Well where can I start I was with my ex boyfriend for almost two years. We broke up and he went overseas due him being in the military and I live here in the states. We have remained friends best friends since our break up witch was over a year ago. But thru out that year of us talking..We have still been sexual with each other..tell each other we love one another talked about our future togehter our kids..he supports me with everything that I do.we talk on the phone every single day... only thing is I asked him if we were getting back together he says he dont wanna talk about it until he see's me face to face..then the other day we were on the phone he thought i had fallen asleep on him, and he said to me baby i love you so much im going to marry you I promise. but im still confused because we are not offically boyfriend and girlfriend right now and he said he does not want to talk about it right now..can any one help me do you think he is playing games with me?
2006-12-18 04:57:50 · 10 answers · asked by Life It Is What It Is 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The real question is why did you actually break up? Doesn't sound to me like there was any real reason to do it. Doesn't sound to me like either one of you wants to be broken up and actually...
It doesn't sound like you really are broken up.
Is he having sexual relations with other women or just you? If he is just with you than I would guess that there are no games here and you guys never should have split in the first place.
The real question is do YOU trust him. Does he make you feel comfortable and safe, or do you think that something isn't right.
If he is messin with you, you probably know it in your heart because you won't feel completely right about it.
2006-12-18 05:11:19 · answer #1 · answered by tcb9020 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-03 16:51:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be in military and having someone you love away from you is a confusing situation. i was in the same situation myself and i loved a girl and left her due to military obligation. I totally acted different than your boyfriend.
Since i really loved her, as soon as i left her if felt more in love with her and wanted to come back and marry her. I expressed it openly to her.
I am sorry to say but may be he doesn't really love you so much to miss you that way.
Well being in military also means missing sex only. I would advice you to be carefull in your conversations to see if his intentions are only sex or he is passionate and really loves you.
if he is just missing sex and only keeps going with his sexual fantasies, then i would stand in your side and respectfully say that. Lady dint wast your time with him. But if he really loves you dont leave him because it is going to be very painfull for him.
If he is passionate and even cries when he talks with you.(that is what i did on the phone), then he deserves your waiting for him.
2006-12-18 05:18:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Dear....:)
Men in the military, alone, in a scary place, often get confused to their feelings. The truth sometimes becomes apparent, as what's really important in life is separated from the superficial nonsense we deal with in day-to-day life here in American Society.
He's still examining his feelings, but they are coming clearer to him.
Let things take their natural course. It may happen that when he's done with this military stuff, he'll be immediately ready to start a life with you. If you cannot wait for him, then don't encourage him to think about you any further.
Namaste,
--Tom
2006-12-18 05:03:53 · answer #4 · answered by glassnegman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the time apart was good for you he loves you and he is going to be there for you you love him...i think talking over the phone about stuff like that is a little bit uncomfortable to some people you can't see the facial expressions and body language and stuff like that ...he said that stuff becasue that is what he was thinking and he needed to get it off of his chest...this way he told you in my honest opinion your gonna be ok and your gonna get married...hope it works out for you...he just wants to see your face he misses you alot
2006-12-18 05:04:59 · answer #5 · answered by Travis S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK....he is in the military...1,000's of miles away(maybe in Iraq)...surrounded by thousands of guys and crazy terrorist that want to kill him. So he needs something to look forward too...a reason to keep going..a reason to get up in the morning...a reason to keep fighting...a reason to get home alive.
He has too to pick from-
1.I will marry (whatever-your-name-is) and live happily every after
2.I will go home all depressed and try to find a girlfriend to hand out with and maybe fall in love and maybe get married in a couple years.
Guess the one he picked?
2006-12-18 05:04:30 · answer #6 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he's playing games, sounds pretty real. This is probably why he would rather talk to you face to face about your future.
2006-12-18 05:04:31 · answer #7 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is frustrated because he cant be right by your side at the moment..He wants you to know that he possibly loves you..But give it some time..for the love to grow..
All is full of love-Bjork
2006-12-18 05:00:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl visit as fast as posibl he stil LOVES u
2006-12-18 05:01:00 · answer #9 · answered by krystie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it some time i think he still loves you
2006-12-18 05:03:45 · answer #10 · answered by Alejandro G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋