have every right to not include this putz on your vacation. He has done enough to screw it up already. Tell this schmoe to take a hike, and do have fun. I hope you meet someone new!
2006-12-18 06:37:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. you are nothing but right on this. if he wanted to just be friends, he's going to have to get used to the fact that he can't be up your *** 24/7. he's going to have to let go. if i were you, i'd tell him that he couldn't go. but honestly, you need to do what your gut tells you. if you really don't want him to go, you need to tell him that. as much as it hurts, you have to let him go. one person can't make love. it takes two. sorry i couldn't be more help.
2006-12-18 06:29:59 · answer #6 · answered by confused_1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget letting him come on your family vacation.... offer to pay half back for lose of money - he broke up with you so he should feel the pain too.... if he balks at half tell him to take a flying..... and be done with it.
2006-12-18 06:28:01 · answer #7 · answered by D. 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he used u and sure he has another relation. forget him and u will meet who deserve u in the end.
2006-12-18 07:50:09 · answer #8 · answered by mile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aw **** him he just wants to hang next to you for the money, so what if he loses his asss
2006-12-18 07:43:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell this fuker were to go and dont pay him any money let him go through pain
2006-12-18 09:48:30 · answer #10 · answered by Linde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋