She has wanted to bring another girl into the bedroom for just her, or possibly us both. As a normal guy my insticts are to go for it, but i really love this girl and don't want to mess it up with drama, i wanted to wait until our relationship was stronger. She says im "not letting her be bi". I am not stopping her from being bi. I just dont want her to have sex with someone else. period. It doesn't matter if it were another girl or a guy. Im not asking anything that a normal guy would ask. "have sex with me and me only" Am i missing something. I have no problem with her checking out other chicks while were out and about, as long as its just looking. Help Me!
2006-12-18 03:35:53 · 13 answers · asked by kdooie 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm bi and I am EXCLUSIVE when I am with someone. That right there, what your gf said about "not letting her be herself" is the reason why I always get so much crap for being bisexual. Bisexuality has nothing to do with having sex with multiple people at a time; it's plainly being atracted to both sexes. You are not holding her back from ANYTHING at all aside from being promiscuous.
Your gf is honestly just trying to make you feel bad because she wants to have her cake and eat it too. I'm sorry dude but it's not fair to you to have to put up with someone who's like that. If she doesn't want to be faithful she shouldn't be in a relationship.
Show her what I wrote right her because I want her to look at you and answer this question... "Why are you using your sexual orientation as an excuse to cheat on a guy that obviously cares about you? You are a horrible person for trying to take advantage of someone like that and you should really be ashamed of yourself as a person and a partner."
2006-12-18 03:58:48 · answer #1 · answered by IceyFlame 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my hubby, now 10 years, and I am bi. I also feel that the ultimate goal in my life (well, sexual-based) would be to have my hubby and a girl in bed together. But, I'd never in my life do anything to hurt my hubby. He knows this too. We've discussed this same subject many times, but we haven't ever advanced on it. He also feels that I should not sleep with anyone else, so I don't. Yes, it is a bit of a bummer on my bi side, but I can handle it most of the time...
Well, if she wants to be bi, let her be bi. She doesn't have to sleep with girls (or another guy for that matter) in order to be bi. Take her to a strip club, and buy her a lapdance. Make sure you get to watch so you can see her reaction to it. It may make or break your decision to invite another girl into your bedroom. It could make you more attracted to the idea, or it may make you discusted at the thought. You really won't know til you're faced with the problem.
Good luck, and I hope all goes well!!!
;o)
2006-12-18 07:08:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her "I am not stopping her from being bi. I just dont want her to have sex with someone else. period. It doesn't matter if it were another girl or a guy". and "i really love this girl"
let her know that you love her, and hate to see her having sex with someone else. Tell her that you don't have a problem with her sexual preference, and that you are just trying to be her man.
2006-12-18 03:41:32 · answer #3 · answered by ipodlady231 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude get a new GF. Sooner or later she is going to cheat on you with a girl. If you're not down with sharing your woman with other broads find a straight chick
2006-12-18 04:44:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I have to say is that LceyFlame Is totally right! That should be your top answer right there! If you take what she is saying to heart you will be OK! Good luck man! You will find a girl that wants what you want you just have to free yourself from her if she is not willing to be with only you! Oh and that is not to much to ask!
2006-12-18 04:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants you to let her cheat. If you can't handle an open relationship (swinging), then you must leave her. Find a girl who wants to be monogamous.
Being BI is NOT an excuse to cheat.
2006-12-18 03:49:11 · answer #6 · answered by girl with a gun 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude I hear ya here. You're not not letting her be bi (grammar lol) what you're doing is your not letting her cheat on you. It doesn't matter if it's a man or a woman, she shouldn't be going off and doing things behind your back.
2006-12-18 03:55:41 · answer #7 · answered by skweekey01 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I AM THE GF AND WHEN I SAID HE WASNT LETTING ME BE MYSELF I DIDNT FULLY MEAN IN THE BI SENSE. WE BOTH HAVE TALKED ABOUT HAVING OTHER WOMEN IN THE BEDROOM AND HE HAS KNOWN ABOUT ME BEING BI FROM THE BEGINNING. I WILL SAY THIS IS ALL MY FAULT, BUT I UNLIKE ALL U WHO HAVE BASHED ME WOULD NEVER CHEAT I LOVE THIS MAN WITH ALL MY HEART AND ALL HE WOULD HAVE TO SAY IS "NO I DONT WANT YOU TO SLEEP WITH ANYONE ELSE BUT ME" AND I WOULD HAVE NO PROB. ***********KDOOIE I LOVE YOU WITH ALL MY HEART SORRY FOR MAKING THIS SUCK A BIG DEAL. HOT_4WHEEL_GURL :*
2006-12-21 13:40:50 · answer #8 · answered by hotti_4x4_gurlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Evidently she doesn't understand what a "commited" relationship is. If she can't be happy with just you, then she will probably start doing what she is asking with or without your promission.
If she isn't going to grow up and actually be commited, then I suggest you find someone who will.
2006-12-18 03:49:45 · answer #9 · answered by Ritz Grimarren 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's not done playin' the field so to speak , and isn't ready to choose one or the other exclusively.That is not fair to you since you love her so much.It isn't far and you should'nt let yourself be hurt like that.
2006-12-18 03:58:41 · answer #10 · answered by andy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋