& pulled my hair to make me stop. Should I call the wedding off because he is abusive?
2006-12-18 05:05:55 · 36 answers · asked by readinginpark 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like you're both abusive! Not just him, he bit you and pulled your hair in response to you smacking him 10 times? Wow sounds sort of like self defense, you're probably lucky he didn't crack you one in the face.
You two need to seek counseling if you're going to be together. What's the point? Sounds like a love hate relationship. I hope the make up sex is good. I can't see why anyone would want to be with someone that hits them.
You should both seek counseling, group preferrably. You should go to AA before your hurt yourself or someone else. Find a way to deal with eachother without getting physical, or else youre going to end up on Jerry Springer.
Good luck!
2006-12-18 05:18:03 · answer #1 · answered by Cabbage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just by reading the title I knew it would something like this. I'm saying he's right for pulling your hair, but you did slap him 10 times, and would have probably keep going had he not stopped you. So for you to call off the wedding because HE was abusive is sad.
2006-12-18 05:11:56 · answer #2 · answered by Floss 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm, I think you are as abusive as he. I am sorry to say this, but if you hit him as much as you said you did, then I think he probably had no choice. I mean, they say that you should not hit someone just because they hit you, but if it is uncontrollable, then what do you do? Hit them back? I am sure he did not mean it, but your were slapping him. Maybe you shouldn't get so drunk next time. It is as much your fault as it is his. Just because he is man doesn't mean he is in the wrong. Now, if he punched you, then it would be a different story. Sounds like he was just trying to get you to stop and he had had enough. I suggest you take some AA classes and maybe the both of you take some counseling. And move your wedding up to give some more time.
2006-12-18 05:13:22 · answer #3 · answered by Meuy V 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? Should YOU call the wedding off because HE is abusive? Good Lord! You should get some help with that drunken-rage problem you've got there girl!
Honey, you've got some issues, for real. If you slapped him several times and made him cry what do you expect to happen?
Without YOUR problems being addressed by a professional your marriage will not work out. You're destructive and toxic to anyone you're around right now. Get help. Get help. Get help.
I wish you well and hope you don't take my words as attacking you. I'm just hoping to wake you up and see yourself and actions as they are.
2006-12-18 05:11:56 · answer #4 · answered by Shesha 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are both wrong, but it's important for you to understand that being drunk and behaving the way you did puts you in the situation where you can be abused, weather it's your fiancee or another guy, no one likes to be slapped. Try to work on yourself and don't get drunk, get help if you need to.
Then work your feelings with him. What he did was wrong, but it was a reaction to something you did.
The mother of all evil here is Alcohol.
2006-12-18 05:12:59 · answer #5 · answered by Dana N 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you should not call the wedding off you said yes for a reason he is not abusive you just kept slapping him so he had to do something to keep you from slapping him so just sit him down ask him why did you bite me and pull my hair and tell him why you kept slapping him and maybe you might beable to forgive you
2006-12-18 05:12:24 · answer #6 · answered by jasmine s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you should call the wedding off because YOU are abusive. Being drunk is no excuse.
If you want to use being drunk as an excuse, then you have to let him off too, as you provoked him.
Do us all a favor and don't marry anyone until you can own your own behavior and don't have any kids either until you grow up.
Is this question even for real?
2006-12-18 05:09:21 · answer #7 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Are you an idiot? What he did is called "Self-Defense" what you did is called abuse and uncalled for. If he had thrown you into a wall he would have been justified. Hell you was drunk but sounds like to me you really weren't drunk if you remember how many times you slapped him.
2006-12-18 05:09:52 · answer #8 · answered by The Plague 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look honey, you obviously can't hold your liquor and should not drink. You must have been one big embarassment for him too when you were doing this. You are the abusive one and left him not much else to do. You seriously need help and he should be the one NOT to marry the likes of you. Men should never hit women, but you my dear just may be that exception to the rule.
2006-12-18 05:37:56 · answer #9 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you are twisting it all around, you provoked the man! you being drunk is no excuse. you are both wrong primarly you, what do expect out anyone who is continuosly getting slapped? both of
you need to seek help! you need to sotp being a abusive drunk, and
he needs to learn how to walk away from a situation like the that just occurred.
2006-12-18 06:13:31 · answer #10 · answered by Fiesty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋