I answer lots of question on this site, and in this category, am constantly amazed at the messes people's lives are in because they chose a mate inappropriate to their wishes. Is anyone in a school district where " Marriage, family and parenthood" is a classroom topic???
1. How can we get more schools to offer such a class?
2. Would you have been helped by such a class? Would you have married someone other than your spouse had you had some training????
2006-12-18 03:50:25 · 10 answers · asked by April 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your first question about choosing a spouse and your other questions are not the same. Most of us marry because we are in love with the other person. How would teach someone to choose who to fall in love with? Unfortunately most people change once they are married. There is an old saying "The person you divorce is not the person you married".
2006-12-18 06:19:32 · answer #1 · answered by This is lame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think a class like that is a good idea. Everyone has different ideas about this sort of thing and it would be wrong to push a preference.
We spend our whole lives working on relationships, and it's so complicated because there are an infinite number of possibilities. Some people are good at them and some aren't. Emotional health, practice, and childhood examples all play a role.
When I was a small child it seemed obvious: I would marry someone who loved me. As I grew up I watched my mother go through two failed marriages and some bad dating experiences, and I considered the possibility I might never marry because my boyfriends all wanted me to go along with their plans and I had plans of my own.
Finally when I was about to graduate with my MBA, I was walking in the woods sort of meditating on the fact that I wanted someone in my life but didn't know if it would happen, when I remembered: I would marry, if I found someone who loved me. Simple as that.
And what do you know, as soon as I came back from my internship I met the most wonderful guy and feel head-over-heels in love. We're married and have two children, and I am still crazy in love with him. I made an excellent choice when I married him. He loves me!
You can't teach this stuff in school! A class can't get rid of all our emotional baggage and fears and hang-ups, it can't give us a formula for being happy. We all have to find it on our own.
2006-12-18 04:05:55 · answer #2 · answered by KC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm....... (scratching head)
That is a very good question, and I have to say.......I'd have to say it's up to a person to search there own happiness. In today's society, a lot of people get married to another individual with the thought's....
"THIS PERSON WILL MAKE ME HAPPY FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE"
Then "WHAM".... "BANG"..... "BOOM".... Life steps in the way with tons of obstacles, and there not happy. So instead of finding a solution for the two of them to figure out how to make it work. They take easy way out... the nasty word divorce.....
However with the way the schools are today, and some of the teaching skills.... I don't know if I'd want someone teaching my kids how to find "HAPPINESS"..... expecailly when some can't handle there own lives. lol
(stepping off soap box now..) sorry to be so long winded.
2006-12-18 04:10:56 · answer #3 · answered by Lo Lo G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not overlook it. A persons educational goals say a lot about that person. It is part of who you are. And more importantly, it will become a more important factor later in life. Being highly educated does not make you a better person but the desire and drive to become educated is a very important factor about any person. If you are highly motivated but marry someone who is not, over time they will become less interesting and attractive to you.
2016-05-23 04:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by Wendy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. I wish our public schools taught more about social etiquette and social skills and how to have relationships with people. I also wish our public schools honed in on student's strengths and help build those strengths for the benefit of the individual and for society as a whole.
2006-12-18 03:54:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because the govournment is more worried about AIDS the govournment gets money for divorces, so they are not worried. actually its the stuff that should be tought at home not at school. whats the point of having a child if you dont teach it anything and leave it to someone else.
2006-12-18 03:55:00 · answer #6 · answered by luckydo6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The schools have classes about family life but it is not the same as reality and its problems!
2006-12-18 03:54:22 · answer #7 · answered by Patches6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-18 04:27:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live in Iowa and we have a relationships class and child development classes in our high schools.
2006-12-18 03:55:20 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a good question!
2006-12-18 03:56:21 · answer #10 · answered by ƪ♥ᴀᴀᴙᴓɳ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋