I don't have any plans to have babies and have never wanted them and I am fed up with messing around with birth control. It might be easier to just get sterilised. Is that a good idea? I'm 31 & unmarried.
2006-12-18 02:49:16 · 12 answers · asked by SmartBlonde 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I know I'll probably get some negative ratings from all of the crazy feminists out there, but who cares: I met my wife when she was 33, and she has always told me that she felt the same way as you. She was single for 6 years before meeting me, and never thought she'd meet anyone or want to have kids. Now that she's met me and we got married, she said she's completely changed her mind. I'd encourage you to not give up and do something so drastic, no matter what the biased women on here say. Besides, sterilization doesn't guarantee you won't get pregnant anyway. It has roughly the same effectiveness as the pill.
2006-12-18 04:19:11 · answer #1 · answered by Randy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, there are thousands of women out there just like you (and me!) Do a search for "Child-Free" and you'll see what I mean.
Many women are just born knowing that they do not want children. Not later, not now, not eventually, not ever. I know someone who had tubal ligation performed when she was 24 and has never looked back. She is now 52 and loving life!
However, that being said, most women DO change their minds. Since you're only 31, I'd go for something more long-term for birth control. The IUD is extremely effective, long-lasting, and the most popular form of birth control overseas, yet only used by less than .5% of women as their birth control choice. The implant is also extremely effective and easy. Both are reversible.
My advice would be to go to your doctor, tell him or her your plans for eventual sterilization, and explain that you're willing to wait. If you stay with the same doctor, he or she will become very familiar with you and your ideas. Sterilization will become a much more feasible option with someone who knows your history.
Don't bother with the pill or path or ring or anything like that-- messing around with b.c. is frustrating and could make anyone want to quit.
Best of luck!!!
2006-12-18 05:05:26 · answer #2 · answered by Elizabeth S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 26 with one child and I had the procedure done this Spring. I have absolutely no regrets. I only want one child (it is hard enough raising one much less any more). My doctor's made me wait 5 years before getting it done because they just "knew I would change my mind and want more kids." Boy were they wrong. I think that it may be hard to find a doctor to perform since you do not have any children. However, if you are absolutely positive, then I say go for it. You are the only one that knows what you really want in life.
2006-12-18 02:54:47 · answer #3 · answered by jacemo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your sure then go for it, the only thing I would wonder is what if you meet someone, get married and then change your mind. I thought I was sure after my third child and my husband got a vasectomy and now, 6 years later I regret that decision, I would love another baby. Just be damn sure thats what you want, your still young and may have a change of heart. Do a lot of sould searching before you make that decision because depending on what procedure your thinking about if you change your mind you may be out of luck. Good luck with your decision.
2006-12-18 03:41:19 · answer #4 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im in the same situation as you, but I dont know how I will feel about children once im in a stable relationship. Why dont you try the implant for birth control, it lasts for 3 years and can be taken out before that if you change your mind. It keeps your options open and you dont have to worry about it for 3 years at a time
2006-12-18 02:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by Scottish Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was sterilised when my youngest son was 6 weeks ago. It was not a difficult decision and have never regretted it for one moment.
I admire your decision. Children aren't for everyone and if you have made up your mind, then go for it. Good luck.
2006-12-18 03:32:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my tubes tied after my fourth child. I have never looked back. If you are single with no children, usually a doctor will recommend that you wait. Being in your 30's might be a different story. Good luck!
2006-12-18 02:56:49 · answer #7 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a great idea. There is no reason why you need to have kids, and I think it's great that you don't wnat them. If you do change your mind though, you could always adopt. Plus, think of how much money you'll be saving on birth control.
2006-12-18 12:10:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing we ever did. I had it done and I'm the guy. Sure things can happen later on that might make you wish you hjadn't doen it but I am okay with that.
2006-12-18 05:55:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My only regret is that I did not do it 10 years earlier.
2006-12-18 05:35:46 · answer #10 · answered by cynical1963 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋