I have some issues that I would like to discuss with certain people however, I am very scared of what they might say. How should I go about telling someone something without hurting their feelings and/or without having them being upset with me and start avoiding me? These people are very important to me and these are very touchy subjects.
2006-12-18 05:58:32 · 8 answers · asked by Savannah 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
There is no easy way for you to deal with this because whatever you have to say you will just have to say if really care for these people because you want them to know the truth of the matter regardless of the situation, if they don't accept you for you and what you have to say, then you must not be that important to them... Being/ getting hurt is part of life because life is hard and hurtful, but very loving at times... good luck and be confident but compassionate when you say what you have to say...
2006-12-18 06:05:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you need to assess the need to express these things as to how important they are to you and if they actually matter in your day to day life. If you are just foisting your opinion on them because you disagree with the way they do things, then you are out of line, and should pay attention to your own path. If what they are doing is actually affecting you or people you love in a negative or destructive way, then by all means, express your feelings, but be prepared for a negative response. Remember, just because you don't agree with a thing, or don't like something doesn't make it wrong for someone else, as that is their decision to make, not yours. If people are behaving in such a way that you feel it is difficult to be around them, tell them once, and disassociate your self from them.
2006-12-18 21:36:08 · answer #2 · answered by Crowfeather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting it off your chest must be very important. Transferring your guilt of knowing something that is hurting you may not be the way you want to go especially if these people are important to you.
Keep the hurt and tell someone the details before you decide to transfer your hurt to them.
Additionally weigh the sacrifice you or them. What I mean is that If they are not important to you, well tell them.
2006-12-18 14:08:20 · answer #3 · answered by SYLVIA S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not good to keep things pent up inside of you. If these are people that truly care about you then they will listen and talk with you about whatever your issues are. If these people aren't willing to civilly work these issues out then they aren't the kind of people that you want around you. The ones closest to you are the ones that you can say anything to and they won't automatically dismiss you but will help you grow.
2006-12-18 14:05:49 · answer #4 · answered by Mighty Thinker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must find that certain person to talk about all this that one person becomes your shrink and does not judge then put your plan into action or maybe after all the talking you might have another route to take,
2006-12-18 14:13:03 · answer #5 · answered by Gypsy Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start off with telling them a big issue you have, and then continue on with how your issue relates to how you have an issue with them very lightly.
that way you are kind of not just being mean to them, but also to yourself.
2006-12-18 14:08:04 · answer #6 · answered by give me something to believe. ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would come right out and say. I would also let them know that you care about them and that you are not trying to hurt them .
2006-12-18 14:06:57 · answer #7 · answered by c0mplicated_s0ul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stay from that situation. Things usually work out over time.
2006-12-18 14:02:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋