The situation is I am 6months pregnant and I'm not for sure who the dad is. It came to this because me and the recent ex-boyfriend were broken up but I stayed with him and his mom. One day I went to visit my 2yr old daughter's dad so he could see her. Basically we had a quick sex session and I didn't tell the boyfriend that it happened. I moved to Florida b/c of other things but I told the boyfriend. Now he says he still loves me but it depends if we are gonna get back together if the baby is his. I want it to be his because my 2yr old's dad really isn't worth anything, he doesn't do anything for my daughter. I still love and want to be with the ex-boyfriend. So, I guess I won't be able to do anything until we know who's child it is. And no I didn't cheat, me and the boyfriend were not 2getha at the time but we did live 2getha. And just to let ya'll know I am 21yrs old.
2006-12-18 05:33:52 · 8 answers · asked by Jazz21 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The recent ex-boyfriend says he still loves me, but it just hurt him. I think he wants it to be his child. We still talk like every other day, whether it is on the phone or texting. I know I made a mistake, and he said that he has forgiven me.
2006-12-18 08:07:55 · update #1
be patient and pray things will work out
2006-12-18 05:36:54 · answer #1 · answered by ruru 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you are very young to be dealing with all of this. Where are your parents? Maybe you should move in with them and stop dating for a while, at least while the kids are little.
As far as this new baby goes, Your #1 focus should be on the baby. What is best for this new child? A baby needs and mother and a father and unless you are willing to marry this guy, you should probably give this baby to a loving couple that is able to give it everything that it needs.
If you are going to keep the baby, obviously, you need to know who the dad is. If it your x's and not your 1st babies daddy, Talk to him about getting married. If he says no, set up child support arrangements.
I would recommend laying off hooking up with new guys for a while. The last thing that your kids need is another little sibling from another guy.
2006-12-18 05:42:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I were you I would stop everything and take stock of my life. Stop being stupid and grow up. You were "2getha" whether you like it or not.
You are a fool. You can't fix this. You will have to deal best you can and understand why people think so poorly of you. Not that you can't make good decisions going forward, but often the best way to guide where you are going is to truely understand where you have been, and I don't think you do. Yet.
2006-12-18 05:39:43 · answer #3 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have lived this drama but unwillingly. Be patient and do paternity once your baby is born. Hopefully things will work out the way you want them to. I would re-think a relationship with the ex however. If paternity matters that much to him, he probably doesn't feel as strongly about you as you may think. Congrats on the baby.
2006-12-18 05:46:41 · answer #4 · answered by novelwyrm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If him loving you enough to be back together depends on who teh baby's father is then he doesnt love you at all. If he feels what you did was cheating-which I agree with you on that if you were not seeing each other-then you cheated regardless of if the baby is his or not. If he can forgive you of it if the baby is his then he can forgive you of it if its not. On the other hand, maybe if it's not his he feels like it would be best for the child because of feelings HE has not to be the one to raise him/her.
2006-12-18 05:39:35 · answer #5 · answered by Betsy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to work it out with your ex-boyfriend he would understand that you make mistakes. Moving away is only running away from you troubles so if you feel like you want to make it work you should move back.
2006-12-18 09:33:25 · answer #6 · answered by majordecision 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the reason why you are sleeping around with different men is you are confusing yourself guys are you not scared of STDs AIDS no protection at all.If i was you i would wait this sleeping around routine and think carefully of the dangers im trying to create for my baby in my stomach and if you are looking for the father of the kid you would rather look for some one caring not some one with money
2006-12-18 05:42:39 · answer #7 · answered by Eunice M 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wait 3 months, and see the results. mosty important is: if you have learned anything form this or not.
try hard to work it out with the bf.
2006-12-18 05:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by schuschtermat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋