am i supposed to by a christmas gift for the mother of my daughter?

Question

my daughters mother and I do not get along, but i was told that i should buy her a christmas gift. She is with someone else now, but i am not. I do not want to purchase something and then make it seem like I want to be with her. i could care less if i received anything from her and i feel she thinks the same.
if i am supposed to get something, what should i buy? maybe one of those baskets from bath and body works? i am clueless and maybe putting too much thought into this.

Answer 1

You do not need to buy her anything. A previous answerer had the right idea in taking your daughter shopping for her mother if she is too young to do so herself. This gift doesn't have to be anything big, but it will mean a lot more to your daughter than to her mother. Anything you can do to show your daughter that you respect her love for her mother will mean a lot to her. You don't have to get along with her mother, just respect the fact that your daughter loves her mother. Her mother will also understand your care and love for your daughter by getting your daughter a nice gift.

Getting the mother a gift will be somewhat confusing for all involved, especially your daughter. So just be kind, you don't have to go out of your way to be nice, but make sure you are not rude or mean or say anything in the presence of your daughter that is negative toward her mother. Otherwise your daughter may build resentment toward you, whether she realizes it or not, and then your relationship with her will suffer.

Answer 2

This is hilarious! If I were you I would buy a gift and put your daughters name on it! I wouldn't personally get her a gift because the two of you are no longer an item and she'll be expecting a gift every year. When you get involved with someone else, trust me they will give you the blues about why you're still buying your baby mother a gift if you're not interested in her. Don't stress it! It will be appreciated if she knows that the two of you picked something out for her! Take your daughter with you to make it extra special!

Answer 3

You are under no obligation to buy your daughter's mother a Christmas gift, especially since you don't get along and she is with another person. I can't imagine why anyone would tell you otherwise.

Answer 4

If you don't get along, I wouldn't buy her a present. However, if you're worried that she is going to get you something and don't want to be empty handed, I would suggest buying something ambiguous (a bath basket may be too personal) like a coffee or tea basket. This way if she does get you something, you're prepared, if not you have a lovely basket for yourself or to give to someone you actually like!

Answer 5

You are in no way obligated to buy your ex a present. She is the mother of your child and that is all. I have never purchased anything for my ex when we seperated. Just get the people you normaly get for and don't worry about the ex. She will get something from her new man. Thank you and GOD bless.

Answer 6

As hard as it is to do, I do it for the father of my step-daughter. I just try and look at it like it is something that will make her happy, to be able to give him a gift that she couldn't otherwise afford. Sore, I considered inserting a stick of dynamite in a few of them, but that is a different story lol

Answer 7

You should not buy her anything. If your daughter is too young to shop on her own, it would be nice if you took her shopping to by her mother something from her!!!!!!

Answer 8

might take your little one shopping to get her mom something but there would be no obligation on your part unless you wanted to give her a Christmas card.

Answer 9

if you are no longer with her...don't buy her anything. simple as that.