My fiance and i dont meet each other very often,we call everyday but the longest conversation wouldn't even last more than 15min on a normal day.
My future sis-in-law gave birth 2 wk ago. Now my fiance is all over his new nephew. He would not be able to talk on the phone with me when he's holding the baby, he would wake up n take care of him if the baby cries at 4am. And when we do talk, he talks abt his nephew. I'm like, hello!! Do i still exist or wat?
I start imagining that the same thing's gonna happen when we're married and have children-his attention will be on the kids and none on me. My eyes are glowin a frickin' green color,and i feel like a terrible person!
Is it even normal of me to feel this way? Or am i just being a drama queen,and there's nothing to worry about?
2006-12-18 05:38:48 · 12 answers · asked by giselle_00 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You just don't like the spot light to be taken away from you. So, yes, you are jealous because he doesn't pay as much attention to you as before. Yes honey, it's not all about you.
Something for you to consider:
-How him being there for his family on such an important life changing event be a bad thing?
-How is him being a loving uncle be a bad thing?
-How is being considerate loving and careful towards a baby a bad thing?
Look at it this way... this is a reflection of what might happen to you in the future, so again... how is that a bad thing????
The way I see it is that you are being a princess and being needy is going to just spoook him away.
So I say, drama queen.
Good luck
2006-12-18 05:43:24 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry to say this but it is human to be a victim of the green eyed monster sometimes. Children are special, and they capture hearts in a way no adult can.
I can understand your jealousy toward your nephew but to your own future children?? I have a 3 mth baby and neither my fiance or I have problems spending time with each other. He also has a 4yr old girl.
We spend time with the kids, he spends time alone with his daughter, and then we have our time. So noone is left feeling bereft.
What you need to do is set aside your time. If you only speak for 15 mins then you need to spend at least 10 mins speaking about each other, what you did, doing, how you feel about each other, etc. The toher 5 mins can be used to discuss other ppl and the not so important daily stuff.
Just be understanding that a new baby will cause some reaction! You're not bad unless you take the jealousy to an unreasonable limit.
What you can also try is to link with the baby, I mean see the baby as your nephew as well so that you can feel some of the excitement.
2006-12-18 13:47:17 · answer #2 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand that you are missing your mans attention right now, but you have to understand that a lot of people don't realize how much you can love a baby until there is one that is close to you. I have a little brother that is 2 and a half years old and I never knew that I could love someone so little so much. Just tell your man that you understand that he is crazy about his nephew but you only have a limited time to talk to eachother and you would really like it if at least SOME of that time were just about the two of you. I think he will understand that. You are trying to work on building a real, lasting relationship with him and he probably doesn't even realize what he is doing.
Good luck.
2006-12-18 13:44:04 · answer #3 · answered by Nik 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should be very thankful your finace loves newborns that much and he is not afraid to take care of and interact with babies. The fact that he is devoted to his nephew is a good sign and really should assure you that one day he'll be a great attentive father. As for your jealousy over a baby, sounds like you have something you need to work on.
2006-12-18 13:46:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm surprised that you consider talking 15 minutes a day a sufficient way to have a relationship. Getting jealous over a newborn baby says you're immature and self-centered. It's normal if you're a spoiled brat. You're not ready to get married, not even close. Sorry.
2006-12-18 13:43:02 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I vote Drama Queen.
2006-12-18 13:41:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You’re jealous of a baby. Get over it. You might consider not having any children of your own until you grow up some.
2006-12-18 13:54:34 · answer #7 · answered by kp 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drama queen,. Your jealous of a baby that needs loves and attention.
2006-12-18 13:43:27 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
YEAH, YOU ARE FULL OF DRAMA BUT YOU ALSO FEEL THIS WAY BECAUSE ITS NOT YOUR BABY. IF YOU 2 HAD A BABY YOU WOULD BE OVERJOYED THAT THE MAN YOU LOVE ALSO LOVES YOR BABY AS MUCH AS HE WILL. MOST TIMES AS A MOTHER, WE TEND TO LOVE OUR MAN MORE WHEN HE SHOWS THAT PRECIOUS LOVE FOR OUR CHILD...OR YOU COULD BE ONE OF THE ONES THAT IS A LITTLE MORE SELFISH AND CANT GET OVER THE FACT THAT ITS NOT ALL ABOUT YOU ANYMORE
2006-12-18 14:07:06 · answer #9 · answered by huneygrl1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes its normal, but hey! Its a new baby! And you typed that you all don't have long conversations anyway. Walk away from it, then.
2006-12-18 13:53:37 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋