The instant he walked in the door, I knew. I didn't really believe in "soul mates" back then, but I knew when I saw him that it was true for me at least. when I got up the guts to ask someone he knew if he was single, they told me he was getting married. he is a ministers son and his girlfriend got pregnate, and they married quickly. 5 years later, I still feel as strongly, if not MORE for him and he obviously feels the same.( I know this deep down) I would never ever tempt him into cheating,he wouldn't ever try it, we both have strong morals. I have things happen that seem to scream out at me that he is the one,strange things that aren't coincidences. Heis miserable,and their son is in pre-k and his wife doesnt work and stays on the computer all day, he works 70 hours a week. I am the type of person that will like someone for 2 weeks and stop. The fact that he is married isnt what attracted me.Shoudl I wait? I dont want anyone else, but I don't want to be the reason for his divorce.
2006-12-18 03:48:10 · 12 answers · asked by gwinna24 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no, you shouldn't wait. He is married, and you need to try and move on, you need to find someone else, and you are right for not trying to break them up. If its meant for the two of you to be together, one day you will, but don't do anything to that would be considered a sin, maybe one day he will be free again and you might be available still or again, and you two will run in to each other and work your magic, but for now, leave him be! You are a good person for being the way you are!
2006-12-18 03:54:48 · answer #1 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he felt the same way about you when you met, then why didn't he marry you? I realize the girlfriend was pregnant but , that could have been worked out without him marrying her. He has been married for 5 years and has a child. You should get out of the picture for good and allow these 2 people to make a life for themselves and a home for their child. You say you don't want to break up a marriage....then walk away and don't contact him any more and don't take his calls. Tell him that you love him enough to let him go and have a chance to have a successful marriage. That is the respectful and the right thing to do. If one day he becomes available, he will find you if he truly loves you and if it is meant to be. I suggest you get on with your life and find some new goals to work toward.
2006-12-18 11:59:26 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen Honey, I know this is the last thing you want to hear but you have to let this guy go or wait it out! If he is truly unhappy he will divorce her! But maybe it really is just you hoping that he feels the same!
You have to remember that not only are there your feelings that could be hurt but there are also a little childs feelings involved.Imagine how that little child is going to feel if their father leaves their mother for you. That child is going to resent you! Not to mention how is wife is going to feel about you!
So the best thing you can do is just stay away, try to move on, and stop looking for these silly signs that keep directing you in his direction.
Like I said if he is truly unhappy he will divorce her it just may take some time.Don't push it!
2006-12-18 12:02:09 · answer #3 · answered by CHERYL H 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
find a soul mate who is not married or have girlfriend. it better that way and believe it or not what if he found other woman not you then you will be so screwed. I don't think good idea for you to do that. Believe me move on ... that all you can do if you don't want to be the reason for his divorce. back off not his friend not his phone number or anything just leave it alone.
2006-12-18 13:31:24 · answer #4 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't break up his marriage. There is a child involved. Just see what happens, if he gets divorced, then go for it. Until then keep your distance. Date other people, you may find someone better for you than a married man.
2006-12-18 11:55:00 · answer #5 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should move on. The fact that he is married and has a child should tell you that you shouldn't wait.
Try not seeing him and get involved in projects that will keep you out of his sphere of influence. I'm confident that you will find a man who will replace him in your life.
2006-12-18 11:53:24 · answer #6 · answered by sierra33ok 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. Put your focus somewhere else. He is a married man and he married his wife for better, and for worse. Please do not wait or you will be still waiting 20 years from now. If he really wanted to be with you he would have canceled his wedding and married you.
2006-12-18 11:55:49 · answer #7 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move on before it is too late for you. Just remember you cannot build your happiness on somebody elses unhappiness. leave them alone to work out their problems and go and find somebody else who is unattached. Every marriage has its problems, and you are adding to it, by making yourself available to this man.
2006-12-18 12:10:44 · answer #8 · answered by Vonnie S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it altogether. He is married and should his marriage break up it won't be your fault and he will find you.
2006-12-18 11:51:34 · answer #9 · answered by Andrea D. 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Geez, the old "soulmate" crap again......
get the little fantasy out of your head....he's MARRIED!
If you guys were TRULY meant to be together, you would have been years ago.
2006-12-18 11:54:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋