I caught my fiance looking at a waitress' legs while we were at dinner, Should I call the wedding off?

Answer 1

Men are always going to look at other women whether we like it or not. its natural. it however doesnt mean he is going to have an affair. Maybe he looked cause she had a good pair of legs. If you are entering a marriage with a jealous heart you are looking for trouble. If you can trust your man to look and admire other women without being jealous then things will work. I sense that you are insecure. Insecurity has not come from looking at a pair of legs but you have been that way for a long time. You need to be more confident about yourself. Dont fear or entertain jealousy. it turns people into bitter people and into nasty vindictive people too. Im sure you are a very sweet girl and your only enemy is fear. Fear is from the pits of hell. Trust God with your relationship and walk in his ways and good will come to you.
Be positive, not negative. You have to trust your man. Would you do something for yourself. There are 2 books on the market called Wild at Heart and Captivating. WIld at Heart is about men and what makes them tick. Read this and then give it to him. The book is written by John Eldredge and Captivating is written for women by him and his wife Staci. Both are excellent and highly recommended. God bless you both in your life together.

Answer 2

No one likes to know their man is checking out another woman, but you can't stop him. As long as he looks and doesn't touch you have nothing to worry about. Do you not look at a hot guy when he walks past you? Do you not watch "Thelma and Louis" to see Brad Pitt with his shirt off so you can drool? I think you have a right to be angry, but to call off your wedding is a bit extreme. I think you need to talk to him. Let him know he offend you when he blatantly checked out the waitress. I'm sure he didn't intend to hurt you. Ask him to be less obvious in his actions. The more you talk to him about it, the better you'll feel.

If your friends and family have come to you with concern about him being faithful as a husband, maybe take a step back and listen to them, but trust your gut. Remember that they aren't blinded by love and they have the best intentions for you. If you have had no red flags, then I think everything will be fine.

Hope this helps and everything works out. Best of luck to ya!

Answer 3

C'mon are you serious? Looking at a pair of nice legs wants to make you cut off the wedding? G poor fiance I could imagine when you do get married, did you ever hear the saying you can look but you can't touch?

Answer 4

Follow your heart.
Do you love him so much in your heart?
Do you trust him? Enough that you know he would not take it further?
Stop and think.. Don't over react... Could make things go bad.
Why call it off when he is looking at legs? Thats silly.
How many more times will you be going through this with him when a beautiful woman is around?
Its only natural and he is not cheating on you.
What do you do when you see a very good looking guy?
You glance at him dont say you dont, but you are truthful... and would not cheat on your love for life because in your heart you know its just wrong and would be hurting him (vise versa).

And for it to work you have to go pass this and have trust in your man. Besides they are only legs, and he has lfeelings of love only for you.

Answer 5

I wish everyone had not been so harsh towards you. This is a help site, not a bashing site!! I understand what you mean. I would have felt the same way and questioned his integrity. This is mostly because we are very different than men and don't understand them. Good character is what I love most in a guy, and yes, this definitely would make me question how faithful he will be. However, I would suggest trying to notice if it keeps happening and definitely confront him about looking at the waitresses' legs. I am a teenager and I have even talked to some of my guy friends about this--and they totally listened. I even helped this one guy get out of grinding with girls at dance parties. It really hit at his conscience when I talked to him about it, and he didn't do it at his homecoming! The guys that I most respect really respect women, and it is amazing!! I can name many guy friends who I hang around who I have never heard making perverted comments about girls (they are Christian guys). You sound like you care about your fiance's character a lot and you want to make sure you are marrying someone who will be faithful. That is a wonderful thing!!! God bless you!!!

Answer 6

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Answer 7

what?! NO. do not call your wedding off. He did'nt actually cheat, but he's looking, it's still bad but not enough for you to call off your future with him. You should just talk to your fiance & let him know this makes you uncomfortable. Let him know he should respect you, I know men's eyes go wandering off because that's just how men are. But if you don't want this happening again, you need to let him know the next time he does this, the only thing he will be lookin' at is your back, watching you walk away from his life for good.

Answer 8

Trust me, I would be jealous, but I wouldn't call it off because of the occasional glance. All men look, and you have to admit, women do too. Being a woman, I just think women aren't as obvious about it as men are. If he's out at strip clubs, hooping and hollering at other women, or constantly staring at other women when he's with you, I would start to wonder about his maturity. If he is so immature that he continually acts like a pig, how long will it take before he falls to his temptations?

Answer 9

If you are going to be this irrational everytime you catch him glancing at another woman you need to do both of you a favor and call the wedding off. You will make both you and him miserable. As a matter of fact, if you are that jealous you better just quit dating all together. Men look at women without even thinking about it. You are WAY over-reacting.

Answer 10

I hate to tell you this but all guys have eyes that wander. We just don't realize it very much in the beginning. I think the longer you are together the more you will notice it. It doesn't mean that he doesn't love you or he will cheat. It just means that men are very visual creatures who are easily stimulated.

Maybe next time you notice him do that you could very intentionally clear your throat and see if he realizes that he is offending you. If he doesn't pick up on it I would suggest saying something to the effect that he is already taken and his eyes should be on you and not the bimbo in the short skirt. I think maybe if he likes legs alot you should invest in some fishnets and heels to wear for him.

Good luck!