i wash his clothes fold his clothes,cook for him ,get his clothes for him when hes in the shower but he never realizes all the stuff i do for him
2006-12-18 05:13:47 · 17 answers · asked by lil momma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
STOP doing all that and then see what happens.
2006-12-18 05:16:21 · answer #1 · answered by shonnie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know what, your man is probably under extreme pressure at work and it is a common factor that when men are under stress they go for the ones closest to them and take out their stress on them. No doubt you are on the defensive too which does not help matters much. I went through that too! One thing I learnt was to stay calm and keep my temper at bay and simply to ask him what the matter was in the nicest possible way. He could take an hour to tell but I simply listened. Thats all he wants someone to listen, with no solutions, because he will figure those out himself! You just need to give him time and listen to him. You will never lose a man you quietly give your time too.
The last thing he wants to hear is what you do for him. He knows that, but his stress level is so high that he needs someone around him who understands him and does not defy him.
Read WILD AT HEART by John Eldredge IT puts men in a nutshell for you. Also read the book Love and Respect...Not sure of author, but its a brilliant book. Just respect your man and never disrespect him! You will always win!
God bless you and I pray you find the right way!
Become confident too.. it will certainly help matters. Dont fear and remain positive no matter what
Merry Christmas!
2006-12-18 05:26:48 · answer #2 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you get all worked up, try talking to him about it... tell him how you feel. your feelings are valid, and so are his. Perhaps he has trouble showing affection. I don't know, but try talking to him... if he's still an @ss, then consider other possibilities. Just don't get too worked up until you hear his side, or you at least tell him how you are feeling. Give him a chance to defend himself, remember... he's not a mind reader, and what you perceive as him being mean, he may not see a problem... it doesn't make him a bad man, only in need of some help...
2006-12-18 05:19:24 · answer #3 · answered by just nate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has conquered you and he does not have to be nice to you now. That is sad to say but a lot of men are like that. If they think you might have a life besides doing everything for them...and I don't mean have an affair...but become your own person and don't take any crap..I bet his tune will change. If it does not, then he is not worth your time. Good luck hon....men are just from a different planet!
2006-12-18 05:40:03 · answer #4 · answered by bethybug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you my stepdaughter? Honestly, a lot of married couples seem to fall into the mistake of keeping score. I did this and that and this and that, and what did you do for me lately? REFOCUS your energy on positive things, read the book the proper care and feeding of husbands, not because you aren't doing all that, but because sometimes when we want things to change we have to change the way we approach the problem.
2006-12-18 05:21:45 · answer #5 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those are typical things we as wives do, kinda like taking care of a big kid.
If it really bothers you, then stop, and he'll notice and began to appreciate before falling into his same routine. It's called being married for some and putting up with it for others.
Happy Holidays!
2006-12-18 05:18:34 · answer #6 · answered by Khandi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try having a good talk to him.
And tell him what you notice about how he treats you for all the good things you do for him.
Ask him if there is anything wrong like the stress at work, or anything at all and he could tell you anytime.
Work though on this and don't let it slide.
If nothing helps you have more things to work through.
2006-12-18 05:51:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come and live with me in my treehouse. I will play rekords for you and we can bake brownies in my ez-bake oven and you will never hafta lift a finger or wash clothes. Heck, you won't even hafta wear clothes.
2006-12-18 05:23:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sat him down and talk to him about the way he is making you feel and tell him that this is not the wat marriage is ,and you are not going to contiune to live like this no more. Tell him that if he loves you he needs to show it and tell you as well. Maybe something he is dealing with with himself that he is not telling you. So try to talk first before any decision are made on either side.
2006-12-18 05:28:06 · answer #9 · answered by Raynette S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to talk to your husband about it and if he dont make any changes then stop doing things for him and see how he react
2006-12-18 05:24:01 · answer #10 · answered by Thickness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stop doing what you usually do for him until his behavior improves. If there is no consequences for him he won't change.
2006-12-18 05:25:22 · answer #11 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋