I moved here with my husband four years ago. We have been married 9 years. He moved out after becoming involved with another woman. We have three kids 2,5 and 8.
I wantto start a new life but it is hard because 1) this is his hometown. Mine is 1200 miles away. 2) He moved out but only three blocks away. 3) He is active in the community so I have to see his name in the newspaper all of the time 4) I soon realized that all of my friends are his friends or their wives and they seem to have no problem with his infidelity and moving out ( they have him and the girlfriend over for dinner, etc.) Any suggestions on how to get a new life. He moved out 8 months ago. About two months ago it seemed that we were getting back tgether but suddenly he pulled away again. He won't file for divorce. I don't because one of my children is disabled and so far I am still listed as his beneficiary and I would need the in
2006-12-18 03:47:10 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all, this situation to me yells out "make over". You are in his hometown, people know you are his wife (or X wife to be) so it's time to turn the tables around and show him what he is missing out on. Every woman is beautiful with a little make up and nice clothes. Get your self esteem back, don't let his actions kill you inside. You are a beautiful person inside and there is nothing wrong with showing you are beautiful outside. After your self esteem is back, making friends will just come naturally no matter where you go.
2006-12-18 04:25:23 · answer #1 · answered by E! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
You need to get involved in things where you can meet new people.
disabled kid? Are there not groups that have this kind of problem, where people in that sitation get together?
clubs you can join? Joing a church; even if like me you don't believe, they have some good social groups. people there not perfect but you cand find positve caring people if you look.
Can you help out with charities like dealing with older people in your area? Soup kitchens you can help in.
Any interests you have, where you can join clubs?
The power is within you, you just got to find it.
2006-12-18 23:10:50 · answer #2 · answered by rostov 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggestthat you join a church or hosu eof worship of some kind. Nowadays they have so many activities. You will also meet someone who won;t step out on you ir if he does, will beleive that he will feel the wrath of God if he doesn't get his act together.
2006-12-18 11:56:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋