We do not have any kids together? I have a new wife and 2 kids that we made together in my second marriage. I am hearing from other sources that the Ex want to know where i live. I don't like this at all.
2006-12-18 04:36:09 · 15 answers · asked by Big P 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She sounds like a whole lot of trouble. The bottom line is that she needs to stay out of your life since you two didn't have kids together and you have obviously moved on and so should she. You should tell the other sources to tell her that you are not interested in her inquiries and you have a new life and would mind that she not be part of that. You can word it probably a little nicer if you like but she should get the point.
2006-12-18 04:40:13 · answer #1 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though the life she had Is over, she may not be able to move on as quick as you can. She's not so much as nosey and trying to stalk you, she just wants to know where you are and what your new life Is like. The fact that you are happy and have children Is probally crushing her. Even though you remember the rough times and felt It was better to separate she maybe remembering all the good times now. And knowing that someone else Is receiving all your love and affection Is absolutely unbearable. Just Ignore It and don't bother trying to find a reason for anything that she's doing.
2006-12-18 04:59:55 · answer #2 · answered by passion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt be concerned unless she makes contact. Then I would let her know very firmly that you wish to have nothing to do with her.
Hmmmm, Apparantly there has been some time lapse, considering you have a new life with 2 children. And this is just now coming to light? Perhaps I'd strongly question your sources.
2006-12-18 04:57:17 · answer #3 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex has been the biggest pain in my side sense we got divorced. She left me but then I wouldn't let her come back when she wanted too. So my advice is to make sure you keep thoughs lines of communication closed and make sure everyone knows how you feel. You first priority should be your (current) wife and kids so don't let you ex's jealousy get in the way of your new happier life.
2006-12-18 04:41:37 · answer #4 · answered by Jeff S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't make a big deal out of it unless she starts bothering you. Maybe she is just curious and maybe the people that are telling you about this are blowing it out of proportion. Don't jump to conclusions. If she actually does start creating trouble, you can take legal action. Until that time, don't let her cause stress in your life, she doesn't deserve that power over you.
2006-12-18 04:47:46 · answer #5 · answered by PDH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hear from other people how do you know for a fact that she actually does???? have you ever thought that maybe they are lieing.... and even if she does want to know when she finds out confront her and tell her that she needs to leave you alone that you are happily married with a family and you do not need her drama around.........
It is not that hard of a situation to figure out.... Good Luck and hope it works out the way you want it to.
2006-12-18 04:40:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay close attention to what your ex is doing my ex started to stalk my wife and I. If it continues to happen get a Restraining order placed against her
2006-12-18 04:39:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she tries to contact you, let her know you aren't interested. If she persists, report her to the police for stalking. They will advise you about whether or not a restraining order is appropriate. Don't panic! Maybe nothing will happen.
2006-12-18 04:51:00 · answer #8 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no control over what your ex does. However, you do have control over how you react and the choices you make.
You can let it eat away at you and suck your energy or you can focus on the great life you have created with your new family.
What if she never stops? Are you going to give her control over your happiness.
2006-12-18 05:01:58 · answer #9 · answered by Coach Heller 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok been there done that, the quick answer is the husband needs to nip this in the but, let her know she has no chance to get back with him and that it is over. He may be sending the wrong messages to her leading her on.
2006-12-18 05:09:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋