We've been together for 6 years. A month ago he went away and cheated on me with another woman abroad. Came back and broke up with me. I decided to move out and did it. We do talk occassionally but he tells me I'm like his best friend or a sister now. He keeps in touch with that woman overseas, although I think it's mostly sexual attraction (saw a couple of text messages in that direction) and there's no foundation for the relationship there. I try to move on. It still hurts, but I have no other choice.
Do you think he'll ever realize what he did and what a great girl (myself :)) he threw out of his life? For some reason I want him to understand that and feel sorry...
2006-12-18 04:02:26 · 22 answers · asked by moonylola 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He understands but there is no going back. And you should move on - the romance is gone and will never be back. Once you move into the friend/sister zone it's over. Moreover, if you keep in contact he will see this as a sign you aren't over him and use that to his advantage. Cut all ties.
He will realize and like most jerks it will be too late. I just don't understand guys who have good women in their life and treat them like crap. He will feel sorry if he doesn't already when the overseas trysts become extinct and he his left all alone with nothing but thoughts of your good times and "what might have been". You are better off.
2006-12-18 04:14:28 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What makes you think the six years wasn't just "mostly a sexual attraction"?
That is what a marraige document is for. If you were together then you were married in God's eyes.
If you don't wan't to take the steps to be "legally" married in your country then why are you upset now that the guy went off with another woman?
No commitment means no commitment. What is the surprise?
Mike
2006-12-18 12:09:11 · answer #2 · answered by Mike 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You wanted a man's opinion, well..
I had a similar situation with my ex wife. She had this guy come to our home while I was working. Needless to say, we are no longer together. Will he ever realize what he did was wrong? Probably not. Will he ever feel sorry about it? Again.. probably not. Should you dwell over it? No. Move on. If you are the great girl you seem to be, you will find someone who does want you.
As for me, I'm still looking for the great girl that deserves a great guy.
2006-12-18 12:08:28 · answer #3 · answered by John E 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's what we all want when someone has hurt us, but it usually takes a while for the other person to get it. It sounds like he's still involved with the other girl to some extent so that's what's on his mind for now. One day he will come to the realization that he made a big mistake. That takes him actually thinking about it and accepting responsibility for his actions. Try to move on and be thankful he was honest with you about it.
2006-12-18 12:07:19 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Saying that you are like his best friend after 6 years? Well that shows he doesn't have emotional depth. He will find himself alone one day and miss you and ask you back. 6 years with someone so shallow? Don't talk to him anymore as this makes him feel he still has a connection and reminds him that he had something. Maybe later give him a buzz just to say hey. In the meantime keep a lookout for someone who will treat you like a man should...... to love, appreciate and feel fortunate for every day with you.
2006-12-18 12:10:28 · answer #5 · answered by jackson 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry he will, Once he gets over this lust thing he has for this other woman, he will realize what he lost..But in the mean time don't let him see you are hurting and most definantly don't take him back because if he cheated on you once he will do it again.. There are other men out there that will have enough love and respect for you not to cheat on you, maybe hard to find that special someone but they do exist..
2006-12-18 12:08:34 · answer #6 · answered by Tracy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am sure he will realize it if that is the way it really is...perhaps you werent that great to him, or werent that "great girl" I mean you never know, and I dont say that to be mean...but if you were someday he will be like, "**** that wasnt too bright"...but dont go sitting around waiting for him to realize that, its just a waste of time...
In all honesty though, losing a cheating lover is really not much of a loss now is it? Not only that you didnt mention being married so after six years that doesnt tell you something that he didnt marry you? I woudnt fret...yeah it sucks but you have a lot of life ahead of you...
2006-12-18 12:07:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Not so long as you cvontinue to hang around and hang out with him. Cut him off for good, no phone calls, no nothing and he may eventually realize what he lost. Still would not take him back though.
2006-12-18 12:05:39 · answer #8 · answered by Jon S 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry for you, but this is the truth.
He chose to be with someone else, and he continues to choose to be with that person, no matter what way you may wrap it up.
Women want one man to give her everything she needs. Men need every woman to give him the one thing he needs. That is life.
Good luck to you in your new life. Jim (Married and faithful to the same woman for 25 years, 2 great kids.)
2006-12-18 12:07:31 · answer #9 · answered by Superdog 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
He will understand - a long time from now. Long after you have moved on to something better.
I would cut him off - it's better to just make a clean break of it. Things will get better, in time. You deserve more.
Good luck.
2006-12-18 12:04:03 · answer #10 · answered by American citizen and taxpayer 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋