and asks me to stop, but honestly sometimes when I see his tears I just want to hit him more. I really love him because he treats me better than any man ever has. I just don't know what is wrong with me. Do I have a problem?
2006-12-18 05:26:47 · 22 answers · asked by readinginpark 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No ,you don't have a problem. This is perfectly normal and is part of all healthy well balanced relationships.
2006-12-18 06:19:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abuse usually goes the other way around... You know he cries because he doesn't know what he can do about it... he obviously won't hit you back... you're lucky, because he could probably hurt you.
If you know how you get when you drink, then don't drink. If you get to a point while drinking that you shouldn't pass, then cut yourself off early. Yes, seek professional help. And, apologize to him before it wears off... Personal experience: If someone apologizes to you for something, and then continues to do the thing that needed apologizing for... then they weren't really sorry to begin with... and they obviously don't respect you enough or care enough to make the changes necessary.
If he treats you better than any other man has... then that's something to hold on to... Look at the responses you've gotten already from some guys here on this question you posted... some of them are real winners, I bet. Bottom line, your man must be worth holding on to, and you have a responsibility, especially if you're going to be married... you need to take care of yourself, and him.
2006-12-18 06:20:48 · answer #2 · answered by just nate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can you sit there and ask if you have a problem? You can't tell???
Drinking only intensifies emotional issues, The phyical viloence WILL esclate over time unless YOU put a stop to it. You are no where near ready for any sort of one- on - one relationship. Stay connected with the human race, stay working and emotionally connect thru groups like AA. Your anger issues need professional help now, or you can put it of until you are in jail or prison for a viloent act. Here is a web site to help you evulate your needs and help you locate resouces. You can change, if the desire is strong enough. Best of luck!
2006-12-18 05:47:41 · answer #3 · answered by flutteredonby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a violent drunk, it's the alcohol that's gets out the worst in you and you will end up loosing this man. Get help as soon as you can, or control your drinking to a point where you have a buzz but do not get out of control, there are obviously deeper issues that you must work out of your system, maybe that's why you drink so much.
Do the best you can, and good luck.
2006-12-18 05:36:16 · answer #4 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you had to ask this question after these type of remarks and actions should have answered your question. You didn't need to get on here to show how everybody. You sound like the female who don't know when you have a good man or a decent life when the rest of us are out here trying to obtain them.
2006-12-18 05:36:31 · answer #5 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you have issues with boyfriend and alcohol. Now if he was to hit you while drunk, you will be trying to call some domestic abuse hot line. What's wrong with you is that you can't handle your drinking, so you need to get help in stopping.
2006-12-18 06:10:12 · answer #6 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you have a problem and one of them is the fact that you cant accept that you have a good guy this time around..the reason you want to hit him more when he cries is because it almost seems kind of punkish to you....you need to quit hitting him because how would you feel if turned around to start beating your ***!..i know he's a good guy but still,there is only so much he will take, dont make him turn into what you are used to dealing with...let him be the good guy that loves you like he wants to be
2006-12-18 05:41:17 · answer #7 · answered by huneygrl1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're the one who asked the same question earlier, right? Do you think you'll be looked at in a better light by asking the same question again?
You have problems. You need help. If you love your man you will leave him so he can get on with his life without you. You're not good for him if you like to see him cry.
Issues.
2006-12-18 05:36:15 · answer #8 · answered by Shesha 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes...it's called domestic violence.
You should seek help immediately before he you lose the one you love.
Thank your lucky stars that he hasn't manned-up and bashed you upside the head.
I don't know too many men that would take that from a woman.
Violence is never justified coming from a man, woman or child.
Find other means of expression and for Goodness sake...please stop drinking, you can't handle your liquor!!
2006-12-18 05:31:43 · answer #9 · answered by Wife~and~Mom 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is domestic abuse plain and simple. You probably blame everything wrong in your life on him as well, don't you? You have anger issues, and control problems. If I knew this poor man, I would encourage him to leave immediately. You need help, lots of help.
2006-12-18 06:46:43 · answer #10 · answered by koogle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its sounds like you have a drinking problem. You need to stop drinking and probably seek some counseling or you will probably lose the guy,
2006-12-18 06:11:19 · answer #11 · answered by shy one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋