I am 15, I know it's young, DON'T LECTURE, That is not the point of this question.
My long-term boyfriend and I finnaly made the choice, to lose our virginity to one another, My question is....My mom and I are really really close and always have been and I usually tell her everything, she is really chill and supports me in all I do, but I don't know if I should tell her this..What should I do, Hide it from her, or tell her?
2006-12-18 04:52:58 · 22 answers · asked by aqurious_chic06 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Okay, I am going to tell her, HOW DO I BRING IT UP?
2006-12-21 11:46:17 · update #1
It is mortifying to tell your mother I know from experience. My mother and I are very close and the first time I had sex I was 18 and I didn't tell her until after I had sex and I did it because it was very difficult to not have my friend know and give me some kind of support. The nice thing in telling your mother is that if something happens it will be easier to ask her a question or to have her help you.
2006-12-18 09:07:37 · answer #1 · answered by Annabelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two sets of feelings on this. On one hand, I want you to tell so she can be sure you are "safe" and can be there for you on any emotional outcome you need to deal with. On the other hand, (and I realize you say you've already made up your mind), I really feel that if two people are mature enough to be ready to have a sexual relationship with each other, it would never occur to either one of them to even think of discussing it with another person. A mature sexual relationship is really just between those two people. So, it worries me that while thinking about having sex, you are also thinking about talking to someone about it. Why? Maybe it's a sign that you aren't quite ready. I don't know, but that's just what I think. I am not lecturing, just expressing some thoughts. I feel like 15 is just a bit too young. Even waiting a year or so could be really, really helpful to both of you as far as how this affects your relationship. But if it doesn't really matter to you whether or not your relationship is a lasting one, then I guess that's not a major concern.
2006-12-18 04:59:10 · answer #2 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her. I know it's nerve-wrecking but you really should tell her, as she has more experience than you, and she can help you deal with any issues that come along. Not necessarily saying that anything bad will happen, but the more she knows, the more she can be there for you and have your back. I told my mom when I started (17)..although I was scared to tell her, I didnt hesitate and to this day I am thankful I did. You've already stated that you guys are really close, so yeah, let her know and be OPEN to all advice she has to give you (even if she is slightly mad lol)...Good luck with things!!
2006-12-18 04:54:48 · answer #3 · answered by mzsouthernprincess 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's really up to you, are you being careful?
Is there a chance of pregnancy? She may want to know these things.
I would tell her so she can help you get on birth control if you aren't already. You need support to help you make the smartest decisions throughout your young adult life (everyone does).
2006-12-18 04:56:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't sleep with him until he married you. If you start sleeping with him now, he'll never even thing about marrying you, because he allready gets everything he wants. ***But who am I gonna stop?*** I would tell you mom, she might at least be able to put you on birth control. You really don't need another child with you. And you wouldn't wanna let it be cut into little pieces would you? And adoption, is giving it too other people, never seeing your own child again. Whatver you do, good Luck!!!
2006-12-18 05:24:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
15 is not young i was 14 when i first had sex and u know i am really close with my mom as well and i didn't tell her at first but u know wat i learned if she loves you she won't get mad... i think you should tell her because of the fact she can help you like when i told my mom i had sex she put me on the pill and she gave me condoms cuz u can get diseases from sex so she will tell u to be safe so whatever u choose to do goodluck with you, ur mom, and ur boyfriend
2006-12-18 05:00:13 · answer #6 · answered by Keara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u have been able to be up front i would suggest to keep doing it. it sounds like u 2 r really close and i think it would shatter her to hear from someone else. I have a 11 year old and we r pretty close and i would want her to tell me.
2006-12-18 05:25:29 · answer #7 · answered by coley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her and get it over with. She's going to find out anyway. Why hide it?
2006-12-18 04:57:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her! Have her take you to the Gyno for birth control. If you are making the choice to have sex at least be responsible....
2006-12-18 04:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by sw312 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't want a lecture? Then hide it from her.
You want to keep your relationship with your mom strong? Then tell her.
2006-12-18 04:56:46 · answer #10 · answered by somerandominternetperson 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋