Is it best to wait until I am 12 weeks to tell family about my pregnancy?

Question

I am 5.5 weeks pregnant today! :)


My husband and I wanted to tell our families about the pregnancy at Christmas, but I will only be 6.5 weeks pregnant then and I feel that's too early.

I am worried to tell them because I don’t know if the baby is okay since my OB/GYN won’t see me until I am 12 weeks (another 7 weeks!)

Should we wait until after we have our first ultrasound at our OB/GYN appt. before telling everyone?

This is my 1st pregnancy so I am worried after reading about miscarriages on the internet!

Answer 1

first of all please stop readin all the crap on the internet. there r millions of pregnancys and the healthy ones definately outweigh the misscarriages. if i were u i would tell both families so they can share the joy and that way they can share joy's fears and everything with u. i know how scarry it can be and how it seems a lot of pregnancies around u have problems all of the sudden. i had 3 babies and went thru the same stuff, but u just taking away from your own happiness and joy and if u open your eyes and REALLY look around u will see even more happy pregnant women!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Congratulations, may motherhoos be all you want it to be. it is the greatest job u will ever have

Answer 2

To answer your question: in my opinion, it's fine to tell your family at Christmas, but I wouldn't make more general announcements until later on.

Statistically, chances are that you will NOT miscarry, but you already know there is a risk of it, and most miscarriages do happen in the first trimester. If you tell your families now, you'll get to share your joy and excitement (which clearly you want to do, so it sounds like you have a good relationship with your families), which is wonderful. It also means that, IF you were to miscarry, you'll be able to turn to your family for love and support -- which is invaluable. I wouldn't make pregnancy announcements now for a couple of reasons: for one thing, once the word gets out, it's all relatively public -- take some time for you and your husband (with your families, of course) to relish the news, there's time to share it later; for another thing, IF you were to miscarry, it's just more awkward when lots of people knew you were pregnant.

Please don't worry about miscarriage -- as I said, chances are you will go on to have a healthy baby!! Yes, it's a risk, but don't miss out on the joys of learning you're pregnant because of it!

Congratulations, and best of luck!

Answer 3

We didn't wait to tell with our second pregnancy and I was seven weeks pregnant at the time. Two weeks later, we had a miscarriage. It was really great to have the support of our families through the loss of the child.

Even though about 1/3 of pregnancies end in miscarriage, the majority still make it to term. If you want to tell your families, do! Let them share in your joy over this new life. If all goes well, as it does for most women, your families will really be rejoicing with you when they get to hold that new little life in their arms this coming summer! My prayers are with you.

Answer 4

Im also in the early stages of pregnancy and its also my first. I to have been reading on the net and have been given myself worring pregnancy thoughts, which is probably more harm than good. I was reluctant to tell my family, but i have told just my close family. I wanted them to share my joy an happness, plus if things do go badly (worst case)they can be suportive. I wish you all the happiness and i still cant believe i am.(what a christmas present hey)

Answer 5

I didn't wait to tell my family about my first pregnancy and I just found out Saturday that I am pregnant and I have already told some of my family. Tell them at Christmas...that's what I am planning on doing. I think that is a lovely Christmas present! If you are excited then share your joy! Congratulations to you!

Answer 6

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Answer 7

I tell everyone especially if its their 1st pregnancy they should wait till the 1st trimester is over that way if something bad happens you don't have to alert the media that you miscarried 'cos its the worst when someone says... So hows your pregnancy going? When you've lost the baby... I'm not trying to be a debbie downer but it happens.

Ditto Holly

Answer 8

It all depends on you. Some people would like their family to know if they had a miscarriage for support and help to get over it.
Some people are more private and would like to deal with it on their own with their spouse.
Depends on how private of a person you are.
I was so excited I had to tell and if something God forbid were to happen, well my family would be right along side me feeling the pain I feel.

Answer 9

i was 6 weeks pregnant and i told EVERYONE lol. Im now 13 weeks and 2 days and everything is perfectly fine....Tell them whenever you want. Put it this way....dont hide something you guys are happy about. and if your family will be happy tell them asap, if a miscarriage does happen think of all the support you and your hubby will have. Do whatever you and your hubby want to do and congrats!!!!!GOODLUCK :)

Answer 10

i didn't wait till 12 weeks, i told everyone right away. But some prefer to wait cause of the threat of misscarriage. It really is up to you, but if you loose the baby everyone will be all ovr you, and people can say some pretty dumb stuff when things like that happen.....sorry i can't tell you what to do.