Okay the thing is I sit beside my son when it is his nap time. I put him in his swing and then I rock him while sitting on the sofa. When he wakes up he looks over at me and just starts whining and looking very sad. Is this a symptom of seperation anxiety? I am a stay at home mom. Can anyone help? Moms only need to answer!!! Please serious answers only!!
2006-12-18 05:34:32 · 18 answers · asked by Amanda A 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
My son is almost 6 months old. Also for the big JERK who wrote I may scare him go answer different questions! You probably don't even have kids.
2006-12-18 05:53:46 · update #1
I only sit there as long until he falls asleep then I get up and do other things.
2006-12-18 05:57:43 · update #2
I'm a father of a 3-month-old boy, so I hope it's okay if I answer even though I'm not a mom.
I'm not sure it's possible for anyone to have an exact answer, since obviously babies can't talk. Anybody who claims to know for sure what every baby thinks is going to be crazy or somebody looking to make a profit off of a useless book. If you think it's seperation anxiety, you would probably be exactly right. Only you know your son. My son is similar. He'll cry when he wakes up, and he usually stops when being comforted.
2006-12-18 05:43:40 · answer #1 · answered by Mickey Mouse Spears 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is not an abnormal thing. Every baby, I know does this. They all cry when they wake up. I think that it is their way of telling you that they are awake and that they need your attention. What is not normal is that you are sitting by him while he is sleeping. If you are holding him during his entire nap, that is not good. It is okay occasionally, but not all the time. He needs to learn to sleep in his bed. Most mothers use baby's nap time, to take a nap themselves or to get things done, that they couldn't while baby was awake. Instead of sitting by him while he was sleeping, you should get a baby Monitor, and find something else to do. You can also discuss this with your pediatriacian at his next check up. It is VITAL that he learn to sleep in his bed without you there, or you will have more issue to deal with when he is 5. YOU are the Mom, YOU need to take control of the situation Now, or you will struggle even more as he gets older.
Trust me that Changing his naptime routine, will hurt you more than it will hurt him. But in the long run you will be better off. Also it does NOT hurt a baby to cry, as long as all their needs are met. Many babies cry when they go down for a nap, they would rather be doing other things. Just let him cry when you lay him down. He needs to learn to fall asleep on his own and not in the swing.
2006-12-18 05:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depending on the age of your baby. A newborn will cry for hunger or diaper change or illness. An older baby may be going through seperation anxiety or boredom especially if you are always there. When your baby is napping put him in his crib and get a nap yourself. Or catch up on some things around the house. I know babies are so cute and you just want to be there at all times but for babies sake and your sake don't be there at every moment. If your baby is older has a content stomach and is dry below and is healthy and you know for sure his crying is for you to hold him, give him some toys and leave the room. Let him cry for a minute and come in when his first sign of slowing down or the time is up. Leave the room again but leave the room a bit longer. Then next time longer than the last till your babe understands that you are still around even when you are not in plain view.This is the same idea of getting baby to sleep through the nights. I know this is easier to say than do. I went through it myself and was told to do this by a nurse and by friends. I hated it. But before long my son was sleeping through the night and not crawling up to my legs and crying to come up anymore. He learned to amuse himself. If your baby is put in the swing too much you might find taking him for a walk in a stroller instead may help. He can also fall asleep this way and not totally depend on you and at the same time you both get fresh air. If your baby is real young he might just be bored and needs toys to help him amuse himself. Of course if he is still to young to grasp things he needs you to help. Any older than those you need baby to learn to sooth and amuse himself. I am a mother of 2.
2006-12-18 06:07:11 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hungry? Needs a diaper change? Just wants attention? If he wakes up and whines, pick him up. Check his diaper and see if he wants to eat. Maybe he just wants some snuggles or playtime. How old is he?
My son really started separation anxiety around 6 mo and it was the most severe at 12 mo. But even before then he really, really liked to be held and would usually cry if he were awake and by himself. I think his main issue was that he was bored just lying there with nothing to do because when he learned to sit and crawl at 5 mo he would often play for up to an hour on the floor by himself.
2006-12-18 05:38:33 · answer #4 · answered by doxhaelend 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
He is just looking for attention. Once a baby realizes that he was alone, even if during a nap, they need reassurance from mom / dad even if you are right there. Thing to do first of all is STOP putting him to sleep in the swing or by rocking him. He is falling asleep in your arms, all warm and cuddly, and expects you to be holding him when he wakes. Put him in his bed, like he should have been doing all along.
2006-12-18 05:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most of the time after a nap, the baby will wake up a little hungry. Try feeding him.
How old is the baby? If he is 6 months to 10 he may be teething. That usually makes infants cry from the discomfort.
Are you burping him before naps? He may wake up with gas pains.
Also, it could be as simple as he just woke up and is sleepy/woozy and just wants his mommy.
2006-12-18 05:39:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
There are many reasons why a baby cries when he or she wakes up from a nap..1) maybe hungry
2) maybe bad dream
3) maybe wet or dirty...
4) you were too loud and woke him/her up
and they did not get their full nap...
Ok, there are more reasons...and we as mothers don`t ever know all of them..I have four of my own and my 8 year old still wakes up sometime crying and I have not a clue why!!!So, my best opion is to comfort him and pat his back til he stop the
crying and off back to sleep....Good Luck!!
2006-12-18 05:42:47 · answer #7 · answered by tshee70 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
is there any reason why he is rocked to sleep?
maybe he just isnt ready to wake up
have you tried butting him to bed for a nap rather than in a swing? then he can wake up of his own accord
seperation anxiety doesnt start till at least 6/7 months - and if you are there I doubt it is that
2006-12-18 05:38:44 · answer #8 · answered by schmushe 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's realted to separation anxiety, but not really a symptom. My baby does that too. She just cries because she wants me to hold her and that's the only way she knows how to tell me so.
2006-12-18 05:37:31 · answer #9 · answered by LadyJag 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Probably not.... How old is your son...if he is very young, it is probably because he is wet, dirty, or hungry.... If he sees you, he may be crying because he wants you to pick him up. Separation anxiety comes around the 10 month point.....when you go out of his sight....
2006-12-18 05:37:20 · answer #10 · answered by favrd1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋