We are all in agreement on a No reception wedding. Maybe at the max cake and drinks after the wedding. Also they want to have a 1:00pm wedding. She would like a cake for pictures so that is why cake and drinks is considered. How would we word this in the invitations. And would be the best why to go about this. Budget is very low. and they would rather go on a honeymoon, then blow thier budget on a reception. They are also saving for a down payment on a house. Any suggestions?
2006-12-18 03:53:04 · 8 answers · asked by Gugie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A reception, if planned right and you shop around, can pay for itself with the gifts you get from the wedding. If you don't have a reception, then they really aren't going to get much in the way of money gifts. We just had our wedding a couple of months ago. The only thing we paid for out of pocket was the honeymoon and my dress. Everything else:the reception, photographer, decorations, etc was covered by the wedding gifts. I had a GREAT time as well. I put together the centerpieces myself and bought a lot of stuff off of eBay. We found a hall at about $55 a head, including buffet, open bar, cake, hour de vours, valet parking, coat check and a couple other things.
If you really insist on not having a reception just say in the invite we would like you to join us after the reception for cake and drinks. But you can always ask the invite designer for help with the wording.
2006-12-18 04:05:38 · answer #1 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a good decision. A honeymoon lasts several days, a house years and a reception lasts only a few hours. I applaud you for making such a difficult decision.
A couple of questions. How many people are invited and how many expected? Where are they getting married? Does the location have an area where you can have cake and drinks afterwards or will you go somewhere else? Perhaps someone close by will volunteer their house.
A wedding is such a great day and I think most people who attend really want to support the bride and groom. People won't mind bringing something. If you are having 50 people or less, I think you might be able to get away with an assigned pot luck. It sounds rude, but if you think about it, when you bring something to a party, it doesn't make it less fun. In fact, I think it makes people feel so good to know that they are supporting the bride and groom and helping them get off on the right foot financially. Its also so nice for someone to come over and tell you how much they liked the appetizer you brought.
When I had my wedding, a friend of mine told me that the invitation is what sets the tone for how to dress etc. Super fancy invitations mean super fancy cocktail hour, invitations with cowboy boots might mean backyard BBQ (I have been to one of those and it was so much fun!) etc. So, picking the invitations carefully to match the nature of the wedding will be important. I also think a heartfelt letter from the bride and groom about the reception would be great. I don't think there is a single person that would be offended by this. If they are, maybe they aren't the kind of person you would want to invite to such an important day anyway.
Good luck!
2006-12-18 04:15:10 · answer #2 · answered by Johnny Johnny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think they are very smart to do this because, lets face it, the reception is mostly for the guests anyway and is very costly. They will enjoy a honeymoon much more. If you are having cake and drinks it is still considered a reception, just a small one. Maaybe you could say something like...cake cutting ceremony to follow or something like that. Don't worry about it. Enjoy the day and I wiah you all the very best of luck.
2006-12-18 04:04:05 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most times the invitation says Reception Immediately following at such and such of place.
You just need to put No Reception to follow or No Reception follwing. In smaller print on the bottom. Possibly using italics.
2006-12-18 04:01:32 · answer #4 · answered by sassinya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would probably be best if they did not invite anyone but family to the wedding. Also, make sure they do not register for gifts; they lose that right when they decide not to celebrate their marriage with family and friends. A Vegas wedding might be the appropriate route, or tell them just to go down to the court house.
2006-12-18 04:06:39 · answer #5 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In many parts of the country, cakes and drinks IS a reception! "Please join us in XXXX Hall after the ceremony" would be more than adequate.
When I got married, after the public reception, we had a private "heavy hors douvres" reception at my parents' home for our close friends, immediate family and out of town guests. It cost almost nothing but allowed us more time with the "special folks."
2006-12-18 04:08:22 · answer #6 · answered by kramerdnewf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try something like following the marriage a private reception would be held at cake & beverages. The couple asks that for the time of leiu of a reception that all and sundry economic donations will choose for a down cost on their first abode. stable success!
2016-10-18 10:56:16 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they're smart not to spend a lot on a reception.
The invitation can read at the bottom.
Cake and punch will be served following the ceremony
or
Refreshments will be served following the ceremony
2006-12-18 04:01:19 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋