8 months pregnant, had horrible heartburn last night so bad that i started to cry husband told me to stop?

Question

he just laid that and told me that he has had bad heartburn and it's nothing to cry about...yes but has he ever been preg? i don't think so...i was just looking for some confort...a rub on the back..something...i didn't get anything like that...i know he loves me..but still...what is a good way to bring up how i feel about that? he does it a lot...he even tells our 2 year old to stop crying if she gets hurt...do you think i am right to feel this way??

Answer 1

Seriously, what did you want him to do? You had heartburn, you didn't get hit by a car. You weren't told that you were going to die in 6 months. I had HORRIBLE heartburn when I was pregnant. Go see a doctor and have him prescribe a PPI for you.
Now, address the problem with your husband. Tell him something like "you know since I'm pregnant again, I feel crappy a lot and I don't need you to fix it, but I would like you to at least give me some comfort. If I agree to only complain when things are really bad, can you agree to give me some love to feel better?"
As for your daughter. How does she respond to the way he talks to her? Is she OK with it (then leave it alone) does she run to you instead (now you are making sides for her to choose) or does she look scared and confused (now you need to discuss this behavior with your husband).

Answer 2

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Answer 3

My ex was that way. His philosophy was to stop crying & do something about it.
My sweetie now did something similiar once & the next day I told him straight out I just needed some comfort. Why did you have to talk to me like that. It was obviously important to me at the time or I wouldn't have said something to you. He asked what did you want me to do about it & I told him rub my back. He apologized & said he was having a hard day, was tired & didn't get it. The acknowlegement of that out loud made all the difference to me. I don't know why I kept my mouth shut when I was married. Maybe that was the problem. I had heartburn with my 2nd kid & it wasn't fun. Took me offguard & very painful. Just remember when you give birth you will forget about the heartburn & it will have been worth it.

Answer 4

as a child he probably wasnt aloud to really cry, or express emotion. My hubby is the same way, but their father was real tough on them. He was a good dad but he didnt let them express emotions. And now my hubby doesnt know how to express emotions. He does love you, as i know my hubby loves me. The best thing you can do is just sit him down and tell him that being pregnant isnt easy and it is very painful, and tell him that it hurts when he ignores that. He might take what you say with a grain of salt, but someday when he comes home like my hubby does and asks to push on his shoulder or whatever because it "hurts" tell him then next time when i hurt, do something about it lol. Thats what i do and it works. He just doesnt know how to handle emotions thats the bottom line. Men dont know what its like to be pregnant and there minds will never be able to even imagin what it is like. But you know he loves you, next time take his hand and ask him if he would please rub your back cause it would make you feel better, im sure he will do this for you. Goodluck and hang in there.....:)

Answer 5

Chronic heartburn is usually from acid reflux - stomach acid is getting past the little valve and into your esophagus. You also should know some natural ways to treat your heartburn. Learn them here https://bitly.im/aMG5t

The most immediate thing you can do is to stop drinking coffee and cola. Smoking is not good either, but that might be harder to stop. Don't over-eat. Don't lie down too soon after eating. Don't burp too much - this carries acid up with the burp.

heartburn the most common symptom of acid reflux disease (also known as gastroespohageal reflux disease, or GERD). Heartburn feels like a burning pain in the center of the chest. It is caused by acid from the stomach backing up into the esophagus. is a symptom of acid reflux disease (GERD) Also known as Gastroesophageal Reflux Disease

Answer 6

of course you're right! But that doesn't mean he's going to change. My husband acts the same way - which makes me cry even harder. He'll never understand what you're going thru. You just have to understand that you won't get sympathy from him for stuff like that. I tend to just let my husband whine when he isn't feeling good...let him know how it feels to be hurt and no one else cares. LOL!! Hope you're feeling better today. They say that if you have heartburn, the baby will have lots of hair... (I'm due in 2 weeks and I think my baby is BALD! :) )

Answer 7

Some man just don't understand. My husband will sometimes rub my back and other times he will try to out complain me. I swear during pregnancy something happens to them too.

Next time ask him if he has ever been carring a baby and having heartburn for two. Tell him no you haven't so I would like some sympathy.

Answer 8

I am 7 months pregnant, and I think that your hormones are a little out of whack because of the pregnancy so something you have obviously dealt with for a while is now starting to bother you. I think you need to decide if you are really upset about it, or if it is just the hormones making you so upset.

Answer 9

men hate when girls cry, why I don't know, but they do. They don't know what to say or how to handle it. I was crying in the middle of the night one night when I was pregnant because when I got up to pee I saw that my dog had chewed my flip flops. I went back to bed bawling. My boyfriend thought it was funny, but I didn't! Just rub it off, men don't get it and never will!

Answer 10

I'll be honest, he sounds a little insensative. I think you need to have a talk with him about being more supportive. I'd be pretty worried about his reaction to the two year old too. Will he tell the baby to stop crying when he/she needs a clean diaper too?