I am 27, really shy and introvert girl and I have moved 4 years ago to another country and still haven't found some real friends, if I get close to somebody, they soon leave because theya re either exchange students or here for a short while on a short project. How do I open myself? Do you think people avoid me more because they know I don't have any friends or because they think I am weird because I am so closed up?
2006-12-18 05:00:03 · 7 answers · asked by stargazer 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
It's tough to make new friends to begin with, but when you're in another country it's even harder. Why don't you try to find some sort of local gym or sports league to join? What about your work? Or school? Maybe if you just get out there and observe people that will help you. Good luck!
2006-12-18 05:03:23 · answer #1 · answered by quatrapiller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think as a whole people do avoid other people that don't have any friends but in your case I do think it is your shyness. Is there a group or activity in your area that you can volunteer? Volunteering for something that interests you is two-fold: you are doing something you like plus if you do meet someone and make friends, you already have a common interest. Many of my friends became my friends by seeing them at events that were important to me. You arleady have something to talk about which would help with the shyness. Good luck!
2006-12-18 05:05:30 · answer #2 · answered by denzmur3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shy and introverted people tend to send out signals that they don't want to be bothered. Lack of eye contact, "closed" body language. It's probably going to be up to you to force yourself to open up more and be more outgoing with people. A good way to start is to get involved in some hobby or class or volunteer work where you'll meet people who have similar interests to you.
2006-12-18 05:05:59 · answer #3 · answered by Lee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is open up to people more, you can't ReAlLy change the way people think. Try to find some jokes on the internet, invite some people out to dinner, and have a great time.
2006-12-18 05:03:38 · answer #4 · answered by L-dog =) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People won't just avoid you because you have no friends. People might misunderstand shyness for arrogance, or may think you simply aren't friendly. Just open up a little more. People may not know that you are just shy.
2006-12-18 05:02:31 · answer #5 · answered by Aloofly Goofy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll be your friend, I'm 27 female too.
2006-12-18 05:01:59 · answer #6 · answered by RACHAEL R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will be ur friend as long as u like bill cosby
2006-12-18 05:06:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋