Ok this is my situation:
I have been with my husband for 5-yrs know we are both 21 I talked to him on the endings of September I mention to him I was ready to be a mom if he was ready for us to have kids he agreed we have been trying nothing has happened yet know the last day we tried was Sunday 12/10 I was in the process of ovulation that day only god knows if I will end up pregnant or what! know on Tuesday 12/12 he talked to me and mention he is not prepared to be a father he really hurt me because is something I have been wanting he says I want one because my cousins are having kids and I'm the only one without one which is ridiculous I care less what they do or don't do I'm the one who will raise and support my kid not them, So know everytime we do it he pulls it out and I feel very hurt of the fact that he is not ready
What would you ladies do???
Man why do some feel they aren't ready what goes thru ur mind I ask him and tell him to be honest with me he just says he isn't ready
2006-12-18 06:04:27 · 2 answers · asked by Jazz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-12-18 11:20:19 · answer #1 · answered by Help? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should respect his decision. Give him sometime so that he can be ready too. If you weren't ready I am sure that you would like to given time to be ready as well. I think it is perfectly normal that he thought he was ready and then all of a sudden change his mind and think he is not. Having a baby is not easy it takes a lot of work and responsibility.
Maybe his reasons changed because of the financial situation.
Are you two going to be able to provide for the baby 100%? buying formulas, diapers, clothes, cribs, and everything that the baby will need?
are you two going to be able to provide unconditional love for the baby all the time. will you be able to find someone to watch the baby, so that you guys can work. Maybe he thinks that a baby will change things between each other. which it does in so many different ways.
There can be a lot of reason I can just say to give him time and respect his decision. I know you are hurt because you really want a baby, but it is best when both of you are ready.
Good Luck!
2006-12-18 17:55:33 · answer #2 · answered by Sugar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋