am I really capable of carrying this baby?

Question

I had a miscarriage on the 5th of November, I posted here and everyone was so nice, kind and considerate. I have asked alot of similar questiosn as I have had my worries. But today I am asking a new question. I know it takes 6 weeks or can take that amount of time for a normal period to resume. I waited and now I am 3 days over that, I did a test today and it was a fait line. Because i have miscarried at 6 weeks, is it probably that it might happen again? I am asking you al out there as my doc is closed and I cant go until the morning. I guess i just want a bit of reassurance. I feel crampy, so im not sure if i should read too much into this? Thanks in advance. A very worried mum to be?

Answer 1

As many as one in four early pregnancies end in miscarriage, and in the vast majority of cases it's because the baby wasn't forming properly - nothing to do with the mum's capability of carrying a baby or anything she did. Some women are unlucky enough to have recurrent miscarriages, but the vast majority of women who have one miscarriage go on to have a normal healthy pregnancy next time around. It's perfectly understandable that you feel nervous after what happened last time. If you feel that you have unresolved grief or anxiety from your miscarriage it may help to talk to someone from the Miscarriage Association http://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/ .

Answer 2

Coming off a miscarriage into a new pregnancy you are going to be scared, everything well probably scare you until you are safe (past 12 weeks) I was like that too. With my first after miscarriage even with the second I was a nervous reck. Most miscarriages happen for a reason, the baby would not have survived. This baby you have now does not nessecarily have that same out come. Relax, think positive, and be happy. Don't think about what could go wrong, think about all the rights that can happen.
I have a beautiful son and way on the way (30 weeks). I thought the same way you are right now.

Answer 3

It isn't going to be the exact 6 weeks before you get your period back. I think you should wait it out a little longer and see what happens. What are your doubts? That you are pregnant again and are miscarrying? Seems like you have suffered more than one miscarriage. How about maybe wating some time before getting pregnant again, let your body recuperate from the last miscarriage. That way you have a better chance of your body not rejecting your pregnancy.

Answer 4

miscarriages are normal.

many women have them especially for a first time pregnancy. just relax.. have a healthy lifestyle and do focus on the health of the child.

eat right.. don't stress out... and just keep the check ups coming...

it's rare that there's a second miscarriage... but if this happens.. then you should get checked out all over to see if there's nothing going on that is preventing a full pregnancy.... could be something simple.. or a complex situation that you may have inherited from a relative long past and the issue is unknown now to the family or you have a prelude disease that may lie ahead.

but i do think you're stressing too much about this.

time, patience and doing the right thing.

time... just allow it to happen.

if the worst happens again.. don't fret.. just get looked over.. could be very easily correctable.. even a small fibroid can cause a pregnancy to terminate early and fibroids are so easy to remove.

there's a multitude of possibilities..

but don't stress.

Answer 5

first pregnancies usually end in miscarriage cause most women don't even know they are pregnant! But trust me, hon, most pregnancies turn out just fine, even AFTER you have a miscarriage. I had one my first pregnancy at 10 weeks. When I got preg with my daughter, I was so worried...every ache and pain I thought something was going to happen. Trust me, for 9 months I worried until I held her in my arms for the first time!

I don't think you have anything to worry about, but just take precautions. If it should happen again, god forbid, you might want to make sure nothing is underlying that is causing it (i.e., genetic abnormalities or maybe you have problems you don't know about). Please, I dont' want to scare you. Try enjoying this as much as you can. It's easier said than done, but I 've been there, so I know what you are going thru! All my luck to you!!!

Answer 6

It could happen again, yes. Life is not fair, nor is it perfect. You may be able to carry again tho. Its been done many times before so keep your hopes up! Faint line usualy means pregnant, and crampy is also a sure sighn! Just remember that all things happen for a reason. Keep your chin up and all should go well. Good luck to you! Im glad that your seeking help here and that everyones been nice to you, theres a lot of jerks on here too!

Answer 7

Of course you are! There is no reason to think it will happen again. My sister had a miscarriage, got pregnant straight away and then went on to have a lovely baby boy. I also know lots of other women who have had successful pregnancies after a miscarriage.
Feeling crampy in early pregnancy is very common and no reason to worry.
Just relax and take it easy.

Answer 8

There is def. a chance that you will misscarry again after having one...but there is also a chance that you will have a successful pregnancy!!

Remember a miscarriage at such an early time is nature's way of saying something is not right with the baby...this could have been a one time thing. It is important to think positive until you have no reason to think that way.

I have been crampy throughout this whole pregnancy, and expecially crampy today. Try to relax and think positive...it does more good than you think!!!

Good luck...and let us know how it goes!!!

Answer 9

hi, i understand how worried u are. i mis carried in september and it reallly threw me as we had been trying for a year and i got caught pregnant 6 week later (i am now 9 1/2 weeks), and this time i have been really paranoid but touch wood its looking good this time( i only got to 6 week when i mis carried last time). every little pain im thinking oh no, but people say try not 2 worry about it . my doctor even told me when she confirmed it this time that many women miscarry then go on 2 have a normal, healthy pregnancy....i wish u good luck and hope this helps xxxxxxx

Answer 10

It might take a little longer for your period to come, there is no exact time. You just had a miscarriage so your body is changing and trying to get back to normal. But if you are pregnant now you should be ok. I wish you the best and good luck.