My boyfriend wants me to lose weight. He has been really pressuring for me to do so. He said he fell in love with my heart and wants me to look more appealing. I have been told by doctors that I need to lose as well. I am not grossly over weight, however I can stand to lose a few.
2006-12-18 06:10:03 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you want to loose weight do it for yourself not for your boyfriend. If he really fell in love with your heart your weight should not bother him. However let me tell you that you will feel so much better about yourself if you loose weight. Again this is about you, not anyone else. Your self esteem will go up, you will just feel better physically, and your energy levels will go up as well. Do it for your own peace of mind and your health.
2006-12-18 06:44:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey! I swear this is one of the hardest issues women have to deal with these days, whether they are single, taken, or in between. For me, the bottom line is this: is losing weight what YOU want?? Do you think you look fine (or feel fine) now? If so, simply tell your boyfriend that he needs to love and support you regardless of what weight you're at. The time and energy the two of you are wasting bickering about this issue is time you are not spending dancing, going to dinner, taking a weekend away, making love, laughing, creating, or whatever!! I am a currently a size 26 and have been between a size 18 and 26 my entire adult life. My dating calendar is full practically every night of the week, and I have never had problems finding quality dating and sex partners. It is SO not about how much you weigh or whether or not you can pinch an inch; it's about how you love and how you let your light shine. If your boyfriend is still badgering you about losing weight (it's about his insecurities, not yours) after a heartfelt discussion, then he's probably not ready for a meaningful commitment to you (or anyone else, for that matter). Good luck and stay strong!
2006-12-18 06:30:37 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Di 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend should love you for who you are in the inside, not what you look like on the outside. But, if your doctor says that you should lose some weight, then I would take his advice and try to lose some weight. He is saying this because it concerns your health. Your doctor is not telling you to lose weight because of your looks, like your boyfriend. I think your boyfriend had better decide what and who he loves, the person you are now, or the person he wants you to be!
2006-12-18 07:43:55 · answer #3 · answered by country girl 006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should loose weight only if you want to. I understand that it's important for a man to feel attracted to his woman. And women to their men. So, if he cannot feel attracted to you because of your weight, then he will have to love you just for you. That may be very difficult for him...as shallow as it sounds, but there is more to a relationship than personality. Physical attraction comes into play also. That's how most of us hook up...by sight first, then by personality. However, unless he met you on-line, he knew your size and hooked up with you anyway. As time has gone on, he must feel like your weight could be a deal-breaker concerning your long-term relationship. That is the part where you have to decide if you still want him. He's changed the game here. First it was OK, now it's not. Even though I am a woman, I can understand why he's pushing you. He probably cares deeply for you, yet, now realizes that your weight is a problem for "him." Rather than break up with you to find a woman who's size is more to his liking, he wants to get you to loose weight so he can stay with you. He must like your personality an awful lot to see if "you" will change for him. Some women would resent that. I think I would. Yet, he must feel you are not the whole package. He must decide if he can live with that. And you must decide if he's worth keeping. If you have struggled with your weight all your life, then even if you loose the weight (for him or yourself) it's not that unlikely that at some point you may gain it back. You will worry about every morsel you put into your mouth and wonder if he's watching you. I would not like that. No one wants to have someone monitoring what they eat, nor pushing them to loose weight. If that's what he has done to you, then I would seriously consider moving on. There are plenty of men out there that want a woman with nice curves and will accept her for who she is. You deserve to have that kind of man. So, unless he can accept your weight now, he probably won't change his mind later. I would ask him if he loves you enough to stay with you weather you loose weight or not. His answer will tell you what to do.
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2016-05-15 00:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't lose the weight for boyfriend but instead for yourself. If your doctors tell you that you need to lose weight then I would say yes to that. If a doctor tells you that, it's probably for health reasons and that's a good reason to lose the weight.
2006-12-18 06:17:23 · answer #6 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend is REALLY IN LOVE with you he would accept you at any weight 100 # or 400# Hell NO! lose weight because YOU want to, not because HE WANTS you to.
2006-12-18 06:25:59 · answer #7 · answered by nickle 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would lose weight for my health. And if your boyfriend cares about your health then I wouldn't see anything wrong with him wanting you to lose weight for that reason.
2006-12-18 06:19:25 · answer #8 · answered by TC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would lose the weight and get rid of him....or if you don't wanna do that see if getting in shape together is something your boyfriend would want to do.
2006-12-18 06:19:46 · answer #9 · answered by lovher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change. If he can't deal then cut him loose. If you are happy the way you are then don't change for anyone. If you feel unhealthy and you WANT to lose the weight then do so, but do it for yourself and not for someone else.
2006-12-18 06:16:49 · answer #10 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋