Forget about religious's sake, but what's on our your mind when get ready to stay together?
2006-12-18 03:18:04 · 12 answers · asked by Miss Train catcher 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-12-18 03:21:12 · update #1
sorry I have no religion, but living in sin that's a phrase we used to heard around.... so I'm just take it compared with Marry Together. What whatever the living in sin or without sin, now it's 21st century. Doesn't matter. just want to hear some voices...
2006-12-18 14:07:45 · update #2
Your question is kind of tricky. You use "living in sin" as a euphemism for cohabitation, and the word "sin" is definitely a religion-based term! Then you say to forget about religion. Well, if you believe it IS a sin, then you CAN'T take religion out of the equation. I would theorize that you might not be as comfortable with the idea of having sex outside the bonds of marriage as you would like to think you are.
2006-12-18 03:50:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're going to forget about religion (a good idea), then don't call it "living in sin" -- it's just living together. :)
Being married provides certain legal rights (and responsibilities). For example, if one of the couple is in an accident, and gets taken to the hospital unconscious...a legal spouse can make decisions on their care, what surgery to have, etc. A live-in partner cannot.
If one of the couple passes away without a will, a legal spouse has built-in inheritance and power of attorney rights, a live-in partner does not.
There are dozens more examples, but I think you get the point. If two people are going to try to build a life together, with all of the messy details that go along with that (legal contracts, buying a house, having children, etc.), then having the legal status of marriage makes many things easier. Although, it also makes things more complicated in many cases if the couple splits up.
I don't see any problem with sort of a "trial" period where a couple lives together to see if they're really compatible, and if they want to commit to being legally married. But in my opinion the trial period should be fairly short, and really should end before any children are born -- either fully commit legally by being married, or go your own way. Really each couple needs to decide this for themselves, but there's a good reason we have a legal status called "married" -- it's for the legal protection of the rights of both the couple and the individuals that make up that couple.
2006-12-18 11:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forgetting about religion the benefits of married are not that much. In fact I think marriage can be more harmful to relationships because so many partners thing that marriage is the finish line and not working on the relationship. How many stories have you heard about a spouse letting the appearance go after marriage or the sex stopping or this or that. I believe you can be together unmarried and still focus on a future together. So many people now a days forget that staying married is an action of choosing to stay with your spouse much like that of stayin with your boyfriend or girlfriend. I think the strong the individual the stronger the union, but marriage encourages a power struggle. You both need to be strong and intelligent to manage your separate lives and the life you share. So my vote is live together, have some shared things, but also some separate things like separate bank accts and choose to be together every day.
2006-12-18 11:44:00 · answer #3 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Married definitely. If you're only living together it seems like if it ends the woman always gets the short end of the stick i.e. an apartment she can't afford, credit cards that he helped run up and won't pay, etc. Also if anything happens to the other person that requires a hospital you have absolutely no rights when it comes to your loved one. I also like the idea of a forever kind of relationship.
2006-12-18 11:25:27 · answer #4 · answered by mjm52 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i lived in sin for 9 years now been married for 3
2006-12-18 11:20:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well other than for the religious reasons....if you are going to be together, why not make it official? if you 2 really love each other and plan on being together, get it legal because if you end up being together for a long time and if anything happen to the other, you have no say so in anything. the state and the family comes first. if you have children, why choose to have bastard children? raise them with clear and decent morals...in the sanctity of marriage. when you have exchanged vows..your union is respected more..even by each other.
2006-12-18 11:27:54 · answer #6 · answered by huneygrl1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get married. Sex was designed to be enjoyed inthe confines of a marriage relationship between a man and a woman. *climbs off soap box*
Plus the divorce rate is drastically higher for those who co-habitate than those who live apart till marriage.
2006-12-18 11:25:42 · answer #7 · answered by Chris 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Living in Sin and getting married are nothing alike. You'll have to trust me on that.
Living in sin does not have the commitment. The vows. They are more meaningful than you realize.
2006-12-18 11:27:20 · answer #8 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
living in sin 2 yrs and still going strong, will get married when the time is right.
2006-12-18 11:25:15 · answer #9 · answered by hannah and hailyn's mommy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get the papers, a nice rock, and set a date...don't believe in shackin' up. A woman's gotta enjoy living alone before joining herself at the hip and "permanently" sharing a bed.
2006-12-18 11:23:24 · answer #10 · answered by incognitas8 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋