anymore kids at home they all moved out im 40 and have a man ive been with 14 years and all he dose is stay home never wants to do anything fun i go by myself how do you get him motivated im not ready to become a old person atr 40 i still have lots of life left he is 44 and has acted 66 since he turned 40 that includes the bedroom too.
2006-12-18 04:32:35 · 8 answers · asked by PAULINA S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow, old before his time is he?
You might suggest that as empty nesters, life begins at 40.
You might also suggest that you both have20 years plus before retirement and if this is what life with him is going to be like you may need to rethink the prospect.
WAKE UP CALL required.
2006-12-18 05:13:58 · answer #1 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't indicated why you bother to stay with this guy.
Maybe he has been busy making money to pay for the house, the bills, and the kids. If that is the case, then you probably need to make some effort into seeing what you can do to make him feel welcome at home. I presume he's been helping raise your kids during that 14 years and deserves some respect for that. But, of course, it depends on the situation.
On the other hand, if you're paying all the bills and he is just mooching off you, I'd say it is time to move on and say goodbye to him.
2006-12-18 12:49:36 · answer #2 · answered by p_carroll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that since 14 years you didn't notice? did he help with you with kids for 14 years?? then I can see why... If not help you for 14 years just don't want to do anything.. then something is wrong. and you should notice for 14 years now. For me I always do thing with wife and kids and before kids was born my wife and I do things and we been married for 9 years now and I am glad. and sometime I have hobby to do things. And Dr. told my wife you need to have hobby to keep you relax and things you like to do and my wife found hobby she like to read books. You know that I am deaf and she is Hearing that hardest challege but you know that I have done so much thing with my wife and kids and I enjoy them but when they all moved out then I will still do hobby and so is my wife and she would ask me want to do this or do that I 110 percent tell her yes. ... winter time I can't do all the time because my back surgery My own family knows what I am having plm.
I do hope if not work out then what are you gonna do divocre him? that would be sad because kids will think why what happen you so used to him like that now why leave him??? so why stay with him 14 years ohh because us??? they will notice why. so make sure you talk to him about it smiling.
2006-12-18 13:11:39 · answer #3 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out and about. Seek new friendships through volunteerism, etc. If that's not your thing, then my advise to you is: Don't be shy, honey!! Talk to others, introduce yourself, shake hands, be outgoing...confidence will attract men. Just start doing things you enjoy, and you'll attract a man that has similiar interests...or, stay on the couch, and keep the one you got. You deserve the best! Go enjoy your life!
2006-12-18 12:39:31 · answer #4 · answered by ndngrlz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Pauline, thats too bad he is that way. I am 44 and am always busy. Is he a sports nut or soemthing??? Feel free to IM me in yahoo messneger if you have it, ok would love to chat more
My ID there is jsthvnfun2006 or e-mail me at
six7@hotmail.com tried your e-mail link and it says its unverified. Hope to chat soon
2006-12-18 12:39:05 · answer #5 · answered by six7foru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm
well think of things that you used to do before when your kids werent there when u werent married
see if you can bring them back in life..... may be things turn out good?
what say ?
2006-12-18 12:35:55 · answer #6 · answered by rocks_life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to go out and have fun by yourself. If he won't go with you, let him know you fully intend to keep living your life yourself!!
2006-12-18 12:35:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call me I will go out with you and make you feel real good
2006-12-18 12:37:28 · answer #8 · answered by littlefun42 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋