i am 17 yrs old and and i havent got a cent of money from my mom because my dad uses it for him. Shes been sending it since July. thats over $1200 i could have used for school clothes that i dont have. i dont even have a pair of shoes to wear or a coat because of him. im sick of it.
2006-12-18 02:55:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
my dad doesnt have a place for me to stay he told me to go live with a friend.he doesnt support me in anyway. im practically on my own . and yet hes forcing my mom to pay child support for me when he doesnt himself. i need money. im not in the best shape. i have no way to get a job.no transportation. hes more worried about his prescriptions then his daughter. i dont know what to do anymore. the only thing i do is try to finish school and get on with my life. but you need money for everything these days.
2006-12-18 09:27:42 · update #1
i know what it is for. he is using it for his own needs. none of it has gone to anything provided for me. im not complaining cus i need cds or jewelry or to goto the mall. i dont care about all that stuff.
2006-12-18 09:32:40 · update #2
is it right for my mom to be supporting her ex husband. no i dont think so.
2006-12-18 09:33:24 · update #3
First off, I agree with you. It's child support, not ex support.
Now as far as your own situation goes, you have 1 year left, I think.you can force an accounting if the situation looks fishy. Note: most of the time, the CP does not have to account for the money they receive, on the basis that most people are not accountants and the expenses can blend to a point where you're not sure what part is yours and what part is your dads (think about it, is that milk that you bought 30, 40, or 50 percent yours vs the dads). However, if you can prove that he's been using the money on himself and not you, you have a damn good chance of winning a custody change.
How do you do this? Well, say hello to Mr. Digital Camera. Photograph your clothes, your shoes (I'm assuming that you're walking around with some sort of foot protection). What does he have in the refrigerator? Has he bought any large purchases, while you're going starving? Is the house clean?
As far as fraud, I don't know about that one, check a lawyer.
2006-12-18 13:02:44 · answer #1 · answered by John F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me explain that Child Support is anything that deals with the child. It doesnt limit itself to clothing, It entails paying rent, water bills, gas for the car anything that goes along with providing support for the child. If your father is using the money in a way that doesnt deal with you directly(like drinking, gambling) then he is abusing the money. Why didnt he buy you a coat and school clothes? He is not entitled to give you anything but he must provide for you.
2006-12-18 03:05:08 · answer #2 · answered by inquisitor1125 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is certainly entitled to the money for providing your food, shelter and clothing but if he's not getting the clothing part done, I would certainly do something. You should speak to your mother about it and if you've already done this an it's not working, I would speak to the court counselor or child support agent for your account. They can point you to someone who can help you. This happens all the time. You are not alone.
2006-12-18 03:04:03 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a roof over your head and food in your stomach, electric, gas. That is what child support is for to help pay for the cost of your living everything else is extra. Don't like it you are 17 get a job, maybe help you dad out. And I'm sure you are not walking around naked and barefoot.
2006-12-18 03:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by c_schreel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Child support is not given directly to the child, but to the custodial parent. Your dad should not be wasting the money on things that don't benefit you, but like the others have said, he is allowed to use it for paying bills that help you live in a nice home. Only report him if he's wasting the money selfishly.
2006-12-18 03:28:29 · answer #5 · answered by wendy_da_goodlil_witch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ur mom or another family member ur still a minor and he can get in trouble for not giving u money to buy things like clothes. what kind of father is he? you should have said something a minute ago. u need to take him to court for it and he'll have to pay it all back reading this pissed me off cause ur dad is just plain wrong he shoul know better he's the parent how do you not have a coat??
2006-12-18 03:00:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to contact the Child Support Inforcement Agency and let them know what's up. If your mom is sending the money on her own contact her and have her send the checks in your name.
2006-12-18 03:01:03 · answer #7 · answered by Castle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually the money your mother is sending is your father's. You are his responsibility until you are 18. He has every right to spend it the way he sees fit. He is taking care of you and that's where the money is going. It's going for rent/mortgage, lights, heat, etc. It is going to you in the end. Sorry :(
2006-12-18 03:28:43 · answer #8 · answered by Andrea D. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋